What is selflessness

It's difficult.
Doesn't selflessness mean that there is no substance and that it's not worth being attached to?
So what doesn't have substance? What's not worth obsessing about?
For now, why don't you try to understand “concepts you think in your head are selfish (no substance).”

When you're frustrated due to a short temper, you first have “expectations” that you've thought about in your head, and if those expectations don't come true as you anticipated in your head, you may become frustrated.
That's because there are situations in life where things you took for granted aren't actually taken for granted.

Also, irritability is related to the worry of being lazy.
In other words, “laziness,” such as wanting to take a quick break, getting rid of your hands quickly, and wanting to get rid of your mind quickly, leads to frustration.
For example, when you are frustrated when dating an elderly person you talk to for a long time, frustration is induced by your own “worry of laziness.”
There is a possibility that frustration will subside strangely if you discern the true nature of frustration saying “this is an affliction of laziness.”

The fact that you don't want to be disliked may also have something to do with the “worry of being lazy” to have fun.
The opposite of laziness is devotion.
In Buddhism, devotion is not about trying too hard; it's about staying calm, staying calm, and doing what needs to be done now.
It doesn't put too much effort on its shoulders, and continues to respond naturally, but appropriately to changes in circumstances.
It's difficult.

Nori-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

“Inselessness” means “no substance,” as Mr. Ganyo Kiyoshi also said, “there is no substance,” and I agree with “sky.”

For us ordinary people, when it comes to the appearance of things and things we recognize, they appear as if they are substantively formed on the side of the thing itself and become attached to it, but no matter how strictly we try to search for something tangible that makes it itself, we cannot find it at all, so we become “selfless.”

Of course, even if we say “selflessness,” it does not mean that there is nothing; we are saying that things and things are made up of “good fortune.”

If “luck” depends on others and is made up of being dependent on others, it also means that nothing is made up without being dependent on others.

Simply put, we aim for understanding by explaining a wide range of things called “good fortune,” from the fact that it is made up of causes and conditions, to the fact that the whole is made up of parts, or everything is made up of sense.

It's a bit difficult, but I would be grateful if you could further study and advance in Buddhism and deepen your understanding of “sky” and “good fortune” in the future.

Anyway, as long as it depends on others, I gradually become dependent on others.

With good luck, you will also be able to call yourself a good self.

Even when it comes to relationships, I want to spend my time feeling that we are all thanks to each other without forgetting consideration and concern for others as much as possible.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

　The things we think “exist” are actually just things we have given names to; however, it is true that they “exist”; however, they do not exist independently of our own based on themselves.

For example, let's think of “me.” There is definitely an “me,” but when you call it “me,” what do you call me? When you name “me,” does the object you name exist without depending on anything else?
Humans are made up of countless cells. I wonder if each one of them is me. If so, there are countless “I” within one person's “me.” So, is the whole that is separate from each of those cells “me”? If so, each cell is not “me.” Therefore, if each cell is not an “me,” the whole that leaves them is not “me” That's it.
If you analyze and think about it like this, you can't find an entity called “I” anywhere. But “I” certainly exists. When it comes to what “I” is, we just call it by name. There is no such thing as an “I” that exists independently of recognition.

Whether it is a person or an object, apart from perception, it is not founded on itself. However, we assume that they exist independently. The independent entity we assume is called “I,” and as we have just seen, there is no such “I.” It's “selflessness.” In other words, it's “empty.”
Also, the assumption that we exist independently is called perseverance, and it is the biggest factor holding us back to reincarnation. In Buddhism, we think about abandoning such assumptions and freeing ourselves from reincarnation.

[Innocence] means
It refers to a state where [I] called me, is torn.

Please note that it is completely different from hurting your body and then stopping thinking and becoming bokeh or immersed in an enchanted sense of ecstasy.

If you read the question text, you can see that quite a bit of effort was made in various strategies to obtain selflessness. However, it still seems that your thoughts, calculations, evaluations, etc. are inevitably mixed up as [ego] (ego). This is called [Gassou].

We Buddhists practice [mercy and sacrifice] in order to let go of this [stubbornness].

The self and the ego are human egoism and the spirit of being oneself.
The world is now an exposition of egos. Everywhere and where I am my own storm.
Wars, crimes, atrocities, and misdeeds are all caused by “me,” which is this “way of looking at things centered on oneself.”
See countries that affirm “me.”
I don't care about other countries.
Even if you become a good adult like a child, “this is my first time finding it” and “my morning,” they are really doing it, so the whole world is in turmoil.

That's why Buddhism suggests taming that “I” and “ego” as a devil.
It's my intention to shoot and kill a senior police officer with a handgun if I get upset.
Using germ weapons on children is also scary for me.
All falsification of official documents is my own doing.
It is necessary to seek selflessness precisely because humans have the potential to be selfish in anyone.
So what should we do to become selfless?
Simply put, it's about zazen and completely stop active consciousness.
If you don't touch the computer's mouse, cursor, or pointer, the screen also becomes a dormant screen.
If you leave both green tea and cloudy sake alone, the turbidity will sink to the bottom.

To stop myself running wild in my heart, I need to be careful.
Every time I stand up, it's all a matter of thought.
Most people wake up when they hear news of a painful incident on TV news. I pay attention to that thought. There's nothing wrong with that initial thought. This is not me, but a natural “reaction.”
However, depending on where we proceed after that, this thought becomes “me.”
An unwavering beginning is pure innocence. It's selfless.
However, from there, countless videos related to that thought appeared, and they began to move towards self-centered words and actions that were not good socially, domestically, or in terms of relationships.
It becomes a concrete manifestation of what is called “me.”
The wise know about this and put out the fire at this point.
It suppresses me.
Selflessness is something I'm not doing.
Seeing is what I do. What I see is selfishness.
What you listen to is what you do. What I hear is selflessness.
Developing your thoughts and deepening your thoughts is something you do yourself. What comes to mind is selflessness. It's not what I'm doing.
Please pay attention to the work within yourself that you are not doing. You'll be able to see the world before “me.”