casket taker

As a priest of the Jodo sect, I am also present at the coffin as a general rule. Therefore, I have been present at the funeral of hundreds of people, and when there are no casket attendants (there are many of them), I help the bereaved families prepare for departure, and I am watching the work of the casket attendants up close. I think it's probably one of those who know Hasunoha monks. I think the reason why the work of a coffin taker became generally known was probably an influence of the movie “Okuribito.” Have you watched the movie? Also, have you read the original “Diary of a Coffin Husband” by Shinmon Aoki? If you read “The Diary of a Coffin Husband,” I think you'll understand what your father wanted to say. Sadly, work involving the death of people is precious, but it is also true that false prejudice is deep-rooted. Speaking of me, I intend to understand a little bit about the preciousness of that work and the feelings put into that skill. And I think it was wonderful to be moved by being present at my grandfather's coffin. However, I am aware of that, as a real job, you will be touching the bodies of people you don't know at all, and you will be able to see and touch all of them, such as bodies that are not necessarily in a clean state like your grandfather and are burnt by fire, bodies that have begun to decay and have a strange smell in the air, bodies with only blood due to traffic accidents, etc. is that good? Also, there is prejudice in the world. Don't get me wrong, I was also present and touched. That's why I appreciate the bereaved family's gratitude for the fact that the casket keeper kept the bodies of their precious family members clean and tidy. But again, my current job is also precious. There's no such thing as a job that isn't valuable. If you're longing for the casket taker and haven't seen it yet, I think it's a good idea to go through “Okuribito” and “The Coffin Husband's Diary” before proceeding. Finally, being a casket keeper is a really unsuspecting, unremarkable job that is hard to get in the sun, but it's a really precious job that those who know can understand.

Nice to meet you, my name is Shima Daisei
I will answer Cotton Candy's questions

Two thoughts that Cotton Ame is in conflict with,
① Future dreams of “being useful to the deceased, bereaved families, and the Buddha as a coffin taker”
② How will I respond to my father's opinions and expectations as a daughter

It might be a good idea to think about these two separately.

In a Jewish proverb
“If you're not living your life for yourself,
There is a saying, “Who on earth will live for me?”

Of the ① and ② listed above, ① is Cotton Candy's own assignment.
However, ② is not an issue that Cotton Candy should tackle.

What does ② think about her daughter's way of life, how will she come to terms with it,
In that sense, it's an issue that father should tackle.

Having sorted it out up to this point, I thought ① should be prioritized over ②.

We don't live to meet the expectations of others.
You should meet the expectations of others as a by-product while facing the issues you should tackle yourself.

... I don't know if it's advice or a sermon,
This is just my own thought

Please listen to the opinions of other monks.

　We monks are also involved in more than a few things during the funeral process.

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This is the first time the casket keeper who cleaned up my grandfather
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I sincerely pray for your grandfather's peace of mind. The fact that I had this kind of impression means I was able to say goodbye to my grandfather with all my heart. In the midst of this trend, I was impressed by the work of a casket attendant. We will carefully and solemnly replace your loved ones and the bodies of your loved ones. I think it's a precious job.

However, I'm a little worried about whether I can get a job and continue as a job just because of the excitement and excitement at this time. In fact, in the circumstances of death, the circumstances of the body also vary. Detailed examples have already been shown in Yushi Hase's answer, so the question is whether or not you are prepared to just work after being aware of these points.

If you search the internet to some extent, I think you can understand the employment situation of the casket workers.
What is the actual job of a casket attendant
1. Do casket work as an employee at a funeral home.
2. Work in the form of subcontracting a funeral home or dispatching personnel to a funeral home.

Like a funeral home, they work 24 hours a day, and you probably have to be prepared for an irregular lifestyle. Also, since it is a job where people face death only once in a lifetime, they must always approach work with a sense of tension and responsibility. With that much determination, I think Cotton Candy is thinking about working as a casket keeper. Just to be sure, check it again.

The factors that make work worth working and worth living for are important. However, in order to live your future life with your partner (future partner), you also need a life plan. Going to work on time every day and coming home on time will be difficult, and holidays will also be irregular. If you were to get a job at a company that is a coffin taker, I think it is necessary to consider how to actually do coffin delivery, actual salary, how to take childcare leave before and after delivery, transportation to a nursery school, and sharing the burden of housework. Actually, I think it would be better to hear the details from someone who works as a casket taker.