How to behave at a funeral

A memorial service is also called a memorial service. It is a “memorial service to do good after doing good.” Goodness referred to here is an act that is close to enlightenment, in other words, Buddhist practice.

According to Professor Shizuka Sasaki, the memorial service at the time of Buddha
① Invite monks, give them meals, and make offerings to support the monk's ascetic practices
② Listen to a puja from a monk
That's the main point. In the Buddha's sense, “An invitation is highly compatible with alms. It seems that the idea was, “It's better to be invited, go home early, and do ascetic practices such as meditation in the time saved, rather than being taken up by alms.”

In modern Japan
① Recite sutras
② Listen to the Dharma
③ Give meals and offerings to the deceased
④ Do offerings and funerals
The priority is “recognition,” which is the opposite, but if you arrange them in this way, you can see that they have inherited the Buddha's tradition. Since sutras are read aloud the teachings of the Buddha, it can be said that it is a subspecies of Dharma. Also, since the deceased also joined the ranks of monks by shaving and admonishing their hair at a Buddhist funeral, it can be said that spiritual offerings and offerings are an extension of the monk's invitation.

Learning Buddhism, becoming familiar with it, and incorporating it into your life through such good deeds... that is the memorial service for good.

Once you have a funeral, it's not over. Seven days of prayer, death on the 49th day, mourning for the 1st anniversary, memorial service after the 3rd death... the wife learns good and performs in that series of relationships. I offer that merit to my father. That is the path of “escape” that inherits the 2,500-year tradition of Buddhism.

I dare say it, but behavior at a funeral isn't that bothersome. For example, it's about how they greeted each other at the gate of a Buddhist mansion. The main unit has entered the mansion, and about the seat in the parlor, how should we behave from now on? It's the one. Let's recover.

appending
Hasunoha's questions and answers don't fall down like a bulletin board, so it's fine

When incense is burned at funerals, etc., I think it is normal to express gratitude to the deceased, such as “peacefully,” “thank you for your hard work,” and “thank you,” etc., but it seems troubling that this was not the case, but sometimes there are times when emotions spring up that I don't even think of myself.
Especially since it's with my father, I think it's really shocking that such thoughts came through. Since they spent a long time as a parent and child, there must have been good things and bad things. That doesn't mean my wife is going to hell, so don't worry about this.
Rather than that, I think it would be nice if the memorial service was held with a heart of gratitude.
My father is fully aware of that. The feeling of gratitude is also conveyed, so let's forget about the negative things.

You don't need to worry.
In the funeral scene, the keywords “funeral” and “death” were inevitably entered into a computer called the brain, so
It's just that the brain automatically and reflexively outputs relevant and familiar words.
When searching for a keyword on the internet, it is common for the first hit information to be unrelated to the information the searcher was looking for.
It's the same as that.

Maybe the phrase “go to hell” in a line from a drama or something you've watched recently was unknowingly in a drawer in your brain, and it was first output as a related keyword.
Let's take a calm look at it if it's just a whimsical reaction of the neural circuit in the organ called the brain.

　Thank you for your question. It's sad to think that you'll go to hell just because you want them to sleep peacefully at the funeral. You won't go to hell after you die due to Buddhism. It is written about hell in the Buddhist theory Muryoju-kyo and the Sumo Sho Sho Sho. As is the case with memorial services for those who have died, I think a funeral is a place for those of us who are alive to face and think about how we will live in the future. According to the teachings of the Jodo Shinshu sect, it is a teaching where you become a Buddha at the same time as you die, and it means that after passing away, you meet someone who died first. Gassho