Relationship with younger brother

I have a younger brother who is two years younger.
My brother is 30 years old and single.
My younger brother left home when he graduated from high school, started supporting himself, and after that, I wonder if he would come back once every 1 to 2 years.
My parents are also lonely, but they haven't made a single phone call.
Apart from that, it doesn't seem like I don't like my family, but for some reason I can't stay home.
I would also like to meet and talk with my little brother a little more, what should I do?

4 Zen Responses

It's like that

I think it's hard for women to understand, but men are like that.
I don't particularly talk to my family either.
I think my younger brother feels safe about the existence of his parents' house in his own way. I think that's why they think it's okay if they don't go home.
Please think that your parents' house is such a wonderful family.
I think the presence of siblings and parents who can be entrusted with peace of mind makes it okay for the younger brother not to return home with peace of mind, so I think it's fine as it is.

independent adults

I had that kind of relationship with my parents' house.
It's not that I don't like it.
I think my brother is enjoying his independent life by himself.
I don't like it because when my parents contact me a lot, they seem to be interfering.
If Aya wants to talk, wouldn't it be better to contact her herself?

Where birds leave the nest

Congrats. This is what is called nesting.
Boys usually run away from home 1 to 6 times.
Your brother is ③ now. It's going well. It's admirable. We are struggling very hard in society.
Please send them encouraging emails every once in a while.
Below, for reference, the boy ran away from home.
① “Ola, I don't like this house.” So-called running away from home
② “Ola, I'm going to school” boarding house 1
③ “I don't like this village, I'm going to Tokyo ()” boarding house 2
④ “I'm going to live with my wife” get married and leave home
⑤ “Ola, Sochi (wife) is afraid and I can't stay at home” Marital crisis
⑥ “I'm walking the Buddha's path.” Well, I'm a monk
Keep sending messages.
Whether the other person accepts it or not, please send them your feelings.
It works properly even if it seems that there is no reaction on the surface.

measles

Aya
Now I'm asking a question about my brother.

Well, it's like “measles.”
Men are mostly like that.

When I was in my early 20s, I suddenly decided to work away from home and left home.
I didn't need to leave the house, but I just wanted to leave the house.

I recently talked with my family (now 40 years old, nearly 20 years have passed), and I was told how surprised and sad my mother and aunt were at that time, and I felt extremely sorry.

But since I left home, I was able to realize that I appreciated everything I had taken for granted until then: a house with lights, hot meals, and folded laundry. If I had lived at my parents' house, I might not have noticed it even now.

Now, when I go to my parents' house, I go out with my older mother's shopping, and I sometimes walk hand in hand with my mother, whose legs are a little fuzzy. If you were in your 20s or 30s, you probably wouldn't have been able to do it because you were too embarrassed.

My younger brother may also change when he becomes Arafo.

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