I can't give birth to children due to an intractable illness, but every time a child is born to a friend or relative, it's painful.
My cousin has been estranged until now, but when we get married or have children, they come to my parents' house to get money and stuff.
That is frustrating and sad.
My husband and I haven't had children for 6 years since we got married, and we finally had them in our 7th year. Meanwhile, my wife was always sad because she was “overtaken” by her friends and relatives who later got married. Also, I was suffering quite a bit because heartless words were thrown at me. Me too, but men and women had different senses, and it was much harder than me.
Sorry, I'm trying to write more, but my PC has gone wrong and it's hard to type. It's heartbreaking, but see below. Sorry for not being able to write properly.
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/1850
Of course, each person has their own life, and there is no right or wrong with that life. Compared to others, this life is good, and I'm just suffering because I don't like this kind of life without permission.
Certainly, people who want children, and who have children suffer from each other by putting their values, such as wanting boys, wanting girls, and not having children, as if they were true.
Since ancient times, Japanese people feel pressured by those around them when they get married, and I think it's a bad habit to be a child. They are bad because they are imposing their own wrong values and the wrong values of the world. Please be aware that even if many people say yes, there are things that are out of touch with the truth.
Children are not something you have to give birth to, and you should be able to live a satisfying life even if you don't have children.
If you really want children, you can adopt them, so why don't you live a way of life without being swayed by the wrong values around you?
Also, I want you to be aware that you are creating your own suffering. As for your cousin, your cousin isn't hurting you; your cousin just comes to your parents' house. You are creating jealousy and suffering by watching it. Comparing people without children causes suffering. You have your own life, so please live your own life and practice instead of interfering with other people's lives.
When humans are miserable, our feelings turn to us.
I blame my inner self for being boring.
They bully themselves.
By negatively evaluating yourself, you seek understanding from someone.
As a result, I paint low praise ink on myself, so I turn black.
The person who should truly love oneself should be oneself, yet life, which is the main body that has been ruined by the Lord, is in tune with it.
It really makes me despicable.
The result is you now.
You should want to be happy. If so, let go of the victim mentality. Be humble and don't blame yourself. Low ratings make you suffer more and more with that energy of underestimating.
I don't think people think I'm hurting myself the most, but this is exactly true. Your thoughts have become poison gas within you.
Please try not to say that at all starting today.
If there are no bad things to say, no bad energy will be generated in the heart.
This is a matter of course.
That's why it always has the effect of not suffering if you do it (if you say or don't think about that kind of thing).