About self-harm

Good evening. I read your consultation.

You're worried about not being able to stop self-harming yourself. If you do it, you'll feel sorry and painful.

But maybe it's because you need it (now) to live. When you do, isn't it a time when you work hard to live?
So maybe it's unavoidable that you can't stop until you find another way to work hard.

Even so, I think it's important to have a desire to stop, and that you're in the hospital. Let's continue with these two.

I think the doctor is detailed about the causes and effects of self-harm, but is there also an aspect where people overcome it by hurting their bodies in order to avoid hurting their hearts?

However, the mind and body are originally one. After all, hurting the body also hurts the mind.

The harsh reality of this world is that it is inevitable that our hearts will be hurt as we live. This is because this world is a world that doesn't turn out the way I want it, and I want it to be the way I want it.

If that's the case, when people have the courage to live with hurt rather than avoid getting hurt, I think people will be able to walk through this world while being filled with pain.

I think you are struggling to the point where you are trying so hard to face reality that you are hurting yourself. That's amazing. Let yourself acknowledge your struggles and your hard work.

I don't think it will suddenly improve dramatically. Little by little, the accumulation of steps will shape who you are in the future.

The Buddha is an entity that doesn't abandon you because you hate, and doesn't turn away from you no matter what secrets you want to hide, and makes a wish to save you. The Buddha still exists today as a teaching that reveals our appearance, and he always works.

The anxiety and suffering you feel is also an important thing that you feel in response to the Buddha's work in response to your deep desire for true salvation.

If you don't mind, please continue to let me know how you feel on hasunoha.

Thank you Suzuhana for your consultation.

It is said that there is a period for self-harm and a period for not doing it,
What kind of state of mind do you have during the period when you don't do it?
I think it's a good idea to think, find, and try ways to amplify the state of mind during that period of not doing it.
Then, if self-loathing seems to sprout at that time, let's just take it away and drive them in a different direction! If you think about it, I think it will be a little easier.

I've always hated myself! You are asserting that, but let's think about it a little analytically. I probably don't like it for 24 hours a whole time, but what should I do to maintain (eventually amplify) my feelings during the time period I don't like much, write down what I was doing during that time period and what kind of mental state I was in during that time period, and when I didn't feel much dislike it! It's about trying to act in your own way. The actions you have taken show that you are OK with.

Also, think of self-loathing time as a time for people to notice your own shortcomings, and try to spend a peaceful time.
One more question, “What kind of life would you like to live without any restrictions?”
If you feel that way of life and are excited, I think you'll understand a way of life that doesn't require self-harm.
Give it a try.
One bow

I read it

Enough to hurt your body
When I think it's probably full of painful feelings
I can't get words out

Even if you don't force yourself to fall in love
It doesn't matter
Actually
If you ask me if I like myself
I'm stuck with answers

I just think
The body is a container for the soul
Suzuhana's soul is in a container called Suzuhana's body
Since the body is a container for the soul
Don't damage the container called the body
I hope you treat them with care

I think the characteristic of people who self-harm is that they hurt themselves, see pain and blood, and confirm that they are alive due to the contradictory feelings of wanting to die but want to stay alive, and feel safe.

People who self-harm don't want to die, they want to live.

I think I'll just go that far. The way to confirm that you're alive is to do something useful to people.

I think they self-injure themselves because their consciousness is too much on them.

It would be best if I could focus my attention on others.

Falling in love with oneself, or rather a low sense of self-affirmation, is also a trigger for self-harm, so the way to give it up is probably doing something for others.

Maybe they hurt themselves because they don't want to hurt people with their own ego. In that sense, it can also be said that people who self-harm are kind.

However, there is a misnomer, but I think it is necessary to make an effort to improve oneself even if it hurts people.