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How do you quickly give up on things you shouldn't want?

 I have been helped by many sincere responses from everyone, and I feel that little by little, I am now able to understand and practice ways to eliminate emotional suffering. I really appreciate it.

I'm sorry that I'm being too spoiled by everyone's kindness, but I'd like to talk to you again.

Even when you know you shouldn't want it, there are times when you just want it. This is what is called “begging for something you don't have.” What you can get with effort is different. However, even if you want to get your hands out of your throat, I think there are things you have to give up.

Every time I envy others who have obtained it, I admonish myself, saying “I had no connection” or “it's inappropriate for me,” but I'm also in trouble because I'm a very greedy person...

How should I focus my mind in order to let go of my obsession with what I want and give up properly?

4 Zen Responses

Learn from yourself that you don't want right now

There is something called Hachidaigakaku in the teachings of Buddha and Dogen's wills.

Treating petty greed the way it is (because it is originally a form where one's own selfishness and personal opinions are not shared)
Be content and treat it as it is (because what was originally enough now and there are no excesses or deficiencies)
Treating silence as it is (because originally it is a quiet person that has nothing to do with human opinions)
Being diligent and diligent and treating it the way it is (it seems that nothing is mixed up without being messy with the original essence)
Don't forget, treat it the way it is (because the selfless figure where sincerity was protected originally is everyone's true form)
Meditation: Treating it as it is (I can't put my own opinion in it because my mind is determined about that)
Wisdom: Treating it the way it is (leaving knowledge theory and living in facts, so away from suffering)
Treating nonsense as it is (just living in fact because you don't think this or that is superfluous)

You might think they're all the same, but that's true.
The way to climb to the top of the mountain called enlightenment is different, but there is no difference.
Once you realize it, you can just stay there.
There must have been a time now when you didn't want that either.
I take the dog's collar off and leave it alone because I think I can't keep it for myself, so I'm carried away by it.
Try living completely alone.
If you don't have the heart to be aware of others or to divert water from Gada if it's good for yourself, you won't want it.

To know enough is to see what is enough now.
I didn't need it originally.
Now, when you go back to your original self, you'll wake up to not needing that kind of thing. Where are the things you've already got and how are they being handled.
It must have existed away from this body.
Even what I've already got is a strange expression that I don't need, I don't need it, ❝ I don't need it ❞, so I don't need this mind and body anymore.
Since they have actually learned that kind of thing, old boys don't mind having anything.

There is suffering in any position

Single people have the pain of being single, and once they get married, they have the pain of marriage.
If there is a lot of work, there is the pain of being busy, and there is the pain of not having a job.
If the social position is high, there is high suffering; if it is low, there is low suffering.
Even if the aunts are on a group trip and come back after eating specialties from their destination,
The souvenir stories they talk about are “it wasn't very tasty,” “that's why this price is expensive,” and “it was tough, after all, the house calms down the most.”
Most of them talk about suffering, etc.
You're an obatarian (dead language) before you go on a trip.
When I went there, I experienced the pain of going there and came back.
So, if you can go, you should go, but if you can't go, there's not much of a problem.
Please tell yourself... and suffer in agony but cheerfully.
My cheers are “(suffer) a lot! But I love you!” That's it.

Namu Amida Buddha - Leave it to Buddha

My name is Kameyama Junshi. Unfortunately, there's no way for me to get rid of my empty begging heart. What I can tell Hokutosei is the following.

“Muryojukyo” says, “If you have a field, you will be disappointed in the rice field; if you have a house, you will be sad at home.” “If I don't have rice paddies, I want to be sad and have rice paddies again. If I don't have a home, I'm depressed and want to be home again.” It has been explained. I think this is exactly the phrase that guesses the current state of Mr. Hokudosei, but what is explained in the sutras is not limited to Mr. Hokutosei, it means that we are all like that. Also, for better or worse, the perception that “everyone is like that” is a good thing for mental stability. Furthermore, when I try to improve my current self even a little, if someone else (Buddha in this case) says, “Everyone is like that,” they say, “It's not just me. Let's try our best.” It makes me feel like that. But then, even if we do it (try to suppress our desires), it may actually be slightly better than before, but not everything will work out. There is even a saying that there has been no change at all.

So what I recommend is the nembutsu of “Namu Amida Buddha.” “Namu Amida Buddha” is a call from the Buddha. Speaking of what they are calling for, “entrust your life to me (= Amida Buddha).” I'm calling for it. By praising yourself as “Namu Amida Buddha,” your life will be your life and a life where you walk with the Buddha.

I don't try to do anything on my own. There is always support from the Buddha. If you live such a life, you will not fundamentally deny your way of life, even if greed arises more than necessary (even if a feeling of begging for nothing arises).

That's all, I hope I can help you even a little bit.

What I want is the result of human evolution

I've also read the previous questions, but what I felt was “maybe a little too much facing myself.”

No, that's pretty great, but there are two factors for things: internal factors and external factors. For example, light information is flying in from the outside, and your own eyes catch it, process it with your brain, and “see with your eyes,” but light information is an external factor, and the eye and brain are internal factors.
When this internal and external balance is lost in the mind, the stance of “seeing correctly” is lost, and it is one of the causes of suffering.

At that time, apparently, in the case of Hokudosei, there are many statements about internal factors that are inappropriate “to me,” and I feel that the balance is out of balance.

The Buddha made his disciple who couldn't stop feeling for the opposite sex like this. “OK, humans peel one by one like the skin of a Chinese cabbage, and what is in the middle at the end is the character for luck in the large intestine. That is the root of human beings. If you also stick with a woman you love and can't stop, it's a sign of luck. If you think so, your feelings for women will also change, right?”
Why don't you think about the external factors of what you want with this kind of feeling? It's a training where you think “that's not that good” rather than “it's inappropriate for me.”

Of course, that idea went too far, and I was envious and said, “That person has such stupid things. If you end up feeling like “poop,” it causes suffering, but as a matter of degree, you can think “that's not such a good thing.”

Also, in Buddhism, the primary desire to “want ○○” is not regarded as affliction (cause of suffering). This is really widely misunderstood, but it's wrong. The secondary desire to “want more” is distressing. In the official Buddhist language, it is called “thirst love.”
That's why it's also important to forgive yourself for thinking “I want it.” Primary desire is the result of human evolution, so even if you try to stop it, it won't stop. On the other hand, not being able to stop makes it harder.

If you acknowledge that but leave it alone as you want without chasing it, it will disappear someday. It's not easy to say, though. It's not easy, but if you keep having that kind of mindset, you'll get a jittery effect like muscle training.