I'm having trouble replying to friends who are too negative

To make her an adult, you need to tell the truth.
“(°-°) If you ❝ want to solve a problem ❞, I'm a friend, so I'll lend you any amount of help!
But (no `) it's always painful to watch you keep complaining and not asking for change! (T_T) If you don't look forward and take even one step, that's a very sad thing for me as a friend!” (- “” -)” ❞ and it's about singing enthusiastically to Hollywood actress Zhang Bali.
There are people who are used to seeking answers, and there are people who simply try to stay at the stage where they want to be attuned and comforted.
People who want to be comforted have no choice but to change their feelings.
Continuing to choose how to solve such problems (wow, not solving them) is of no benefit in your life.
Being comforted won't change my life.
No matter how much comfort I get, no matter how much I'm comforted, whether I drink all night, dance crazy, go to a concert, or go on a trip, it doesn't mean that my temple debt will go away at least 1 yen or 1 terabyte. If that's the case, it's more efficient to work part-time at Otera and reduce your debt by 1 yen or 1 megabyte.
That's because comfort doesn't change the facts at all.
Even if your friends think you're cold, you should admonish them when they should listen.
I recommend spending a day together on a day off.
“Let's go on a short trip” while also going around the temple, I'll just stay with you.
Maybe you're being tested too. In order to really open up your heart, you probably want to talk to someone who is really kind to you. You're probably busy with work, but really try turning it off. If you break the truth barrier, she will finally be able to talk about what you should talk about, and she may even listen to the nitty-gritty points.
“Yes, let's go to Kyoto. (JR)” (is local)

Maybe it's because I forgive my heart that I can send such an email.
I want help from you. Maybe they have that feeling.
Instead of emailing them, why don't you listen carefully when you meet them. I think there are some things that cannot be conveyed by email. Maybe we've misled each other.

It is said that they are cheerful and friendly when they meet you, so maybe they are happy to meet you. Please keep an open mind and listen to them.

There are also occasional elderly people.
For example, people who report being unwell.
As the person who was told, they don't like to worry, so they say, “Go to the hospital right away.”
Because of that, I don't want to go to the hospital easily.
However, they talk about being unwell because they are uneasy.
In other words, I want others to share and worry about my anxiety.

Frankly speaking, they're annoying and selfish, aren't they?
They don't think about the feelings of those who worry; they only dare say things that make them worry.
It's just like being a child.
They probably want to be treated kindly.
Also, what she wants is not logical advice, but emotion.
So they probably don't want to accept logical advice.

Worries The cause of her suffering is her own mental anguish (greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc.).
I would like her to scan her worries with “greed, anger, laziness, pride” in her mind, but she may not accept such advice.

Do you want a solution or are you looking for a way out?
At this stage, I feel like it's just an opening. If you look at the other questioners in Hasunoha, you can probably find someone like that. People who don't change at all no matter how much or what people around them say.
So first, I think it's a good idea to ask directly and confirm “does the person just want to listen or if they want advice?” People who are dripping down or want to drip off their emotions “want you to listen (you only need to listen),” so they even get angry when they try to give advice. Surprisingly, the person himself is unaware of what he wants.
If you're someone who “just wants you to listen,” you can cut “sorry, because I'm tired” when you get tired of listening. Or I think it's okay to say “sorry, I can't reply to emails right now” and say a short decline.
“I want advice” means knowing one's own shortcomings and the will to change something about oneself. It's also an uncool part. If you read this hasunoha, you'll notice that “Please help” is the same line, but the degree is different. So, I think it would be good if you could make decisions and respond with an intuition of “I'm about to change” rather than lines.
By having a gaze that says, “Which one is this person,” you won't get caught up in her speculations. Specific problems can only be solved concretely. If you feel like she can accept advice, etc., why don't you tell her what you've learned over the course of your life?