The monk's puja is stupid, so can you forgive me if I refuse it?

My father passed away, and I was introduced to a funeral home, and I decided to leave it to a monk at a temple.
A memorial service was held on the 49th and the first anniversary, but maybe because of old age (close to 90 years old?) The sutras also spanned a long period of time while taking a break, and the same thing was repeated over and over again in the subsequent puja (sermon), and people complain about the world and speak ill of other religions, so I don't like listening to them.

Why don't you refuse them along the way and go home? I hope they will soon be replaced by a second-generation monk.

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I know how you feel, but...

As expected, I can't say “Yes, that's fine!” (^^;)
However, I don't like the content of that sermon at the memorial service.

It seems like they are hoping that if they “become a second-generation monk...” they will somehow be transferred to a place...
When I think about the memorial service for my father, who was given guidance by that monk, I think it's pretty ridiculous.

Changing temples is not unusual in modern times, but...
For example, how about asking “I'm reserving a meal at ○:00 later, so the puja is fine.”
I think it would be nice to announce it first.

I sincerely hope that you will be able to comfortably hold a memorial service for your father on the 3rd anniversary next year (> people <)

Good evening.

I'm sorry for talking to such a long and stupid monk.

If there seems to be a young monk at that temple, I think it's a good idea to ask “with a young Osho” when making a reservation for the New Year's death.

If that monk is the only one... there is no choice but to endure it by thinking of it as ascetic practice.

I will work hard so that attendees don't think the conversation is long and silly.

I'm also uncomfortable talking about this.

I think it's okay to refuse.

Complaining about the world and speaking ill of other religions,
I'm also uncomfortable talking about this.

The Dharma is a story about the Buddha.
this isn't it...

I think it would be better if the temples were chosen properly. This is because our relationship will continue from now on.

I think it's okay to refuse.

　Thank you for your question. I think it's really disrespectful to complain to the world or speak ill of other religions in the Dharma, so I think it's okay to refuse it. I'm also talking about the fact that those who have passed away worked so hard at funerals and memorial services, etc., but speaking ill of it is not something you should complain about. I think we monks have to be careful too. Kusasa

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