Things you can do for a friend who is thinking about dying

My name is Kameyama Junshi.
If the friend you're worried about isn't within easy reach and is currently in a difficult situation to meet in person, please introduce this hasunoha to that friend. Also, encourage them to ask questions about their own thoughts. If you do that, I'm sure that friend will get something.

Misaki-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Thank you very much for your concern, concern, and kindness for your friends who are obsessed with death.

Until now, we have answered the following questions about the meaning of life.

“On the meaning of life”
http://goo.gl/XGCIqG

Also, regarding matters relating to suicide, we have answered each of the following questions.

“About Suicide and Suicide”
http://goo.gl/3ZbZUr

If possible, please take a look at the answers from each monk from the links to the questions and answers. There may be many things that can be helpful when it comes to answering questions to friends.

I know that Misaki-sama may have already been burdened, but by all means, if you can listen to her by phone or email, I think that even if you just listen to her even a little bit, it will be just a little bit of healing, salvation, and distraction for herself.

Also, it is said that it's quite far away, so I can't go see them right away, but please consider meeting them in person and listening to the story if you have a chance without difficulty. If you do that, you will be able to know more about your friend's state of mind and condition, which may lead to peace of mind and a reduction in the burden for Misaki.

Also, as Kameyama-sama said, I think it would be good to be introduced to telephone consultations, monk sites (conversion mistake, it's hasunoha), consultation sites, etc., and suggest “there are places like this, but how about consulting once?”

It's really nice to find specific goals, dreams, etc., that you can be positive about... but for that, action is more important than anything else. It's fine whether it's a part-time job or a volunteer. Anyway, by getting out of the house and interacting with various people, relationships will expand, and you may be able to find something from there.

Alternatively, it's a good idea to take them on a slightly longer trip, overseas trip, etc., and go together. The freshness, emotion, and emotion of being exposed to a different culture or value may be an opportunity for something to change.

I sincerely pray for good deeds.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Ninety percent of people who commit suicide seem to be in a “depressed” state of mind when they commit suicide.
If you're “depressed,” logical persuasion won't work.
This is because if you persuade them with the right argument, they will be confronted with the other party that your thoughts are wrong, and there is a possibility that they will be extra tempted to deny yourself.
I think that's why the other party is desperately trying to protect their own ideas (self-esteem, own value) and refute them.
There are limits to Buddhist teachings, or rather, there are persuasive timings and timings that are not.
The teachings of Buddhism are mental health methods, and if you understand Buddhism on a healthy basis, it may prevent “depression” and prevent suicide even when your heart seems sick, but it can also be difficult when people who don't know Buddhism are already “depressed.”
There are times when it's too late to say “if you don't exercise enough, it's easy to get injured, so let's go jogging.”
What's important is that if you don't want your friend to die, you're going to clash with your own first-person feelings. There is a possibility that “the family is sad” will no longer resonate in the third person.
However, even if it is a lesson with the same content, it is upsetting when told by others, but there are also cases where it is easier to accept if you discover it yourself in a book or the like.
There is also a possibility that it would be better for the person himself to notice it by using Buddhist books, websites, etc. rather than being harshly told by an acquaintance.

There is a monk meeting that accepts consultations and questions about suicide (suicide) by letter.

http://www.bouzsanga.org/letters.html

Even if you just have more people to talk to, it will benefit that friend.