Don't die theory

Good evening. My name is Kameyama Junshi.

There are no people who don't die, so why shouldn't people die by themselves? The answer to this question may not come up if you think that your life is your own. If you die, it will affect many people around you. “The suicide of one person is said to have a serious impact on at least 5 to 10 people around them. Family and relatives, close friends, and work colleagues. I can't believe it, I can't accept it, and I don't know how to put my sorrow into words.” The local newspaper where I live reported in an editorial last month. In this consultation with Hasunoha, not limited to suicide, it means that one's own death is not something that can be completed only within oneself because many things have been received about the death of people close to him. It means, “Your life itself is not yours alone.” That's probably it.

These are my answers. I hope you find it helpful.

First of all, I would like to express my sincere understanding.

“Explain theoretically why we shouldn't die”
Based on the circumstances, as you might have guessed, it's hard to think that your wife is really looking for such a theory... I don't think it would resonate even if we monks were to go out and arrange this and that logic. I think this line is nonsense that came up out of nowhere with the words of selling and buying.

Surely what your wife wants is not advanced theory or logic, but your pure worry, attentiveness, and so-called affection, isn't it? The phrase “I don't want you to die”? attitude? consideration? In the first place, I don't think that the idea of rare death held by depressed patients can be refuted and persuaded with theory or logic.

Anyway, let's work hard to worry about them.

This is probably a monk's job, but since Miyagi is far from Saitama.
Humans don't know the essence of what they do.
People who want to die must be repeating some kind of movement in their hearts until they feel like they want to die.
DIS yourself.
Speak bad about yourself.
Bully yourself.
I try to change things I can't help myself.
I try to dramatize the workings of my own thoughts.
“I am myself” is strong.
I'm definitely watching My World My Story.
By making them aware that they are doing that kind of thing, they will be able to find the direction they should really go.
However, there may be cases where people who should say this will be opposed if they don't say it.
Take good care of yourself.

Even if you don't keep a sense of distance between you and your wife, if you don't keep a certain sense of distance between you, you yourself will fall apart.
I don't think sometimes you have the feeling that you want to die.

People are saved by clarifying the details of what they are doing.

There's no way anyone else can understand your feelings, but after all, I think I have no choice but to express your honest feelings rather than a theory. That's because marriage and love aren't theories or theories in the first place.
I don't know the cause of depression, but if childcare is the cause, for example,
“I think the reason why Mr. 00 began to want to die was because I only worked and forced him to do all the housework and childcare. There's nothing wrong with Mr. 00; I am the one who is at fault. That's why I want to continue supporting Mr. 00 from now on so that Mr. 00 no longer wants to die, so that Mr. 00 can return even a little bit to his old days.”
As for my little sister, for example
“My sister shouldn't have died either. I wanted to help. But I couldn't help it. At that time, I didn't know much about my illness, and I thought I would never die. I wish I had been by your side the whole time. I don't want to make the same mistake again.”
These are just words for situations I have imagined without permission, so let's just convey your real honest feelings.
It would be nice if it could be conveyed not only in words, but also in various forms, such as your voice, facial expressions, gestures, warmth, wedding photos, and memories of when you were doing well.
Continuously, of course.
Let's ask the kids who leave the house to call you from time to time, too.