I'm so envious of my friends around me.

“You're the one who “only thinks about yourself”! They might get married and have children. But who is going to take care of my husband who doesn't have a job and my parents-in-law who tend to get sick!” Let's just say that first.
It's difficult after getting married, but I think it's better to clearly communicate the inside of your heart before getting married.
As far as I can see around me, people who don't have the feeling and sense of life to create a new world called a home on their own often go bankrupt even when they get married.
Please have a thorough discussion and get rid of the rut.
May you feel a lot of happiness m (_ _) m

I'm sorry.
I think it's probably a state called maternity blue.
When you find a form of stability somewhere due to various concerns, there is your own
I think the current situation is that they want to find an average value.
A female counselor may be appropriate for this kind of thing,
Just one.

What did your husband like about you?

Like you, things like your husband's appearance, education, work, etc.
Maybe.
I think it's different.

Whether you notice that is the question
I think it will be solved.

Humans have endless desires.
Buddha also explains that it actually starts with “comparing.”
Once one seed of desire is planted, it gets bigger and bigger.

It is proportional to your “anxiety.”
So how do you fix that? You probably think so.
That's not comparable.
It's about looking at my husband just the way he is.
Hey, but I'm writing it,
I think it's difficult (; '∀`)
But get over it, and like your parents,
A wonderful one that will raise you well
I think they'll become a married couple.

Flowers are supported by branches, branches are supported by trunks,
The trunk is supported by roots
I don't see the roots hidden in the soil, so no one can feel it
If you are happy to see a blooming flower
Know the blessings of the roots you nurtured

Please have a wonderful home with your own current environment
Please continue to build it. I pray for you.

We exposed everything to each other and discussed it,
Once you're satisfied, let's move on with the marriage story.
It's a matter of my future life and my whole life.
I can't imagine being happy as it is now.

I'd like to say it's Marriage Blue, but it's a bit serious, isn't it?
For women getting married, marriage is one of the most important things that drastically change their living environment. It's natural to think about how to live. Stop working! I live with my parents! If that were to be said, everyone would be uneasy wondering if they would be able to do it. If you tell him that and he says that you're selfish, it's natural to wonder if you can get along with this person.

Since other people get together, there are probably many things going on with couples who seem happy... It makes me think people's homes are nice ~ I envy them. Besides, if I were a girl, my friends would envy me and I'd like to get married. (Everyone does! Me too. There's nothing to worry about)

Income is very important, so let's tell him if I can do it while choosing words. If you're quitting your job, think about your next job. If they live together, how do they live together (it's not that I don't like it, what do you do with the room? It feels like)

He also wants to have a happy marriage with you.
In the form of finding solutions in a positive way ◎
I hope both of us are satisfied and we can celebrate our wedding day (*^_^*)

conclusion. It's a good place to get angry. Please use your judgement carefully.
In the first place, usually, if you are in a situation where you cannot support your wife and children, you should not get married. Don't fall for words like “I have confidence.” Men are strong, so they also say cool things. Everyone takes it for granted and regrets it later.
Your envy is probably a type of SOS signal, right?
Parents at both parents' homes should also be discussed.
Or it's about cutting the circle dogmatically and doing post-processing.
The wedding is not important.
It's important to be able to live with peace of mind in reality.
You don't have to go out of your way to pick up the fire chestnuts and the fire paper (marriage registration).
Then it will burn right away.
I mean, this isn't the time to make a fuss.
A calm decision should be made while it is possible to turn back.
We recommend that you postpone your marriage and then annul your engagement.
This is because men don't feel honesty. There are times when they try to get married just to reassure their parents. I can't feel love for you.
(Of course, my judgment is based only on the content of this question)
This is because it's a really big problem for women.
Having a child is really difficult.
Can he cook, do the laundry and do the housework himself?
Living together at her parents' house is already difficult for women in the opposition.
He's at home, so he doesn't have any stress.
It's a state of constant concern for you.
What I think for you is don't overdo it, don't force yourself to strangle yourself with a nice face,
Marrying a man with no money to live with would be a pity even for the sake of children.
Rather than being envious, it is also possible to get out of there and decline the current crisis situation. Everyone got married in a hurry and failed. I'm worried. I would like to advise you that you know very well that practical aspects such as financial strength, independent environment, and child-rearing environment are really important. It's up to you to decide. Let's not be misled by my words and stay calm.

First, let's have a discussion with him... please start with this.
What happened after marriage would go bankrupt, but now it's a constructive act.

Like everyone who answered, it's now.
The important thing is... let's have a thorough discussion.

Mana-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I've already seen your thanks, but how about after that?

As described by Taiko Hoshi, when compared to others, we are caught in a state of disappointment that we are superior, inferior, superior, lower, higher, lower, long, short... and we spend our time losing sight of what is important in reality, and we end up lost and suffering.

Also, I think that the following responses from everyone will be helpful in various ways.

Question “I don't rejoice at people's success”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/184

Question “I hate myself for not being able to rejoice in my friends' happiness”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/124

Among these, why did the turtles in the children's story “The Rabbit and the Turtle” by Kazuko Amano in particular win against rabbits? That's because they “didn't compare.” This is because I looked only at what I needed to do without being envious of my excellent partner or being scammed by self-loathing, and did my best. I think the content of [・] is very accurate.

It's more about how to look at what you need to do and what you need to do in reality rather than what's around you, and whether you can work hard to overcome difficulties. From now on, it's with someone I love.

As they say “the grass next door is blue,” at first glance, the surroundings seem happy (I wonder if they are called “rear charging” these days...), but there are various problems everywhere, and it can be said that there are actually no people who don't hesitate and suffer.

Anyway, it's not much of a comparison. Comparing them is meaningless after all.

“In order for two people to be in harmony, it's better to be stupid, not to be too great, to be aware that being too good doesn't last long, better not aim for perfection, better lying that perfection is unnatural...” congratulatory song by Hiroshi Yoshino

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho