My mother steals my money without my permission.

Hello Erika.

Anyway, are you glad you've found your way? I'm sorry for saying such an outrage.
Is the solution to the first two of the three reasons... putting in even a small amount of money? Maybe the answer to the last reason is that they want you to bite me. Even if they're in the same room, they get a live reply, and after eating, they just go back to the room quickly... if this were the case, the current state... might not be unimaginable.
A combination of Erika's family image and everyone's family image. And I hope it will become a good family image!

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You're having trouble with your mother, aren't you?
As a countermeasure, “put your wallet or stamp outside (safe deposit boxes, cheap ones cost about 2000 yen a month?)” “Leave your mom outside (let them go to part time) /put yourself outside (leave the house)” “Take stealing for granted, and have them return it (manage your money properly, and check how much has been stolen. “*** It was yen, right, I'll take it”)”.

I didn't think there was a way to persuade them or anything like that.
The reason is that both Erika and Erika's mother hold each other's hands. That's because they seemed to be spoiled.

“I don't want to fight about money myself,
I don't want to feel bad about each other
I managed to successfully persuade my mother to do bad things
I want to get along well. ”
I understand the last 2 lines. The feeling that parents and children want to get along well is natural, isn't it?
However, the first 2 lines are impossible. I don't like it; fighting is inevitable in the future.

If it's about spoiling each other, you'll be able to “do bad things but get along well.” It's not a fundamental solution, though. It seems like they won't be able to cry or persuade them.
There may be other causes other than “indulgence,” are there any verses you can think of? For now, let's completely separate the money and mother's work before we find them.

Erika

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

The content is slightly different from that of this consultation, but I have answered the question below by listing “My Parent's Love Story.”

Question “I'm taking care of my parents in a situation where I have no choice but to separate from my husband”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/125

Question “How to deal with my real mother”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/146

Although the false sutra theory of the founding of China is dominant in the “Parental Grace Song,” it contains good content to encourage the practice of Buddhism in order to reward that kindness by listing ten items of kindness from parents.

http://ja.wikipedia.org/wiki/仏説父母恩重難報経

Quotations from the section “Reward the Seekers”...

“If parents are stubborn, don't try to respect the Three Treasures, hurt people without compassion, do injustices and steal things, have no sense of decency and are lustful, mock people without trust, and indulge in alcohol by making them intellectually difficult, then children should be just harshly reprimanded and made to be prepared for such behavior.” Yes, there it is. This is important even if you are not a seeker.

It is a bad act against a mother to commit stealing, even if it is between relatives, so I know that it is necessary to discourage them in order not to cause them to do any more bad acts and not cause them to accumulate bad karma.

If this eventually leads to theft of money or goods from other people, it will become even more difficult, so I think it is necessary to strongly apologize after consulting with everyone in the family as much as possible.

Also, it will be necessary to find out the cause of why they steal. If you are in trouble with money, try to make up for it with clear balance accounting with the cooperation of your family. If there is a high possibility that the cause is a mental illness, it may be necessary to consult with related institutions along with the cooperation of the family (reduction of stress/dissatisfaction, etc.), and in some cases go to psychosomatic medicine.

Anyway, stealing is a crime and misconduct, so I think it would be good for Erika to aim for a solution after investigating what the cause is along with being careful not to let her mother steal it.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

It's about my mother... Was that a long time ago? They're parents and children, so I'm sure they'll be spoiled too. It's hard to understand that parents silently steal their daughter's belongings and money.

What did your mother spend that money on?
Have you talked to your father? Does that mean for a living?
Even so, it's a problem to be taken in silence.

If people don't understand it even if I say it, isn't it going to continue from now on? I think so.
Even if you hide it, it will be a repetition of secretly searching for it, and I think it would be better for you to be able to go outside and separate your life.

I feel like I can't make ends meet, and I'm spoiled by my children's money, and I feel like the only thing I can do is change the current environment.

　Erika. Hello. Making decisions quickly is a good thing. I won't stop. However, I'm concerned about “My mother isn't working right now and she's a full-time housewife.” Being a stay-at-home mom is a job. I think it's the biggest service industry at work. A long time ago, there was a person who calculated what is called the annual income of a full-time housewife, and it seems to be about 5 million. It is a calculation method that adds up starting salaries for cleaning, cooking, cleaning, etc., but originally, everything that you have income if you get a job is done by volunteering. After being such a full-time housewife, my daughter became independent, and when I thought I was finally freed from raising children, I realized that I didn't have the money to have time for myself. Didn't you borrow the money you wanted for your own time from your daughter?
In the future, even if Erika starts living alone, there is a possibility that her mother will be mentally cornered and fall into a mental illness. It would be nice if Dad was someone who can follow that up well, but there are probably places where men are insensitive, so let's cooperate with Erika.
One way is for your mother to work part-time and earn your own money. There are plenty of part-time jobs for women, even when they get older. There are so many mature women in nursing homes.

To Erika

I'm going to answer that it probably makes sense
Just when I thought about it, I received a thank-you note earlier.
I'm very sorry.

It's because any kind of parent is in a relationship.
I hope you can feel the meaning of that and move on. Gassho