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I'm fat, my younger brother's bride

I've always been chubby. I'm exercising, but I have gained weight healthily and can't lose weight.
A few years ago, my younger brother got married, but he's thin and thin. Extremely slim, crunchy.

I'm envious and jealous, and my heart is full of jealousy.
How do you think about it so you can stay positive and stay calm without being compared to your girlfriend or someone who is thin?
Also, I don't like her voice because it's too loud.
I can't help but hate her.

4 Zen Responses

Don't compare yourself to others!

Your body shape is something you create yourself, so even if you're jealous compared to others, it won't solve anything.
Compare yourself to others, despise yourself, and stop being jealous that others are bad at the end of the day.
The more I hate it, the more my mind and body shape collapse. If you acknowledge who you are now and keep aiming for a figure you like even a little bit, you'll be able to stay calm during that time.
I like big people better than thin people. (I don't care what I like. (Excuse me)

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(From the Editorial Department. (Part of the post has been corrected.)

Shikagatoku Buddha Province, Chinese people, different colors, good and ugly people with no correction, “Buddha theory, Muryojukyo Sutra”

There are no ugly or beautiful people in Amida's Western Pure Land of Paradise. They can welcome you regardless of whether they are knocky, small, fat, or stupid, but it would be a problem if they brought in guts like you.

<Additional Notes>
“So what, if you go that far, it hurts”
You said that just one word would hurt you. Well then,
I wonder what the younger brother's wife would think when she found out about her voice quality and was hated for some reason just because she happened to be thin. Moreover, the speaker is none other than my beloved husband's older sister. I didn't say it directly to the person himself, so you think there's no problem? Hey no, are you watching Shinto and Buddha?

<Postscript 2>
This isn't limited to you, but it's often the case that the intention was just to complain a little bit, but it was simply a bad word about someone. If anyone is satisfied with the Buddha's mercy that they want to save, and if they sit sideways too much, it's not really OK to say [the original wish is blurry]. Of course we are both, but please be careful.

Maybe they were looking for DNA that the family didn't have

The reason my younger brother felt attracted to his wife may be that he unconsciously (instinctively) sought DNA without being in the family.
In an environment where people tend to starve, those with a constitution that easily stores fat have an advantage in survival.
Even in old Japanese paintings, beautiful women are depicted in a plump manner. Benten-sama and the god of fortune, too.
Meanwhile, in Japan today in the age of satiety, it is dangerous to become an adult disease due to metabolic syndrome, so those with a constitution that makes it difficult to gain weight have an advantage.
So, it's an age where people who are thin are popular.
If you have a constitution that makes it easy for you to gain weight, your younger brother, who is a relative, may be like that too.
Therefore, if you choose a bride who is easy to lose weight, the probability of giving birth to a child who is less likely to develop metabolic syndrome will increase.
Also, people who are thin may have healthy eating habits.
It is better to incorporate a constitution that makes it difficult to gain weight and a lifestyle culture that makes it difficult to gain weight into your family for your younger brother and descendants.
This may be true in aspects other than how easy it is to gain weight.
As for the pitch of the voice, people who are short are loud.
It's unavoidable that people with a different body type from you have a different voice quality than you.
In other words, it is better for a younger brother to choose a wife who has characteristics that his relatives don't have.
You should be happy as a sister and as a relative.
Incidentally, it seems that adolescent girls feel that their father stinks is to avoid sexual intercourse with close relatives.
Anger and jealousy lead to stress.
People who take care of others for “having something cute” and can rejoice in the happiness of others will reduce stress in their lives.

Jealousy and jealousy won't go away

 There is jealousy and jealousy in the monk world, but the reason everyone is calm is that they live without being covered by those feelings (not bound by 24 hours).

It's not that you don't want to worry, it's that you shouldn't be caught up in your worries.

You've already realized that you're full of jealousy, so it's not like you're drowning in negative feelings. It's normal, so don't worry.

P.S. Women who are healthy and meaty are wonderful.
Extremely lean and skinny vs. women who are healthily fleshy... the supporters are divided, but I don't think that's a bad thing.