I have a question for a male monk who has children of his own.

It is in light of Buddhist precepts. Giving birth is determined not to fall under the precepts of immortality. It is true that childbirth is at risk, but that does not mean 100% death. I had no intention of killing. Also, there is the commandment of not being greedy (not devouring), but even in light of that, I don't think it will break the commandments because it is a marital relationship and there was mutual consent. What about your case? Was there consent between the couple? If you are not married to your partner and you have rejected the act saying “I don't want to die,” I think it can be said that the other person did not act correctly. (*That crime does not extend to children who were born)
Also, a new life is needed in society. I'm going to die someday. I want the country called Japan and the world to continue to exist, so I thought it was necessary for people to give birth to new lives and nurture them with care even if there is a certain amount of risk. Apart from that, I never wanted my partner to die because of it.

When looking at men and women, when viewed only from the viewpoint of childbirth in modern Japan, it certainly seems that only women are dangerous and unfair, but what about Japan in the latter half of the Showa 10s? The male to female ratio in the population was clearly more female. At that time, men were more at risk of death due to war than women giving birth. We must cherish our lives without discrimination based on gender.
This answer may not be satisfactory to you, but the Buddha does not recommend denying and refuting ideas that are different from your own. I relied on the monk to ask the question, so instead of refuting it, I think that by carefully grasping and accepting the monk's words, including past questions and answers, and above all, accepting your partner's feelings will bring you closer to peace of mind.

I read your profile. It's a sad birth secret, isn't it?
I am so sad that I have no words to say anything about that.

“Why did you risk the life of the woman you love and even want children?”
Because it was worth going that far, at least in my case.
In my case, right after the spectacular delivery, she smiled and asked from the top of the delivery table, “When is the next one?” I was really surprised by my wife who said that.

Giving birth is certainly a painful, painful, and pitiful scene from a man's point of view, but for many women, it is a joy, and it goes without saying that it is a privilege for women.

Buddhism teaches that a child is born by merging three things: a father's [spirit], mother's [blood], and [one's own karma].
In other words, the father's “sperm” and the mother's “egg,”
It means “the child's own will to be born.”

It is taught in elementary school sex education up to the point where sperm and egg merge to become a fertilized egg... In more specialized medicine, when the fetus grows and lung function is finally completed, a protein called surfactant is secreted. This is a sign from the baby saying “give birth soon,” and it is known that this triggered labor pain and led to delivery.

Children in the rebellious period often curse at their parents, saying “I don't remember asking them to give birth,” but in fact, it's just that they don't remember, and it's impossible for “parents to give birth without permission from them.”

It's just my personal opinion, and it's probably not the answer I want,

My husband and I have a desire to have children together
I had a child. I'm thankful that we were able to do that.
The reason, to put it simply, is because I love it. My wife, kids, no, already everything
I love life. The lives that will be born in the future
I love it and it's included. You might think it's strange...

When I saw your question, it reminded me of when I gave birth for the first time.
At the time of the Great Earthquake, we were in the third month, and if we were one step too late, my wife and baby would be in a chest of drawers
It was underlay. I overcame such things, and finally at last
A child is born! I'm happy! From the hospital in the 9th month I thought
You will be given a written pledge relating to childbirth.
There is a possibility that both mother and child will die after delivery.
Necessity of surgery, etc., and that mother and child may die as a result.
etc...
As knowledge, even though I know that giving birth is dangerous,
I was surprised when I saw the two letters “death” so clearly.

However, after looking at me like that, my wife read the pledge from place to place
He said, “Yes, hey, let's get the stamp off.”
Even though she's a woman from the latter half of the Showa era, she's pretty smart.

I think we must protect this weak woman during the earthquake and when it's time to play
I was wondering, but my wife didn't flinch from the two letters “death,” and this fact
I accepted it, and I thought I had already prepared for the birth.

I later told her how I felt. I mean I thought the pledge was scary.
But my wife said, “That's when. That's how my parents got worried
I think they were born through suffering. Thank you, thank you,” she laughed.

I am grateful for such a wife, and so are the children born in this way
It's like a mass of gratitude to me.

What I owe is to hope that they won't be happy in the future, and for that
I think I'll do my best.

There's nothing you can do about the past. Let's look back at the risks of childbirth and have regrets.
But now I'm at the point where I'm taking the next step on the road that I've stepped on.

I hope to walk the path of gratitude, and I am moving forward.

Do it for your own good. well then. We clap hands.

Unlike your case, in our case it was something we both wanted.
Also, to be honest, there wasn't much awareness about the dangers at the time. Our parents also gave birth safely, and the doctor was a veteran and seemed trustworthy.
My wife tells me from time to time that it certainly hurt when I gave birth, but more than that, I was angry and angry with you sleeping in the next room, and that I forgot about the pain.
Well, I think it's different for each person.
There are also posts by women who are grieving after having abortions and miscarriages on Hasunoha. I think it was as important to them as my own life.
Also, on the other hand, I often see parents being arrested for child abuse on the news. For them, they probably care more about themselves than their children.
If you don't like the man who gives birth to you, I don't think you should go out with someone like that, and if you meet someone that makes you want to give birth to this person's child, why not try it out?
Also, why don't you help women who are about to give birth and help them?
Is your mom healthy?
If they are well, I think it would be nice if one day I could say thank you for giving birth to them.

Wanting to have children is like deciding when to get married by calculating backwards from the desire to have a first child by the wife early on, and by about 30 years old.

As a result, I was blessed with children, and my wife is doing well.
I don't think my wife regrets having children either.

If either of the couple doesn't want to have children or if they don't want to get pregnant because their lives are in danger, I think they should do that.
In the case of my husband and wife, it just so happened that the people who wanted children got married, so they just decided to have a smooth birth.