Even if I study Buddhism, I can't have any personality. What is a good way to develop personality?
I would like to ask you a question, my name is Harusora.
As the title suggests, even if I study Buddhism, I can't have any personality, and I'm even disgusted with my shallow self.
I have been studying Buddhism for about 4 to 5 years, such as pilgrimages (visiting Shikoku and various Kannon pilgrimage sites), commercially available Buddhist books, zazen meditation, and attending sermons and zazen sessions.
Buddhism values the “heart of mercy (compassion),” but directing that mercy to others has become a difficult problem for me, and problems and conflicts in human relationships may occur due to trivial matters.
When I think about why I can't have compassion in my own way, the first thing I feel is an overwhelming sense of unhappiness I feel in my life.
My parents were cold-hearted and not loving parents. I was worried about that for decades (including the meaning of my existence), and even when I went out into society, I had depression, irregular employment, and sports that I had worked so hard on didn't go well.
However, since there are no inconveniences with clothing, food, and shelter, it may be a luxurious problem.
Furthermore, in general society, we often see people without manners or morals at work or on the street, and we have a sense of discrimination against such people.
Therefore, it seems that people don't really cultivate the spirit of wanting to do something.
At sermons and zazen sessions, opportunities to interact with monks have also increased (but I can't always speak casually), and while I want to learn from the stories and attitudes of such people, I quickly forget them.
The reason I want to develop a “heart of mercy” is for the salvation of myself and others (if anything, myself. (←Isn't this bad?)
How can we genuinely care for and care for others?
Thank you for your support, Professor.
