Does the monk cry?

Breaking up with someone I have a relationship with sometimes brings tears to my eyes.

There are times when I accept that person's life and I burst into tears.

We'll meet again, goodbye for a while until then

In order to make the wake and funeral go smoothly, we will face each other firmly.

There are times when I'm surprised when I'm talking rather than sutras

But tears are unavoidable, aren't they?

If you're close, you'll cry, and even if you're not close, you'll have tears in your eyes. You can't overcome it. However, I'm just chanting Namu Amida Buddha and praying that I can meet my ancestors, families, and bereaved families again in the Pure Land of Paradise.

I'm close to someone Hironori knows.
When I cry, the sutras stop.
I would like to have a funeral for those I had a relationship with and those I didn't have a relationship with in the same way.
I want every Buddha I face to have the same attitude.
The only difference is that at the funeral of someone close to you, the only thing you do is say “I'll get it done” right before the funeral.

Also, what mourners look for from monks is that they want them to work without a hitch.
It's my relatives who are sad.

But as expected, my uncle's funeral, who was loved, was difficult...
The sutras seemed to stop over and over again, but I worked without a hitch with an indomitable spirit, saying, “Are you in a position to be immersed in sentimentality?”

“Monks may be sad...”
It was the first time I felt that way.

Hello.

When I became a monk, I decided to make my own two rules and follow them at the funeral.

One is “not getting used to it.”
For me, it's one of many funerals, but for the bereaved family, it's only one important ceremony for a loved one. I'm careful not to forget that kind of thing, and that it doesn't turn into a dull job.
The other is “don't cry.”
While very close people come to the funeral, there are also in-laws who attend for reasons such as “because they received incense at their parent's funeral.” Under such circumstances, if a monk cries during sutras or stories, it's probably a no-brainer. Also, this is because I think that it is not good to hear the Buddha's important teachings because your voice is clogged with your own emotions, and that you are disqualified as a monk.

At funerals, I try to calm my heart waves as much as possible and concentrate on the memorial service, but after all, I cry especially when it's like someone who took care of me.

When I almost cried during the ceremony, I remembered “I'm not going to cry” by Ranna Suzuki, and somehow held back (laughs)

It's half a joke, but so far, I've never cried during the ceremony.
My benefactor's wake, who has taken care of me since I was little, was fine.
Rather, I thought it was my job to guide this person, so it's no longer a time for me to cry.

While I was on my way home alone, I cried so much that I couldn't breathe,
I went to the funeral the next day as if nothing had happened.

Before he was a monk, he was a boy.
I don't cry in public.

Hello. This is Shima Daisei
We are here to answer your questions.

First of all, do monks shed tears too? That's the question
I personally have never shed tears at memorial services, vigils, or funerals
Even if it's a relatives' memorial service.
Also, I don't remember crying because I was sad for the past few years

Then, it's about how to overcome grief.
I'm not trying to overcome my grief.

I can't say it well, but it's about knowing “there's nothing you can do about it.”

For example, let's say I'm dissatisfied with the current state of affairs.
I watched the extremely horrible incident reports that are played on the news every day,
Let's say I said something to the effect that “current politics is bad”
So my friend
Let's say you said, “Then it would be good if you ran for election and changed politics”

(If it were Hironori, how would you respond?)

I'm sure I'll only take my friend's words as a joke.

... I'll go back to “Knowing There's Nothing You Can Do”

Speaking of what I wanted to say by telling this story,
“Apparently there are things in this world that I can't do anything with my own power.”

And once people come to terms with “this is nothing you can do about it,”
they won't try to reverse that thought

Speaking of the previous parable,
“No matter how dissatisfied you are with politics,
I know from experience that “I'm not tough enough to change my own politics,”
I don't take my friend's words seriously and run for office.

And a person's life or death is far more “irrelevant” than politics

I've been doing this job for 3 years.
I'm one of those people who often go to funerals etc. due to my occupation,
I'm thinking like this.

When I was just getting back from the training dojo, I was often asked to cry during funerals, and I actually cried a couple of times. But now I'm not crying. There are times when I get depressed, or rather, feel heavy. I grew up in a temple, so there is an “old man I've been with since I was little.” At times like that... it becomes like zooh... after all.

One year, funerals continued on New Year's Eve and New Year's Day, and it became crazy. Then what happens... they forced that zun on the people who prayed for New Year's greetings, right? I intensely reflected on that, and trained myself so that I could quickly switch between mood gears. So while we greet each other one after another, we also talk with the person just now in a sad tone, and have a conversation with the next person with a smile. It may seem like a very shallow person, but this is also called a job, because of the environment unique to temples, so please forgive me.

Going back to the story, I don't cry during the ceremony right now. No matter how much the bereaved family cries, sobs, or is in a state of anxiety, they won't cry. (I'm glad ○○-san, to have a relative who cares so much for me. This is your virtue. It's a result of your way of life.) I'll think in my heart. Maybe the only person in the funeral hall who can say that in their hearts is a monk.

I'm not a parishioner, but a temple in the town passed away last year. He was a monk who was indebted to me ever since he put on a kimono when I was ten years old. I was in charge of commenting on the memorial service at that funeral. They worked carefully, and when they finally put flowers in the coffin, and when they said goodbye, old women from the parish went around the coffin and said, “Thank you, ○○-san. Thank you so much.” I thought while watching them cry saying that. “○○-san, when I die someday, I want to die like this. Being sent like this seems to show in my eyes how closely Mr. ○○ has protected the temple with his followers. I'm going to be a monk who protects the temple along with the believers so that they can be sent like this...”

Then, I think “praising” and “apprenticeship” are also memorial services.