How to deal with children

I read your consultation.

I understand how difficult it is to take care of so many children.
I also have some experience raising children, but even when it comes to my child, things don't go quite as I would like.

When involving many people as a job, considering rationality, it may be possible to handle work efficiently if you make it manual to some extent or unify teaching methods.
However, I also used the term “children,” but everyone is a different person, isn't it?

In Buddhism, there is a way of saying counterfeiting, and even if they preach the same thing, they try to teach in a way that is suitable for that person according to that person.
There are Bodhisattvas who use kindness to preach their teachings, and there are also Myoo, who has a fearful appearance and shows a strict appearance.

Ideally speaking, it would be nice to be able to face each person's actions, each person's problems, and then solve them...
However, realistically, there is a limit to what can be done with a limited amount of time and limited personnel.
It would be better if you wanted to do this, but don't be too particular about it and wear down your mind and body.
While thinking about how to deal with children, there may be many things you can do, but please keep one thing in mind: within a range that is not too difficult for you.

Also, it is important to think about what kind of teaching method is suitable for that child, but let's also consider what kind of teaching method Mr. Oolong himself is suitable for.
There are several staff members, and they don't all have to do the same thing.
There are people who are strict, and there are also people who are kind.
The environment itself, where there are so many different people, is probably a good experience for children.

There is no such thing as the right answer when it comes to raising children.
The parents of those children, or the school teachers, must be doing it while worrying.
Wouldn't it be better to do it in Oolong's way while searching for a method that suits you?

Just as there isn't just one correct answer to how to relate to children, I don't think there's only one attitude that staff should have.

Humans are truly honest creatures.
Because it's an honest feeling, they hate it, fight, cry, and lie.
“I really want to do this” is at the root of everyone.
You must have a feeling that you want everyone to get along well.
However, the actual children at the actual scene are more horrible than adults think, and accidents and incidents are constant.
When it comes to children's fights, there are times when “adults” get in with “adult rules” even though they are children's fights.
This is because children are honest, so there are times when they are not satisfied with one-sided arbitration between adults, and they may pull back later.
It's just the children who play the leading roles.
They are just like adults, even if they are children.
What isn't fun isn't fun.
I think strange things are strange.
Please don't bring in adult rules, pretend to be a child's mind, be an impartial judge without looking at either, and even have a “guide.”
No matter how bad people are with each other, there must be a way to lead and be led.
You could say it's a place we should go back to.
Where to be led and where to return is the same for adults and children.
There are “condescending” attitudes and attitudes that “recognize dignity” even when it is an attitude of being a child.
A child is a young adult. Dignity is the same.
Please treat them in an upright position so that everyone can smile and live with peace of mind.
To be a “friend of all,” like Buddha, please treat them so that even children can listen to them honestly without imposing too many rules on adults. Gassho

Hello, Mr. Oolong.

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Absolutely, I think you're right.

At first, I thought adults were adults and children were children. However, come into contact with Buddhism and look at the way Buddha and Bodhisattvas live,

Everyone is like a child until they realize it

I found out.

Also, I think trying to respond sincerely as a single person without disrespecting them just because the other person is a child is “trying to be an adult.” “Trying to be an adult” remains the same and is synonymous with “trying to be a Buddha.”

If you dislike yourself by treating your partner as a so-called child and scolding them with words you never thought of, I think it's still a good idea to search for a sincere way to treat Oolong. This also shows children the sincere appearance of a so-called adult, and above all, it also protects Oolong's own heart.

It's okay to worry about dealing with it, and children are watching that troubled situation as it is. If you fail or regret it, you can apologize. It is also an opportunity for children to learn, “When you fail or have regrets, it's good to apologize like Mr. Oolong.”

Also, depending on Oolong's response, other adults can also change, and eventually, it can also be a valuable relationship that brings a good atmosphere to the classroom and to that school or community. There have been many adults in the past who suffer from the same problems as Mr. Oolong, there are many now, and there will be many more. So, Oolong, please work hard for yourself, for your children, and for adults.

It's a fight!