What should you do when they say you can't go out with them right now

Around December of last year, I met someone through my sister's introduction, and that person is a 27-year-old contract employee, about 3 years younger than me.

After we met a few times, I fell in love with him, but to be honest, I felt that the other person wasn't really interested in me.
But I couldn't give up, lost weight, and couldn't sleep at night. It was the first time since I was 30 that I fell in love with someone this much.
I confessed directly and verbally, because I was worried and thought, “I can't stay this way, let's clear up my feelings and go next.”
Then, the answer was “I want you to think about it for a moment.”

Then, a week later, I received an oral reply, and the answer was

“I'm a contract employee right now, I don't have a proper job, my hands are full, and I can't get along right now.”
“But until now, I never thought I liked myself. Rather, I thought they were only seen by friends. When I was confessed, I became aware of the opposite.”
“First of all, I feel like we haven't been able to communicate with each other yet.”
“Still, as before, I want to meet, and I don't want to be able to meet again.”
“For now, why don't you start with your friends?”

That was the answer.
I thought I'd be dumped once and for all, so this answer was unexpected.
Certainly, I also thought they weren't able to clear their minds. I also feel like I was simply deciding and walking alone. Maybe I'm impatient at age 30.

My sister said, “Isn't that a hopeful reply? Why don't you wait?” As I said, I'm worried about whether it's okay to think so positively.
I really didn't know what to do.

I would appreciate it if you could give me any comments.

4 Zen Responses

Don't be impatient and take your time.

Since December of last year, we've been getting to know each other for close to 10 months.
I slowly fell in love with it.
I think that feeling is real.

I was able to do my best to gather my courage and be confessed.
I think my partner's boyfriend also made a thoughtful reply after being involved with Luca for 10 months.
It can also be seen as an ambiguous expression, but this is his honest feeling.
A sincere answer.

My opinion is the same as my older sister.
Why don't you wait now without being impatient?
Instead of thinking positively, I try to think constructively.
That's because they're “the first person I've fallen in love with.”

What should I do now?
Do it as usual.
That's an abstract answer.
However, even if you are impatient, it will only be negative, and I don't think it will ever move in a good direction.
Sometimes a detour is necessary.
If you like him.

I can't help but feel uneasy right now...
But even if you hide that feeling, it could be conveyed to him.
There is also a possibility that it will be a burden for him.

Please ask for collaborators such as your older sister.
There are also discoveries you wouldn't notice on your own due to advice from others.
Please honestly incorporate people's opinions and spend time with him slowly without being impatient.
I pray that Luca and his love will come true.

This is what I would do

If you don't have that much of a clean habit when it comes to dating men and women, why don't you go out with other men at the same time?
Whether it's in the sense of expanding possibilities, in the sense of making effective use of time, or in order to prevent “impatience.”

There's no need to protect chastity or stick around alone while “waiting” for your partner to come out. After all, romantic relationships have to be fair to each other. If he was given the freedom to “wait,” then you too can have the freedom to “choose.”

You might think it's rational or intentional, but for those involved, it's a matter of life and death, isn't it? No one other than you takes responsibility for your life, so I think this kind of stance is just right (^^)

Why don't you enjoy romance carefully while waiting?

is that so... I hope that confiding my feelings to the fullest will be a turning point.
I think he kept his words as they were. Maybe it felt really good ~ I just wanted to see you again. she's an older woman, isn't she? When people say they like it, they become aware of it, and as a man, they probably thought it would be disrespectful to you if it left an ambiguous feeling. So, honestly, I can't reply about my relationship right now, but I want to know more about you ~ but I wonder if that's the real intention (*^^*)
Maybe he's a sincere person.

The age of 30 may be impatient for women, but love between a man and a woman is not easy when it is clear in black and white. He said that, so why don't we shorten the distance while continuing our relationships with friends up until now? Come on, being in a relationship or just having a physical relationship hurts. If that's the case, why don't you enjoy romance carefully while waiting? You can't compare yourself to anyone, and it may become your precious love.

Love fulfillment mantra “Awayokuba”

I don't know how my life or love will turn.
If you have time to get lost, let him fall in the mood to die like Mothra before another woman hits him like a butterfly on a flower.
If you love it to death, I think it's better to push it while you're alive rather than die.
There is only one way to push for favor, favor, favor ♡.
Reply from the other party
“Still, as before, I want to meet, and I don't want to be able to meet again.”
“For now, why don't you start with your friends?”
Rounding off is a perfect OK sign.
There are no opponents either.
Sincere response.
Gentlemanly.
I think positive thinking is fine.
Be happy.
Even if it doesn't work, recite the mantra listed in the title and stand up like Terminator in seven turns and eight wakes up. 💀

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