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What is the value of “women”?

I'm indebted to you.
There are times when I have doubts or suspicions about the opinions of the social minister about the value for “women.”
I'm currently single and have never had a lover, and I like being immersed in painting in private. Also, recently, the marriage and childbirth rush continues around me. What is often said in such circumstances is, “Why don't you get a boyfriend? Don't you have any desire to get married? ' That means yes.

I definitely have to get a boyfriend, especially now! I have to get married! I don't have a strong desire to do that, and I think lightly that it would be nice if I could do it someday. However, speaking of that, it is better to meet people around you as soon as possible and get married and have children. It is said (sometimes preached) that marriage and childbirth are wonderful.

Certainly, marriage is a happy and good thing, and I think giving birth is a wonderful privilege that only women can experience. However, it feels kind of empty when things like the above are emphasized just because they aren't really aware of it. I feel like I'm being told that I have no value as a woman... In particular, I hate being coerced by others the most, and when people say such things, they say, “I'll stay alone for the rest of my life!” A sense of opposition comes up.

There are also single women who are very active, but many such people have decent positions, achievements, abilities, etc., and there is no such thing for me.
Most people are married or have boyfriends at work or in private, and I often feel alienated because I am the only single person.

However, I want to use my life for myself in order to refine myself and live my own way, so I don't want to be caught up in marriage or childbirth.
Are women who think this way of thinking still heresy? And do women who don't have a “role (marriage, childbirth, etc.)” as women need different abilities/positions?

It's been a long time, but I would appreciate your advice.

6 Zen Responses

Mother Teresa didn't get married or give birth, did she?
Wouldn't it be nice if we could live a way of life that we are satisfied with?

Everyone has their own life. But beware of lying to yourself.

You probably don't need to worry about marriage or childbirth. No matter what kind of life you are, if you are satisfied with it, there will be no problems. But you have a problem.

Are you worried that you haven't been in a relationship with a man? I wonder if it's okay to leave it like this.
If someone tells you and your belly button is crooked, that would be lying to yourself, and no one would be happy.

Please keep calm and think about your own feelings. It's not about deciding whether to get married or not, it's something you naturally want to do.
Above all, if you go out to places where you can meet men and experience a relationship, your current thoughts may change.

Any kind of life is fine, but be careful not to lie about your feelings.

People are people

I don't think I have to do this now.

Aren't you still not doing what you want to do in your life?

That's because both love and marriage are timing.

Don't think so deeply, why don't you just listen to it when they say it

Metamorphic Boys (Strange Things)

Myōhō Renge Sutra in the twelfth
You can read the golden statement in the title.
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It means that a woman's value becomes equal to a man's value. At the time of Buddha, men thought women were inferior, and women themselves thought so too. In an age where that was commonplace, the world was surprised because Buddha said to society, “There is no distinction between men and women in human value.”
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I want you to think about it.
Not my value as a woman, but more fundamental, my value as a human being.
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What are you impressed with right now and what are you thinking?
The value of a human being is determined there.
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Myōhō Renge Kyō Kanzeon Bosatsu Fumonpin 25
“Love and Respect for the People (SHUNIN AIKYO)”
As explained, if you want to have a girl, you will become a woman that everyone loves and respects
I think it's important for women to become women loved by those around them.
As I mentioned earlier, if your value as a human being increases, people will naturally be loved and respected.
If we increase the value of human beings, we will also be blessed with good relationships.

Is being fat worth it?

Hello. My name is Bouillon Tange, a walking pig.
I'm Boudey recently.
I used to lose weight, but I'm getting fatter day by day.
I also received a request to appear as a pig in the movie “Classroom Where the Pig Was.”
Isn't it worth being fat? No, that's not true.
When I put it in a plastic bag and step on udon to knead it, I'm proud to say, “Oh, I'm glad I'm fat.” That's because it sinks just by standing.
Then I ate that udon and boudée again.
Next time I want to become a tsukemono stone.
I don't think it's Hikutsu, because they have bad luck.
It won't dent. Because my stomach is convex.
My heart is unbreakable. That's because it's thick like ham.
I'm so sad that I can't even shed a tear. That's because it's hot and sweaty even in the winter.
Recently, I feel strangely close to the North Korean shogun.
why am I waving? That's about what I think.
I think he would be excited to talk about food while eating.
I think it's okay to imitate that loaf of bread.
Well, what about you.
I'm not bothered. (I'm a little worried)
You say “I have no value as a woman”, and nobody is probably saying that. That was just a secondary thought after you were told that.
If you're alone for the rest of your life, be as thick as me. Niku has wrapped you up and is warm for two. If you want to excel as a woman, please come to the zazen session. You can really be happy even if you are alone.
You're obsessed with people's information.
A person who can really be alone means that no matter what people say, they don't get bogged down with that information. To that end, please do zazen meditation and see through that you are self-destructing yourself by converting words said by others into information in your brain. Also, if you don't let yourself be fooled, you can get bogged down. Zazen allows even a pig like me to sit on it. bohibuhi. If there's a vegetable I want to add, I'll turn it into a pickle stone and press it. Chinese cabbage is delicious at this time of year.
Every person I meet says “fat fat fat fat nokotta fat nokotta fat.”
It didn't bother me at all. (worry a little bit)
This is because the other person's information is bouncing back. Let's enjoy ourselves. (. -`omega-)

from various angles

In the sense of.
You want to “improve yourself and live your own way”, don't you? So, it says “I don't want to be forced by others,” but I feel that trying to live with that sense of opposition is dangerous. In other words, it's because “being yourself” is not at all independent. In a sense, I'm just getting support from people around me.
When people say, “Right? What you can say while lightly flushing, “Well, if there's someone good, please introduce them,” will repel it by saying, “That's too loud, that's enough.” I should have “thought lightly” originally, but “I'll be alone for the rest of my life!” That's because it's going to change to
Well, if it's a time when the theme is “I want to use my life for myself,” I think it's a good idea to have lots of clashes with people around you. By doing so, you will be able to see the core while removing the corner.