I want you to teach me how to train my mind and Buddhist tips.

I saw the monks' answers on hasunoha, and I realized that I hadn't trained my mind until now.
There are a lot of heavy things in life, and I think I've been treated as someone I can rely on no matter what, and I've been mentally trained myself. (I grew up watching a hysterical mother whose mood often exploded, and I lived my life thinking that I definitely didn't want to be the only woman like that), I couldn't control my emotions in front of others other than in front of family fights or lovers I had a deep relationship with, and it's almost impossible to say that I caused trouble at all by showing ups and downs and waves.
On the other hand, when I am alone, my heart waves are so messy, and I realized after becoming a member of society that I am an unstable person by alternating and repeating times when I am full of action and ambition and times when I think I want to die is useless. This is because they were originally artist-oriented, and art has not exploded, but I think it is also due to the fact that they took such waves and catastrophic thoughts as individuality, and affirmed that strange things were unique and good.
As a result of these, I suddenly realized that while controlling the emotions that come to the surface in an extremely firm manner in front of others so that relationships turn in the direction that is just right for me, I have never been able to manage my own mind properly and keep calm at all.
In particular, I am aware that they are people with an ultimately strong sense of jealousy and desire for exclusivity when it comes to love. (It wasn't a cute level where I was annoyed when I tried to restrain my boyfriend, and I realized that I had skillfully controlled my boyfriend's mind, made him dependent on myself, and never let him be swayed.)
Fundamentally, there is instability due to poor family relationships and things not going well, and recently there is impatience with myself for not being able to do so even though I wanted to quickly find a partner I can trust and get married.
Now, even if I try to train my mind, the only thing that comes to mind is doing zazen meditation and becoming nothing, but I don't think that will go well when actually confronting people, especially when confronting families or men who are the object of romantic jealousy. Along with the training I can do every day, I would be very happy if you could give me some advice on how to confront people.

4 Zen Responses

There are no people who have a strong heart

Fujibana is a wonderful woman, isn't she?

I have a weak heart, and there are times when I complain and complain no matter what.

Whether you worship, watch, chant nembutsu, or recite sutras, you won't have a strong heart.

How can you become nothing.

At such times, I try to stop.

I'll stop and close my eyes.

Think you've been scammed, and try it once.

Stop and let go...

Letting go is actually the root of Buddhism...

If I were to say tips

Try stopping and training.

Try training to let go

You'll be able to see a lot of things.

I can't train myself. It's not going to be anything

Becoming nothing... becoming nothing... is a phrase I often hear, but it is one of the most misunderstood words in Buddhism.
Nothing is to break down the fence that this is me and that is him, and get through to everything. Nothing is everything.
That's why training to raise your mental level is abekobe. If you do that kind of thing, the barriers will get higher and your assertiveness will grow. The greater your assertiveness, the more suffering you have, and the darker it becomes.

That's not it. That's not it, for example, a bell ringing... if you hear it, just hear it. I don't evaluate this as a good sound or using a cheap bell. It's just Gone. that's all.
Even so, even when I just thought about various things, I thought, “This is no good!” You don't have to think plus 1. I don't feel like it, I don't feel like it.

It's not about training your mind; you don't touch it. Yeah, there was no expression that Kunigenshi wouldn't touch it, but this is a good expression. Until now, I've said I'll let go, but from now on, let me say I won't touch it either. I don't touch my consciousness.

It's easy to do that kind of thing when you correct your posture and stay still in a quiet place with few things. Try to have that kind of mind, and then go about your daily life with that kind of heart.
Don't become a person who can't think, but when your thoughts start walking alone, notice “no more, no more hands,” and try to adjust “no more, no more hands, no more hands” each time.

Also, this is the kind of person I am! Here's why! Let's not define it as. My past self is not who I am now. Everything is impermanent. We can be saved because our actions are impermanent.

Please run into yourself

I read it.
It's probably about accepting yourself just the way you are.
My heart is always going up and down in rough seas. That's because I'm the one who is happy, sad, worried, suffering, regretting, and angry about even the smallest things.

I think it's about accepting such a foolish trivial self.

If you do that, you will also have a peaceful and peaceful self.

I'm also thankful to be able to smile at myself like that.

Please meet such a cute self, too.

Namu Amida Buddha

Gassho

“Everything is lucky and empty”

Fujibana

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

In Buddhism, “everything is lucky and empty,” and if it is an object or thing that exists, they always occur (auspicious) in connection with others, and it is regarded as something (sky) that exists independently by itself and does not exist as an entity (sky).

Of course, what we call a “heart” is true.

Simply put, what happens due to other relationships means, for example, that it is made up of various causal relationships (causes and conditions).

Depending on the cause and effect, the results will also hold true.

There are many possible causal relationships, but good causal relationships that you can adjust yourself can also have good results by making an effort to adjust as much as possible.

Confronting people is also a part of the relationship. As an once-in-a-lifetime meeting, I want to sincerely face the other person (and whatever the other person may be) with care.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

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