temple system? Am I going to hammer? I'm afraid of him

It's been about six months since I started dating a monk.

I'm not the chief priest. I don't belong to a temple, and when there is a request from the head temple, I go to work at a designated place and work for free.

Less than 2 weeks after we started dating, we lent money to Motoyama because there were no travel expenses. The total amount of that request was close to 500,000 in the past six months. The repayment was partial, but it was there. They say they can't receive alms due to the temple's circumstances, but is there such a thing? I'm in trouble because it also relates to my life. Actually, my repayment has been delayed.

They say it's because they can return 100,000 yen on day 0, and when they promise to meet, they only get 100,000 yen, and what they end up getting is sparrows tears.

Also, I have a very short temper, impatient, and a sharp personality, and I'm too scared to say anything. As for money, I was very careful about the words and ways of saying it, but I was horrified.

I've been seeing him for over half of the month and we spend the night together, but I stayed at a capsule hotel to save money (that money was originally loaned by me), so I wonder if we have sex once a month. The bill for the date is also almost exactly split.
It's not that I don't like splitting the bill.
it's all that far!? It makes me think.
I've never been offered a compliment.

The money I lent to him was something I had set aside to cover living expenses at that time and something I had saved for my daughter's wedding gifts since the period when I was unable to work due to my unstable physical condition continued. It all disappeared due to the money I lent him and my living expenses.

He also goes out for snacks with me with money he borrowed from me.

Do you think that the fact that I'm in love is a good thing that will pay off?

Also, my mother has a difficult personality, and she doesn't listen to me when I hear her talk about it when she almost goes crazy. Rather than because he's a monk, I just want him to listen to my concerns even a little bit.

He always proceeds at his own pace.
He gets frustrated as soon as he asks me questions and is delayed in responding.

I had so much trouble with him that I tried to repeat OD and Riska.
Is he doing that by guessing? This is the one who wants to take medicine. I said this is the one I want to go to the hospital.

I think he thinks about me.
I also think they care about me.
I wonder if there are differences in the environment they grew up in or in their personalities, but anyway, I feel scared by their attitudes and words.

4 Zen Responses

Does it matter if you're a monk or not?

I read it

Are you able to keep a close eye on your opponent
In the profession of being a monk
Are you able to realistically judge your opponent

What to look for in a boyfriend
I wonder if they want me to listen to my own complaints...
If so
How do you want to support your boyfriend

If you think about it for a moment
You might be able to see the direction of some kind of solution

Gassho

His actual identity as a monk is questionable

When there is a request from Motoyama, I go to work at a designated location and work for free.
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Which denomination does that person belong to?
Are they monks from traditional religious groups such as Tendai, Shingon, Nichiren, Jodo Shinshu, Soto, Rinzai, Obaku, and Jishu? Even if they are registered as monks of these denominations, they are not the chief priests. Nor are they temple staff. I think there is such a thing. However, I don't think it's possible for the head temple of the above denomination to do something like dispatch work. Therefore, I think the monk's explanation that “there is a request from the head temple” is quite doubtful.

Ukifune seems to be in a relationship with his monk, but I'm worried even as far as I read the question.
1. You cannot trust people who borrow money and don't return it. As you can see in the title of the question, they probably think Ukifune-san is going to win money.

2. To those who can remake Overdose and wrist cuts, “Are you doing that by guessing? This is the one who wants to take medicine. I said this is the one I want to go to the hospital.” There are too many statements like that. I don't think Ukifune is someone who cares about him.

If you don't feel comfortable with just a clinic that prescribes medicine, go to another psychosomatic medicine clinic as a second opinion and discuss the current state of OD and Risca.

I think it's better to stop lending any more money. As soon as I can withdraw money from Ukifune-san, I'll show up in front of Ukifune-san. However, “I don't have any money anymore.” If I say that, it seems like they'll disappear from Ukifune-san's front. If you don't return the money and are even more careless about money, or if you are offended, talk to the police.

break up.

Hello, Ukifune-san.

That boyfriend wasn't able to live before whether he was a monk or not, and he didn't have the minimum manners as a lover, so he's out.

It's better to break up. Please ask them to write a letter of loan before we break up first. You should ask them to write the repayment method. I don't have any money anyway, so it would be nice if they bought it for 30,000 yen every month. Probably because they haven't written it. Also, once you have the loan written, please talk about goodbye and have the debt fully repaid.

Please do your best. I support you.

Gassho

I'm saying something intense and tough, but...

It's no good.

It feels like the “peony lantern” from an old tale.
It will suck up all of your mind, body, money, and life.

Since there is an individual relationship with splitting the bill, etc., I can't mention it,
It's a big problem that the money I lent doesn't come back.

If you lend before this, the format of the “money consumption loan agreement” has dropped on the internet, so
Let's make a document in a format that looks ahead to civil courts and have them sign and seal it. A revenue stamp is also required.
(Borrowings and contracts have no legal effect)
(If you consult with a notary office or administrative scrivener about money ~ ~ documents, you can move on to legal action)

It may be scary to be told what will happen, but if it escalates, it's a police case right away.

I was violently outraged by saying “show off” against OD and Risca.
Those are not monks.

I was able to feel that you liked him from the text,
I'll say it again, my opponent is a peony lantern. Monks are absolutely not recognized.

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