What should I do to have a strong heart?

Hello, Kii-san.

You're obsessed with games, aren't you? What you can't stop is that you have symptoms of addiction, so you need to be prepared and treated like that. Please be aware that you are sick.

I want to stop that kind of thing, so just like cigarettes, if you have a cigarette right in front of you, it's impossible for a weak-willed person. The same goes for Kii-san. I think I'm no good, so I have to completely keep games away from my life. First, ask my husband to cooperate, swear I'll never play games again, and spread paper in my room. Also, get rid of all game consoles from your home. You can sell it, or if it's a waste, you can leave it at your parents' house where you can't take it. Delete the app on your computer, and if it's a mobile game, just use the phone and email functions without the internet. After all, when I feel like playing games, I forget my reason, so I need time to remember the feeling of “stopping” with reason.

Since it's an addiction, of course, withdrawal symptoms occur. First, it's important to complete a week. After a week, it starts to calm down. It's going to be a repetition of that. Then, the second one was cleared for 1 month, and since it's settled down, I feel safe about once if it's okay. At that time, just like smoking, you get the most pleasant feeling of pleasure, and it's a pattern where you get frustrated. It's been 3 months since I got over that. If you overcome that and put up with it for 1 year, you have escaped addiction.
If the urge to play games occurs in your head, if you move your body with all your might by making a loud voice in the futon, singing, or squatting to your heart's content, your brain has to give that command, so it makes you forget that you want to play games. In order to get rid of feelings you want in your brain, 21 days is a period of mental and physical change, just like Buddhist practice. Then, even if the brain shows the feeling that it wants to play a game, it remembers that it is impossible and gradually stops putting it out.

You have to be prepared to do it. To that end, it is necessary to change lifestyle patterns. Don't live a laid-back lifestyle. I think they play games due to the stress of raising children. Let's make it a different hobby, including relieving the stress of not being able to play games. I like hobbies that put a little bit of physical fatigue on my body. Whether it's sports, squats or flexibility exercises are fine if you're at home.

To protect your family, ah! yah! It is necessary to have the heart and physical action of deciding the game to the fullest.

Good luck! Gassho

I read it. I read that you are struggling with game charges.
You probably don't even understand the actual state of the game in your head. The game is a virtual space, so it's not real. So what you get out of your own desires is nothing but a symbol with no reality at all.
However, I imagine that I can't forget the pleasure I got as my own.
That figure reminds me of people in old period dramas where they get caught in a trap and their lives are ruined by unscrupulous traders.
In other words, it hasn't changed now or in the past. There's no change in making money by taking advantage of people's weaknesses.

Gambling addiction has been around for a long time.
I think it would be nice if you could make such a calm judgment. However, in difficult cases, it may be necessary to see a specialist.

Your desires are probably causing you to do that at the root, so even if you forcibly suppress your desires, your desires may also go in another direction.

The future is important for you and your child. Children and families exist in reality, grow, and have true fruit, abundance, and happiness. It can be tough and painful, but it will give you something far more important than clearing the game and getting treasure.

I sincerely pray that you will have a truly fulfilling and happy life with your children and family from now on.

There are people in the world who play social games and people who don't.
People who are passionate about games tend to have an image that they are weak-minded, but I wonder if that's the case? I feel doubtful.
This is because I think I can enjoy a sense of happiness in life in terms of having something I'm passionate about.

If you want to do anything, you need money and time.
For example, when it comes to mountain climbing, you just walk on the mountain, but there are equipment fees, and transportation expenses are not ridiculous.
Also, if you go to a remote mountain, it takes a reasonable amount of money and time.

However, in Kii-san's case, they spent too much money.
I have small children, and if my savings are running out, I won't be able to make ends meet.
It would be nice if we could use the money a little better, but if it's done from the beginning, there won't be any consultation, right?

Speaking of small-handed methods...
If I give all my savings to my husband and turn my cell phone into a mobile phone for the elderly, I won't be able to play games.
However, even if such a method is forced to be taken, it will eventually be restored.

Kii-san is originally the type to focus on one thing.
I think if I can focus on something else, I can distance myself from the game.

There's nothing good about lying to your own heart, and even if you put up with it, it just breaks down.
If so, find something you can focus on yourself.
When you come across something you love, like, and think you can't help it, you may be able to get a sense of happiness that you can't enjoy in games.

Habits are scary.
I hope you can imagine who you want to be (the person you don't spend money on games) and always think about what you need right now.

You don't need to have a strong heart. Let's just recognize it correctly.

Games are originally attractive because of their good cost performance. If you buy 8,000 yen software on PS4 and play for 80 hours, it's calculated as 100 yen per hour.
The main unit is expensive, but if you divide it by the total number of hours played, it's not a big deal. If you buy it for 40,000 yen and play for 800 hours, it's 50 yen per hour.
Even if you add online service fees and electricity bills to this, you can see how much it is. Can you drink a soft drink at a bar or not, how much can you play with that amount? People who socialize with a smartphone and get addicted to billing are a bit more expensive. Recently, there has been an increase in charges even for the stationary type, but it's a different dimension from social media. At least they bought a Vita or DS.

First of all, it's an argument; games where the desire for ownership is placed at the center of game design aren't interesting in the true sense of the word.
It's an analogy, but if you get rich, you can charge a lot. But now I'm afraid of losing money, and I'm starting to have the pain of wanting more and more money but having a limit. The more money you get, the more your suffering increases in proportion... you fall into that kind of loop. It's the same as that.

So it's almost out of the question about games where you only pay for gacha, but the more enthusiastic you are about even games where you complete missions to satisfy your desire for ownership, the more nervous you get. In Buddhism, it is said that the mentality of “those who don't know how to conquer me are annoying”, “those who don't know how to conquer me die”, and “I wonder if I'm holding back is worth living.” It is said that such mentality has descended into Gakido. If you overcome that, it will be fun! Don't think that. It's just that once you overcome that, the reincarnation of suffering continues endlessly revolves around. Let's recognize that. What you need isn't strength of mind. It is Buddha's wisdom.

I also have children, and I made my Minecraft debut with my 3 1/2 year old eldest son last week. Right now, all we can do is destroy it. But I'm planning to train my imagination to create eventually, teach them softly where food comes from, and eventually use it as an opportunity to learn about work and society through village revitalization.
Well, can you stretch your chest and make your child imitate that social image? Children will grow up watching their parents' backs. Let's play in a way that doesn't make kids feel ashamed to watch.