Tips for good thought

Maybe you think I'm frustrated because someone told me this?
If you have a habit of blaming someone else then, you won't be able to stay calm and you will become emotional.
It all depends on your own thoughts.

Someone said, “This idiot!” Even if you say that, that's all. It all ended when that voice was heard. It has disappeared without a trace.
There it says “this guy!” “Even though I'm younger!” I'm instantly thinking in my head, “There's no point in being told by you.”

Stop thinking “idiot!” Please stop it. That's where it all comes to an end. Your body doesn't get angry, your ears and eyes aren't mad at all. It's all just happening in your head. It's important to live that way.

It's not about trying to get rid of anger or suppressing emotions, but rather setting the settings for the partner in advance to Buddha's manner mode, like setting a smartphone or cell phone.
Be specific
I don't expect
I'm not asking
I'm telling you not to impose your own rules.
My opponent is someone who has nothing to do with me.
The fields I grew up in, my way of thinking, and my stance are different.
Everyone in the world is different from you. You can be different.
Think of it that way.
This also leads to the application of Buddha's teachings, laws, selflessness in the real world.
My opponent is also someone from a world where this ego and my rules don't apply at all, which have nothing to do with my wishes and demands.
I used to bombard a hundred yen shop, but when I have too many things, I always bump into them in small places. That's because I have a lot of stuff. Let's get rid of our belongings. When you run out of possessions, you won't have anything to bump into. Since I don't have anything, I can grab anything.
If you don't take this advice, let's say you already have something. You don't need to hire one, but please do your own inspection.

That's a bad question. I'm happy that young people are thinking about this kind of thing.
There are rare tactics where you involve your opponent with emotion and try to roll it up while you're feeling overwhelmed.
It really stimulates emotions very well. Of course, there are times when it's good to act according to your emotions (especially in private), but if that's always the case... can you imagine? I'm going to be seriously injured.
Emotions are inherently fast. For example, fear. If a ferocious animal is right in front of you, you must be alert right away. So that I can move quickly. If it's sloppy, you'll be able to eat it.
Thinking, on the other hand, is slower. I think the biggest reason (I think) is because they use words. Some kind of emotion is applied to words, compared and manipulated between words, and output. The more time and effort it takes, the slower it gets.
I think the way to capture fast emotions with slow thoughts is to put them into words after all.
“Wow, I'm getting adrenaline right now,” or “My heart is throbbing,” or “Oh, I'm crying.”
Animals, cars, and airplanes that move faster than me (?) If you're dealing with them, there's nothing better than going reflexively. It's like a sport. But if you're talking to a real human, you don't need to be that fast, right? I wonder if it's a position with feathers.

so!
Let's practice capturing emotions with words!
1) There are many words that express emotion. It's better to know more.
If you spend time “awesome” or “awful,” you won't be able to capture your emotions.
2) Increase the number of times you put your emotions into words, saying “I'm happy” and “thank you.”
It's about bringing emotions and words closer together. Positive words are easier to put into practice.

Up to this point, it's just daily practice and habit building.
Next, it's time for practical training. I don't know when it will start.

3) If you notice that your emotions are taking over you, stop for a moment.
“Sorry, I'm emotional right now, so wait until I calm down a bit” (this is also a word).
4) Take a deep breath. shut up. Ask your partner to shut up too.
Emotions must be causing tension in order to quickly control the body. Let's loosen that up.
5) Write it out.
Hand movements are even slower than words. Speak while moving your hands. If it becomes a word, write it.

I, who said it in a bossy manner, also finished once this summer. I work hard every day.