Everyone in my family believes in a certain religion and it's stifling.

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It is in a negative state of trust against a certain religion.

I joined that religion right after I was born. My parents did it on their own.

I think the teaching is also very good. I often think that studying is very useful.

However, my parents and grandparents are devout believers, and they seem to have a certain level of status in the district, so do they work together at roundtable discussions and halls? help with the meeting? I'm going there, but it's not like I'm working for money, I have negative thoughts like myself, it's not fun, it's not rewarding, and it's very painful from the point of view of being forced to believe.

Furthermore, since that religion has supporting political parties, there are times when it comes time to vote, and there are times when I feel like I don't have freedom to vote for myself.

I also feel that freedom of religion and the right to vote are being threatened.

I've also discussed with my parents that they don't really like that religion. At that time, they pretended to be listening, invited great people in the district, overcame this kind of thing, and they guided us like that! I'm even more disgusted when they say things like that I won't get a reply.

It's not good to say it's an adverse effect, but even when I was told that I wasn't in a good relationship with my friends, I couldn't say that I was a believer of another religion, and even if I tried to enter a temple or shrine out of interest, there were times when I was scolded quite a bit and felt embarrassed when they saw them doing something like this.

That religion has a very bad reputation, and it's hard to do what you like, and if you try to leave your membership, you'll end up breaking relationships with your whole family. As a student, I think it's pretty tough to put withdrawal into practice at this age.

Rather than a clear solution, I would like you to tell me how to live well in the current state. It's become a long sentence, and my personal feelings are so childish, and it's presumptuous, but I hope you get back to me. I look forward to working with you.

4 Zen Responses

SOS

For now, please discuss it secretly here.
You might be able to find some solution tips.

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because it's your life

I read it.
I see, I understand it very well. I think there are a lot of conflicts in your heart, so I'm sure you don't have any very painful feelings. I sincerely understand your feelings and position.

The sense of faith depends on each person, and the person's freedom of religion is also guaranteed by law.
No matter what the beliefs of the family members are or what religious organization they belong to, they can ultimately decide what they believe and where they belong.

If you want to leave that religious group, I think it's okay to make a decision based on your own intentions, explain clearly to your family members and the organization you belong to, and keep a distance.

Faith supports each person's life and is the foundation of life.

It's also an opportunity for you to take a close look at your own future way of life and the way you believe, so please think carefully for yourself, don't be in a hurry, and make a firm decision for yourself.

I sincerely pray that your future life will be rich and fulfilling every day.

If you don't mind again, please let me hear your story. I'm always waiting for you.

Blind Faith Is Also Annoying

Attached to wrong conventions or meaningless superstitions, etc., is also one of the worries in Buddhism.
Even blindly believing in the Buddha may be bothersome.
The ideal is to rationally check whether that teaching is correct.
Nonetheless, we are troubled people who have the weakness of not being able to live without faith.
Therefore, there are sects of Buddhism that place importance on faith.
Let's keep in mind in one corner of your head that your family are people caught up in worries and obsessions, and that they are not saints who destroyed worries like the Buddha, and let's deal with them calmly.

You have the right to choose true freedom

A similar person came to my house to talk to me. Well, my parents came in and the person himself was free to ask about Islam or something that would suit their skin, and that happened to come to my temple for advice. My parents said they were threatening.
In the end, they stopped coming to our temple, so maybe they chose to be taken in. Prioritizing family is a basic human being, isn't it?
But don't you think it's strange?
They even destroyed family ties and made them take part in their own religious groups and even involved in political activities. I can only say that I don't feel comfortable.
It's wrong as a person and as a religion.
It can only be said that not letting them withdraw from membership or not even allowing personal freedom is abnormal.
The solution is simple.
What do they want to do.
After all, they took the political steering wheel and set a utopia that didn't exist 300 million years ahead, 1 billion light years ahead, and treated only themselves as a chosen people, and they forever chased the CG happiness of carrots at the tip of a horse's nose without making them look at their feet. In short, it's a 🐴 piece to make them win by numbers in elections, believers.
“Who” within that organization is happier?
Who is the person who has made a real settlement in his life, and who has learned a quiet heart where he can be proud without being chased by hectic activities?
What's more, because of that religion, you are being driven into transcendental misfortune rather than happiness.
The answer is out at that point.
So, if I were in your position, I would go out with you sometimes pretending to have faith. While pretending to be deceived by learning their modus operandi and know-how, “yourself” discovers a higher level of religion that is not limited to that level, you will eventually awaken to a higher sense of religion and free humanity.
We break up with our parents when they die. Or rather, don't forgive that religion originally. At best, they think it's a gathering, and if they get along, they look at injustice with the momentum of breaking through from within. If possible, I will pretend to be a member of that religion so that ignorant parents can awaken to their true religion, and lead parents to ask, “Why is such a terrible thing being done when it really should be like this?” This is also true when protecting parents from fraud, even if it's not a religion. No matter what kind of cunning cult religion there is in the world, the dignity and heart of individual human beings cannot be dyed. The Buddhist spirit is for “you” to find true freedom.

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