I don't like it because I can't accept my husband's hobbies.

I read it. For you, those children have no direct interest and are others.
Your husband is probably just a fan, so unless you spend too much money doing something like chasing him, but if that's not the case, it's not particularly frustrating, is it?

You're probably familiar with that yourself.

First of all, you yourself are probably very tired, both mentally and physically, and you have run out of room for your mind. Things you don't usually care about are things you worry about when you don't have room in your mind, and once you start worrying about them, you may hit eight.

Of course, please rest your mind and body first. If possible, please heal your mind and feel refreshed. Also, please increase your mental capacity.

Also, do nothing as much as possible. If you force yourself to do it, the burden on your mind will increase, so refrain as much as possible from doing it. Even so, if you try to force yourself to do something, you will fail.

Please heal your mind little by little and increase your hydration both mentally and physically. If possible, please take a refreshing vacation with your husband. Never say or do anything that imposes on each other there. The purpose is to be considerate of each other.

I sincerely pray that your heart will be healed and expanded, and that you will be able to accept various things cheerfully and generously.

Hello Saomi.

I also like idol groups, so I'm sorry that it seems like my own.
When it comes to married couples, they know everything, they have the same heart and soul; that is when I want to say ideal for a married couple, but after 20 years of living in different places, I don't think the reality is that it is impossible for many couples to get everything together.

The biggest problem is hobbies. If we live together, we will have to limit our hobbies, and we will have to seek the other person's understanding. If it were to relieve everyday stress, there are quite a few marital problems that become more and more stressful, and eventually explode. On the contrary, my husband is also safe while he is doing his hobby. If you understand your husband's hobbies and you can enjoy them, you can do it together; if you don't understand them, you can leave them alone without getting together. Conversely, you should respond with enough time for yourself without taking care of your husband. It is said that the key to marital harmony is distance without separation. When we're lovers, we're in love, so I always want to be close, but when we become a married couple, always being together takes the place of stress. So my husband's hobby time is an opportunity to do what I like, so it would be better for Saomi to do a hobby she likes too. You don't have to force yourself to understand your husband's hobbies. Let's just let them do it. If that relieves my husband's stress, it's cheap (laughs)

Let's stay healthy and enjoy searching for our own lifestyle too! Good luck! Gassho

It's frustrating to see your husband's favorite idol group.
Everyone has their own values, so it's unavoidable that there are differences in how they perceive that idol group.

Just because you're married doesn't mean you have to accept your husband's hobbies.
You can hate what you don't like.
That's because those are your values.

I believe that a married couple can only be formed by acknowledging each other.
You must accept your husband who is healed by that idol group, and your husband must also acknowledge Saomi, who is frustrated by it.

I think they got married because they both had close values and something they sympathized with...
Any number of differences of opinion will come up.
So even if you try to force yourself to fit in, you'll also be lying to yourself, and it's just stressful.

Being able to empathize with each other is the most enjoyable thing, but not all humans can empathize with each other.
When people empathize, they feel “comfortable,” but when there is a discrepancy in opinions, they feel “uncomfortable.”

Marriage is not easy.
It's exhausting trying to put a lid on my opinions.

“I can't accept that idol, but if you like it, I accept it.”
Why don't you get involved with your husband in this way?