How to cope when someone makes a fool of you

I felt frustrated... Maybe that boy also said it in half a “joke,” but... We all have cases where the “casual words” we say make others suffer...
There is a saying “stone from another mountain.” Please try searching on the internet.
Incidentally, the Buddha summarized the “precepts (imashi)” that you must keep as a Buddhist into 5, called ❝ the Five Commandments (Five Commandments) ❞. One of them is called ❝ Undelusional Word Commandment (Fumou Gokai) ❞.
It means “You must not lie or speak ill of it.” It seems easy, but when I get angry or frustrated, I just say it. It's pretty difficult... (laughs).
Also, when you become a female self-defense officer, you may be told a lot of “bad things.” At that time, please be the kind of person who can relax and look at the “poor person” who has broken the Buddha's commandments. Kit, people around him should respect him as a “reliable self-defense officer”... Gassho

Hello, Mikan-san.

You're going to be a member of the Self-Defense Forces, aren't you? As a citizen, I sincerely respect you.
Choosing a job for yourself doesn't mean comparing yourself to your partner. There's no top or bottom to work.
Defense jobs, in particular, are jobs where lives are at risk. There are people in Japan who don't lower the Self-Defense Forces, but Japan is the only country in the world. It is a precious job where people fight for their lives for their country, and it is a job that is particularly respected in society around the world.
Mikan-san chose that job, so don't worry about criticism from some people, and be proud of your work and way of life. I think there will be tough practice ahead, but I will support them to become good Self-Defense Forces members without losing.
Please be our friend. We look forward to hearing from you. Gassho
　

A bad-mouthed person makes a fool of any occupation. Even the Three Saints in the world make a fool of themselves.
This is because the brunt is not directed at me.
Humans probably live to protect themselves.
Therefore, they sometimes make mistakes in that method and try to maintain their position by attacking people.
Those who spoke ill of it were just going there to protect themselves.
The Self-Defense Forces are the hardest job of protecting a country. I truly believe it is a wonderful job that protects what should be protected with calm judgment and a selfless spirit.
“Humans have something to protect”
This is the theme for this time.
Their words, which sounded bad, were also words of self-preservation rather than directed at you.
It's a foolish sense of discrimination that we don't want to be low.
I was sad to hear that too.
It was you who picked up those words, drew them to me, and made them mine.
Even stones that didn't originally belong to anyone can feel like they are your own when you pick them up and take them home. When you were reading this right now, you must have forgotten it even for a moment.
It's important not to belong to anyone like that.
You'll also join the Self-Defense Forces and carry a gun.
If you use that gun for personal use, it will be difficult.
Nothing is originally my own.
There are situations where even what you think isn't yours.
“I was ridiculed”
“I didn't like it”
“Why did you do that”
There are many things that come to mind... and there must be a state where you are not drawn to your heart at the time you are reminded of them.
That is what the Buddha looks like.
Hoke-sama is selfless. A heart that has not been picked up. Looks like my stuff isn't there.
It looks like they don't have a heart for who they are.
Their words probably aren't yours anymore.
It's important to wake up to that kind of frequency of mind.
Even when you join the Self-Defense Forces and get an order from a superior officer, there will be times when you cannot honestly accept it if “I” get in there. Of course, you can think that it's strange when it comes to absurd or strange things.
When you're “trying to protect something of yourself,” what are people really trying to protect?
I think they're trying to protect something that seems unlikely, no, that wasn't originally there.

First, speaking from the facts, the Japan Maritime Self-Defense Force general sergeant candidate recruitment test is not an exam that “anyone can pass.” There are fluctuations in the ratio depending on the year, but there is no change that you will not be able to pass without effort.
People who say negative things are probably saying things without knowing such facts.

There is a famous story called “Sour Grapes” in Aesop's Fables.
A fox finds a grape fruit on a tall branch and tries to eat it, but no matter what, it can't reach its back and can't eat it. Then the fox said, “Those grapes are definitely sour anyway. It's a story about saying “I won't have to worry at all because I won't eat” and left.

When I was a student, I saw a number of people saying “it's better not to go to that kind of company” or “anyone can go to such a school” during the college or job hunting period. People like that are usually with foxes who couldn't eat grapes, and while actually thinking “that's great,” they said that kind of thing to fix the emotional turmoil caused by that opportunity not being their own.
If anything, they were poor people.

Dogen Zenji says, “Those who have virtue should be praised, and those without virtue should have mercy.”
Treat people who have acted without virtue, such as throwing water on opportunities that aren't even your own, with a feeling of pity rather than anger.