Is it bad to complain and complain?

Things that have been done won't go back, so instead of taking this opportunity to leave emails etc. from next time, try to complain and complain in conversation.

We humans are called “ordinary people with lots of worries,” and since we have 108 afflictions, we complain and complain.
Using those complaints as part of the conversation and directly conveying the consolidated opinions to the leaders will lead to preventing accidents. However, I think it is also difficult to directly express complaints and complaints. It's the same for me.

It's hard to trust others. There are more than a few people who have two sides.

Therefore, when your grievances are confided in by someone, you can stay firm and prepare (keep in mind) to create an environment where you can say when you are attacked by your opponent, and there will be fewer problems.

There are often marital fights, etc., and if you talk about this, the fight becomes bloated, and there aren't any situations where you don't dare say it?
Similarly, why don't you be a little careful about the conversation while putting the problem that someone will leak out if you talk about this incident via email etc. from the viewpoint.

Or I think one idea would be to ask a close friend in another prefecture or the like where there are no human connections.

I pray that you will be freed from your bad worries as soon as possible.

Gassho

There are plenty of things to be told by “friends” who are complaining together. I've had a lot of bad experiences too, so I can say for sure. I also have to be careful going forward, and don't let your guard down either. Also, since it is a well-known fact that lines and emails are viewed by third parties, you are probably familiar with it. So, from this point of view, it means that complaints should not be made.

Next, let's consider whether it's okay or bad to complain from a different perspective. In conclusion, complaints come out of nowhere, but I think it's better not to raise them.

My husband and I, the matchmaker, spoke loudly to me on the night of the funeral of the former chief priest of the temple to which I belong, “If you praise Nembutsu, anything will bring joy.” However, he is a very grumpy person. I'm an adopted child, so when the former chief priest of his temple was alive, I was always upset about my father. My father-in-law also seemed to be complaining, so he was often upset about adopting children. They both went out to talk bad about their adopted son and father-in-law, so their bad relationship was well known among the monks of our sect. If you look at this, you can see that complaints come up out of nowhere, and it is difficult to stop them. It's like this even when praising Nembutsu.

So, when it comes to whether it's okay to keep on complaining, I don't think that's the case. That doesn't solve anything. There's no way the coach will change even if they complain behind the scenes. Also, it is certainly possible to vent by complaining. However, according to the Buddha's teachings, that act only strengthens the mental tendency to want to complain more and more. In other words, the more you complain, the stronger your tendency to have a bad personality. The father-in-law and son mentioned above were complaining about each other in the world, but I think what was easy to refrain from at first escalated steadily. Since people with different home environments are adopted and enter the temple and become family members and peers, in reality, complaints to a certain extent are probably unavoidable.

The Buddha took the position of staying away from (moving away) from the source of complaint and not complaining. It seems that they valued staying away (staying away) from things. That's because it's hard not to complain.

You can say that separately.
However, in order to become a good person, you need certain qualifications.
It's about having a heart called Bodhicitta.
Bodhi no matter how bad your heart is, is a heart that can steer you in a good direction.
It was precisely because both the Buddha and his ancestors had that heart that they turned the suffering of their lives into enlightenment.
I also have a heart for myself, so the depths of my life, the bitter days of hell, the curse of the demon world, and my worst relationships can now be turned into funny stories.
Just as celebrities laugh at their own bad experiences by talking nonsense, don't make your negative situations just bad.
If you have a sense of ambition called bodhicitta, it gives you energy to take that bad situation in a good direction.
If you have the power of Bodhi Heart to improve, you can complain about your current bad situation in a good way.
“Can you do this!” and “I can't be crushed by this!” You can even get really angry and get excited.
There must be a smoldering heart that you are blaming or trying to justify something right now.
It is that heart that does not leave it alone; it moves forward and moves in a better direction.
Since we're still in the current situation, we can't stop complaining.
Perhaps we should go one step further and move the situation in a better direction than it is now.

Hello. My name is Kameyama Junshi.

You'd better not complain. That's because it speaks ill of people. But on the other hand, we accumulate stress when we don't complain. That's because we're unaware. So what should we do? One idea is to think about an improvement plan without ending up with complaints. If it ends with complaints, it's simply bad talk about people. It's not a bad idea to think about improvements. People commonly called claimers make their own claims based on complaints, but I don't think they suggest improvement plans. If you suggest an improvement plan, you won't be called a claimant.

These are my answers. Please use it as a reference.