You have such a generous budget... I'm envious of that.
My place, on the other hand, is to reduce the amount of food you eat, tighten up quickly, and after that, go somewhere else, rest quickly, and do whatever you like. The reason is similar, but since the people above understood it, it was made with the sound of a crane. Companions are not allowed.
The world of monks is probably one of the worlds with the strictest hierarchical relationships in Japan. However, even in the same denomination, the temperature difference is quite severe depending on the region, so the area around Namu-sama may be a particularly troublesome... Cohen, strict place.
Just recently, I attended a cross-sectarian memorial service, and a person sitting in the waiting room was glancing at me. Is it unusual to look like a different denomination? When I thought about it, that person stood unexpectedly, asked the old monk next to me to say hello, and went home while staring at me. That too twice. Oh, I understand that it means I'm younger, so come say hello, or that I'm from a place with that kind of custom... but that could actually cause trouble in such groups. So rather than jerking around, it would still not hurt to be slapped in the back by someone you like... just an imagination, but if you think so, I also feel like that's one way of thinking.
A monk's best friend is a monk, but on the other hand, unfortunately, a monk's greatest natural enemy is also a monk. Even the Buddha's primitive cult was the same. Among them, the Buddha explained, “Don't worry about other people's faults, just settle down for yourself” (unexplained). This does not mean that you should overlook your mistakes; it means “disliking other people's faults will eventually become your own pain.” In this world where everyone is suffering, the Buddha's Buddhism is to not run away from suffering at all, and to be prepared to live hard even in the midst of all suffering.
