About where graves are located

Please tell me about where graves are located.

My husband's parents' house is the tomb of his ancestors
Not on the temple grounds,
From my house to a large open area in the neighborhood,
Set up graves for each household
I'm burying the ashes.
So, when you go to that place, there are many graves of your ancestors.

I heard from my father-in-law that since it's not a temple, you can have a funeral according to your favorite religion,
Is it OK for graves to be on a site other than a temple site?

My parents' house has a tomb on the temple grounds, and I didn't know anything else, so I'm uneasy.

Thank you for your support.

5 Zen Responses

There are also graveyards other than temples

There are also cemeteries other than temples.
I think there are public and private businesses.

There are now 3 types of cemeteries, and there are management rules for graveyards.

Hello. My name is Kameyama Junshi.

The forms of cemeteries can be broadly divided into 3 types: temple cemeteries, private cemeteries, and public cemeteries. Graves cannot be built in arbitrary places, so the place where the husband's parents' house's tomb is located must also be a graveyard belonging to any of the above 3 types.

Basically, a temple cemetery requires that you become a parishioner of that temple. I think there are many private cemeteries and public cemeteries where religion, denomination, etc. are irrelevant. (However, it seems that there are cases where stone stores are designated in private cemeteries.)

Each cemetery, including temple cemeteries, has management rules, so once you check the rules with the manager of that cemetery, your future anxiety will also be resolved.

These are my answers. Let's resolve our concerns properly.

About the meaning of graves

I read your question.

For the meaning and significance of graves, please first see here.
https://hasunoha.jp/questions/31823

From this, it is important not where the graves are built, but how they are enshrined.
Even if it's a graveyard managed by a temple, a public cemetery, or a private cemetery, if you can cherish your ancestors by valuing graves, and learn how to cherish the Buddha through that, there is no need to be particular about the location.

You don't have to worry too much about it!

There are graves like that too.

Probably only the tomb of your husband's family
It's probably a place that has been built together.

In the old days,
There are also many graves built by houses on small grounds.
Building a new tomb like that
It's not possible anymore under the current law,
Such graves from long ago have been approved, so
It's fine.

There are also cases that don't fit into the mold

I think there are quite a few examples of graves being erected on the grounds of homes or beside fields. However, such cemeteries have been moved to temple cemeteries and communal graves, and now there are fewer.

Well, as for the graveyard you asked about, I think it's a cemetery called a communal cemetery or a public burial site. Legally, I think it is joint ownership by all users in the region.

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