About how to control anger

Meditation, nembutsu, etc. are effective in controlling anger.
The point is, when you're focusing your mind on something, your anger calms down.
Also, like nembutsu, etc., ascetic practices that make me feel happy to be saved by the Buddha also give me a relaxed personality.
However, it's difficult to control anger right away when anger suddenly comes out, such as when you run into an upset scene while driving a car.
If you notice yourself that you're angry, most of your anger will cool down,
As soon as I thought I was angry, I put it out in words and expressions.
To be honest, there is nothing but steady training.
First, it's a good idea to take a breath before speaking.
Also, after getting angry, they hump and smile so as not to prolong their anger,
It's a good idea to meditate, do nembutsu, or just think about something else to change your mood.
If you repeat in your brain about the event that caused your anger, your anger will also repeat.
It's also a good idea to tell yourself that the more angry you get, the more angry you become.
Also, it's a good idea to develop a feeling of mercy which is the opposite of anger (think others are cute on a regular basis, actually do something for them).
Also, if you don't feel well, you'll get upset, so managing your physical condition is also important.
I also want to control my anger better.
Let's work hard together. (With steady effort.)

It's important to observe your own situation. There are words and actions, which are received by the body as sounds and senses. After that, your mind will be affected, and your thoughts will come to your mind.
So please observe that thought carefully and quietly. You can't speak out. If you leave it as it is without handling it, that thought will go away. It's no good if you try to turn it off.

I think that kind of calmness will help you get to know yourself, and you can control your emotions.

　My personality changes when I'm driving a car. I think, “I understand that too.” After all, it's close to dangerous. There are many people who are unaware of the impending danger.

What if “interrupt my desire to go! That's enough!” If there are many patterns of getting angry, it would be a good idea to add “me too.”

or “It's bothersome to everyone! that's dangerous! It disrupts the feelings of those around you!” If it's a pattern of getting angry, it may be an expression of a feeling that you want to prevent accidents before they happen. If you feel bothered, I think it's okay to stare at it, actually. Then, when they detect the “sadness” that will come up next, they have a “huh” and sad expression, and when they notice that it wasn't an accident, they feel “relieved” and relieved, and “huh” and freed from tension. I think that process probably went by itself.
As I wrote earlier, when there is an imminent danger, of course, you must protect yourself. It's wisdom for living, and I think it's something you've learned in your life up until now. Therefore, the intention of “suppressing anger itself” is not highly recommended. That's because it's like “I put up with mosquitoes even if they fly over my ear and make a feather sound.”

I'll sum it up.
① Is the “danger” you feel dangerous even if you look at it objectively? Or are you just being hypersensitive? You may be able to understand it if you ask a friend or the like to ride with you. Also, if you become good at driving, I think you will be able to drive in anticipation of others.
② When I get frustrated, I say, “I'm annoyed!” It's about noticing that. It's happening due to the body's defense response, so I think it's better to aim for an objective view rather than stopping it. Often, in dramas, “Are you frustrated today?” “That's so loud, Key!” There is a conversation like that, but if you dive in early on, it first means “I have enough time to plunge in,” and even if someone else says, “That's right, today,” you should be able to return it (relatively) calmly. It is said that “when you're dreaming, you sometimes notice, “This is a dream, so let's wake up and end it,” and I'm sure it's the same.
③ It's a forecast, but I think you'll be able to do it. This is because “I reflect on it every time,” in other words, I can sense that anger is occurring. (Sometimes, some people can't do that.)

I overcame 90% of my anger by using the following method, and now I'm doing it lightly (tantan) Tange. I used to be frustrated even though there was no wind, but I was frustrated even when there was wind, and since I realized that the true form of the wind was my own thoughts, brain information, and anger would not occur if I wasn't swayed by that information, I have had a smooth and indifferent life.
If you master this mindset, the minced meat in the dandan noodles will sink to the bottom and you won't be frustrated even if you don't scoop it up with astragalus. (Wow, do you get angry there)
Now, I'll teach you some of those methods.
Mobile phones, smartphones, and TVs also have setting functions.
Manner mode ON OFF, etc.
Now let's turn off some of your settings for the world.
That is, expectations off, excessive demands off, disciplining one's own rules and justice to an opponent is off.
These are so-called expectations, demands, and my rules, and people who have more of this have more opportunities to get angry.
Why is that?
That's because every setting in this world is set up so that it doesn't go the way I want it, roughly as a major assumption.
Other people, family, things, and events.
It seems simple, but this is just something that has been overlooked.
When people who can't overcome anger become familiar with this place, they won't have the feeling that they want things to resonate the way they want them to.
So of course anger doesn't come out.
From now on, try living with expectations off, demands off, and imposing your own rules off.
I can realize that “this world is selfless*.”
(^<^) I hope today is another great day. (._.) No, I hope today will be a day full of trouble even if things don't turn out the way I want them to (^. ^) I pray for you.

※Selflessness... the existence of anything completely unrelated to one's own wishes and thoughts. This side's view of the human self doesn't attach anything to the thing itself.