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“Don't Die,” but is it worth it to me

I've asked this question before.
I'm already tired of studying for the civil service exam.
I don't think I should be a job-hunting ronin and have such a weak voice, but after all, I think I'm a person “not needed by society.”
It's only been 3 months since I started going to a prep school to pass the civil service exam, and while I think there's still more, it's hard not being able to see where to go.
I think I'll die if I don't get a job again.
Death is always on my mind and it's painful.
There is also a mental disability certificate.
Even in between doing office work as a part-time job, I get depressed thinking, “Can't I do such simple things that are necessary for society?” (I'm not making a big mistake)
That is because I said it myself, but in general, I graduated from the former Imperial University (in the humanities) with good grades, and even so I couldn't get a job, and even though people around me went to “good places,” I am the only one struggling to become anything and not even solve simple questions in the civil service exam is very ugly.
I actually planned to commit suicide if I didn't get a job.
I've been working hard at university and in my club to do that.
My family environment deteriorated quite a bit during job hunting, and it seems that my mental state was on the verge of compulsory hospitalization, so it may be a miracle that I'm still alive.
“Desire death” was written on the mental disability certificate.
I also have a feeling that I want to be told to “die” as soon as possible, die, or be told by someone “I did my best, so I don't have to do anything” and live without doing anything.
But with that, I can't get back the amount of trouble I've caused to people around me or worried about my mother and grandmother until now.
I'm filled with a sense of guilt. I'm definitely not a nice person. He's a really bad person.
My self-harm should have healed, but I hit the back of my hand many times with a bottle last week, and when I noticed it, I had a terrible bruise.
I cut my arm before, so it's still better, but I'm scared when I think I'll go back to that.
I'm so scared that day by day will go by. I have nothing to look forward to right now, and I don't think I should take it.
For the next few weeks, there will be something like a mock exam for a subject I'm not good at. It's scary. Your points will determine whether you live or die, so
Of course, I have extreme ideas, and I don't think I'll die again.
But it's very scary. I think I'm completely incompetent and have simply harmed those around me.
They seem to be asking me to go back to studying without doing this, so I'm going back to studying.

6 Zen Responses

rise from death to life

It's proof that you're always taking life and death seriously.

We monks also received the Dharma name, and our kaima (Dharma) has not changed even after death. It means living with the same determination as Ruru-san. The fact that people like Ruru always think seriously and survive is so wonderful for humans.

I have the heart (ambition) to continue taking on challenges in this rich modern age where famines such as after the war continued during the war and the sense of crisis is declining.

There are still more good answers to be seen in the future. Definitely.

I pray that you pass the civil service exam!

You can run at full strength in the 100m run, but you can take a break if you feel that your life has gone a little too far so that you can't run at full power at 42.195 km, just like running while adjusting acceleration and deceleration.

I also understand the feeling of being impatient. I'm sure you've mastered how to study, so don't be impatient and push forward with confidence!

Hurry up and lose sight of that

Gassho

Let's deal with mental disorders

There are people who work even if they have a disability certificate.
However, in order to do that, I think it is better to face your own disability and understand what you can do and what you are not good at.

The story changes, but why not try writing a novel or poem as a hobby?
I think there are also sites where you can post your work online.
I feel like there is a world where only you can write now.

Please don't give up

I read it. I read that you are having a hard time. You are having a hard time losing yourself, and I sincerely understand your feelings.
First of all, let me tell you clearly that you are a very important person no matter what people say or what the exam is like.
People are bound to run into each other. The test is water, so that doesn't mean everything will be decided.
You have been blessed to have received life, so please be confident.
Also, please relax your tired mind and body. Also, please keep up your energy.

You will be blessed with various encounters and discoveries in the future.
I think your own life and future will change and become visible just by changing your perspective just a little bit.

There is a future waiting for you on a larger scale than you think right now.

What do you really want to aim for, and what do you want to accomplish over the course of your life? You'll definitely have a future and goals you want to aim for.

This is a great opportunity, so please take your time and take a close look at yourself again and carefully at your hopes and dreams from now on.
Instead of just where you want to work, please really look at what kind of things you want to use your abilities for and for what kind of people.

The fact that you're not seated like that right now is, in a sense, your greatest opportunity. It's an opportunity for you to really take a fresh look at how you want to live your life.

I sincerely pray that it will be a fulfilling future so that you can take a firm look back at the future and be satisfied with yourself with a rich heart.

And I wholeheartedly support you!
Please don't lose, never give up!

I want to look at things from a broader perspective.

Good evening. My name is Kameyama Junshi.

Even though there are people who are having a hard time to die, I don't think there are people in this world who can commit suicide. The end of “Never Losing to the Rain” by Kenji Miyazawa is spelled “I want to be called Dechunobo by everyone, not praised or unpraised, and I want to be that kind of thing.” A “dekunobo” doesn't seem to mean “someone who is useless,” and “not being dealt with.” Kenji said, “I want to be like that.” It's definitely not “if it's like that, I want to die.” I myself don't have enough knowledge to just state Kenji Miyazawa's theory here, but to truly “live,” it may be necessary to reverse everyday values somewhere. Note, Kenji said, “I want to be that kind of thing,” but he never aimed for an easy way of life, and he has vowed “not to lose to rain or lose to wind.” Looking at it, I feel that we, myself included, are only caught up in our immediate future, and we have to look at things from a broader perspective.

These are my answers. I thought there was something I could feel, so I answered.

[Obligation] You must not do it. I have to do it.

“The Mental Disability Handbook contains “Desperate Thoughts”
“I'm filled with a sense of guilt”
” I'm definitely not a good person. He's a really bad person.”

I see. Are you full of sorry feelings? this is tough... but
There are people who raised you without abandoning you.
There are people who have worked so hard for you.
You have lived your life protected. You have lived your life as you were hoped for.
The fact that I'm alive now is proof of that.

” “I can't die,” but am I worth it?”
You have an [obligation] to live before arguing whether it's worth it or not.
You have no right to take life or death in the face of the life you have been given.

“They seem to be telling me not to do this and go back to studying, so I'm going back to studying.”
that's right.

Don't overdo it

Ruru-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I really appreciate the feeling that you are doing your best even though you have a handicap.

However, don't overdo it. They also aim to get a job in a workplace where they understand and are considerate of their own handicaps. As much as possible, I would like to recommend that you proceed in line with your own handicap and pace.

As one of them, it is currently becoming a major issue, but it is also possible to use the disability employment system under the Disability Employment Promotion Law, which is expected to be improved.

If you don't mind, please refer to this support site.

“Wellby”
https://www.welbe.co.jp/

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho