I would like your opinion from a monk's point of view.

You didn't betray me.
Think of it as if your ex dumped you.
There is no need for guilt or remorse.
One of my memories from the past.

You should feel at ease and be happy.
Also, let's wish your ex a happy one too.
Furthermore, let's hope for happiness in all living things.

Congrats.

This is the Soto sect.

6 years too! I think it was very difficult to wait. I did my best.

But it seems like they've only met once in 6 years, and their only letters are on their birthdays. I thought that was a bit uneasy attitude. I don't know what denomination it is, but even though it's an ascetic dojo, I thought it should be more flexible.

Please be happy with the guy you are now.

6 years have passed,
A new relationship was made,
It is natural that it was chosen.

and
Whether or not this choice is correct
It's hanging in the future.
To make this choice right,
It's about making you happy with who you are now.
Just think about that.

Suzu-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I don't know what sect's ascetic practice, but I think if it is an ascetic practice based on 6 years or more from home, they are probably working on it with the right ambition and a sense of bodhi.

Please be a good monk and I know that you will benefit (benefit) sentient beings.

By all means, I hope you can tell me about the existence of hasunoha if there is an opportunity.

Well, when it comes to relationships, there are times when things just don't go well.

After all, it is unavoidable that nothing can be done if things don't go well.

Rather than regretting the past, I want to cherish memories as memories and keep an eye on the future.

Gradually from now on, the way we perceive the past will surely change.

Also, there are probably a lot of things you might think about. Please feel free to tell hasunoha how you feel each time.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

“Even if you go to the temple after a long day, you don't know if you can marry me (because there is a great possibility that you will enter a temple with only a daughter and be adopted by your son-in-law)”
←I think being with someone who says selfish things like this is nothing but a struggle. I'm glad we broke up.
Be happy.

I read your question.
Based on the content, it's the Rinzai sect, isn't it? If that's the case, I'm also a Rinzai sect, so it's the same.

The temples of the Rinzai sect have ratings.
Generally, historic temples and wealthy temples tend to be highly ranked, and on the other hand, in order to become the chief priest of such a temple, it is necessary to practice for a long time.
If you start at home without being a successor to a temple like him, the longer you practice, the easier it is to be scouted, and the number of temple options you can enter will increase.
However, since this is a relationship, even if you practice for a long time, you may not come across a good temple. Furthermore, since the number of temples in the Rinzai sect is small compared to other denominations, there are many temples where adoption of a son-in-law is a requirement.

Therefore, I can fully understand what he said, and I think his response to you is sincere.

Of course, there was a time when I was in the monasteries as cloud water, but in my case, the temple to enter was decided in advance, and the number of years of ascetic practice was also fixed due to health issues with the master and monk. So I told my wife that I couldn't do it and asked him to wait.
However, in your case, there were a lot of uncertainties, such as the number of years of training and the temple you entered. Waiting in such a situation is like gambling.
I think your judgment is absolutely correct.

It wasn't that you betrayed me, that he didn't cheat, and I think it just meant “there was no relationship.”
Instead of looking for something you don't have, please cherish the relationships you have now.