Give me back that time! When I think

Feelings are feelings. There is nothing good or bad about any kind of feeling. That's because it's something that springs up.

No matter how you feel, facts don't change as facts. “Give me back that time!” No matter how much you think about it, even if you don't think about it, it won't come back.

So I just do what I need to do in the midst of facts that won't come back. It doesn't matter what you feel at that time.

When it starts raining, “I don't like the rain, I wonder if it will stop?” You should live in the present with the feeling that you regret your past, as if holding up an umbrella without getting wet while thinking about it. Or rather, I'm only alive now.

Let's stop treating feelings that change like weather patterns as “something we have to do something about.”

Don't struggle to overwrite your feelings with your feelings; leave your feelings as you are.

“Oh, give me back that time! “That feeling is springing up right now, isn't it?” Let's acknowledge that feeling while embracing it.

If you place too much of a subject on feelings, the homogenization of “feeling” = “me” occurs, and my alter ego or “feeling” that is taken as the main body is not recognized by others, and when a “feeling” that is evaluated as evil in judging right and wrong based on one's own values springs up, I feel like “I have to do something about it,” and it's extremely difficult.

“Feelings” are “feelings,” not yourself.

It's a story that had the effect of “thinking” like that at that time.
The reality doesn't change anything.
You can feel safe.
Please don't be swayed by the desire to be like this, and come to the facts right in front of you.
That's because there are no “ifs” in life.

Dear Marie

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

It is precisely because you have that kind of experience that you can make an effort to spend a meaningful time without making the same mistakes over and over again.

Let's use it as fertilizer for a happy time.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Marie

I read it.
I can really sympathize with you. I had a time like that too.
“Give me back that time!!” I really understand the feeling of regretting it or thinking too much.

However, the phrase “return time” has no meaning.
No matter how much you think about it, nothing in the past changes. It's not like time comes back, nor does it mean that money comes back.

If so, it would be a waste of time to get caught up in the past and regret it.
There will come a day when you'll want to say give back the time to think about the past.

No matter how much you think and regret it, the past won't change. However, the meaning of the past can be changed.

Let's make the switch so that we think that happened since it happened now.

I spent time and money studying something important.

It is said that nothing is wasted in life, so let's live positively using feelings of frustration and pain as springs.

I'm sure someday the time will come when we understand the meaning of the past.