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Should I directly complain to the temple?

I always enjoy reading it.
I'm worried about the temple that has taken care of my great-grandmother's grave since her generation.
About 20 years ago, the son of the chief priest finished his ascetic practice and began working at a temple. This son is a wonderful Osho who has also participated in community volunteering. But I just don't like it. There are two reasons.

One is that when this Osho performs memorial services and funerals, there are many problems. I was often late and misread my commandments. Also, when there are younger relatives, they suddenly ask questions about going on to college or getting a job, and say words such as “if I change jobs to a more stable job.” I'm thankful, but there are many people in the family who aren't familiar with this Osho who are angry.

The other one is Osho's blog. With his real name, he mentioned the name of the temple and wrote about the events and region of the temple. However, articles that are too candid, such as “I don't feel comfortable with these volunteer members,” have also been published. What surprised me the most was about the deceased parishioners, “Honestly, there is prejudice about this (parishioner) occupation. It was written, “I'm glad we didn't have to meet in my life.” I do the same job as that parishioner. Osho's article gave me an opportunity to review my work once again and think about devoting myself to it. However, I also felt doubtful about disclosing such individual thoughts in a place where anyone can read them.

Better yet, I'm worried about whether I should directly tell the temple “I don't want you to be late as possible,” “I don't want you to call out too much to your relatives,” and “I want the blog to be anonymous or keep the content private.” However, I'm at a loss because I also think it might be Osho's role to give advice to relatives (regardless of being late) and speak out to the world on his blog.

The content is disorganized, but please give me some advice.

4 Zen Responses

I see, that's right.
If I were that monk, I'd like you to feel free to say whatever you want to say or worry about. Surprisingly, there are things I'm not aware of on my own when it's dark under the lighthouse.
There are traffic conditions, etc., about being late, so I wonder if I can forgive them if it's up to some extent. But I think you can be careful if you're late every time.
The words against the relatives were also later called, “My relatives were angry. I know you're worried, but changing jobs isn't easy, and I feel that my current job is rewarding, so please don't say that.” I think it's okay to point it out.
Also, since there are multiple ways to pronounce each kanji for kaima, I think it's easy to make mistakes. I was also pointed out by mistaking “sentence” with “bun” and “mon.” I can tell if “Qing” is also “sei,” “sho,” or “shin,” if it's a kakana name I gave it, but if my predecessor or another monk attached it, I was at a loss for a moment. So if you make a mistake, please tell them later, “This is how these characters are read.”
Regarding the blog, “I saw the blog. What I'm saying is true, but I don't think this way of saying it is good because it hurts the other person.” I think it's okay to point it out.
That's because I myself have a lot to learn from parishioners. I don't know if everything can be improved, but I have to make an effort. That's because the Buddha taught us to make an effort (devotion).
I don't know if that monk has an ear to listen, but I'm sure it would be fine if he even volunteered?

Improve as soon as possible

Osho is in trouble, isn't he?

I think the person himself wrote it because he didn't think it was that bad, but after all, hurting people, discriminating against them, and being involved in human rights are problems. Also, since it seems that people don't mind their remarks than usual, I think this is a bit of a problem.

I also have a line group limited to temple parishioners, and I write things and information about events, but there are also people who clearly write personal comments and information. As soon as I understood it, I immediately contacted the person to that effect and had it deleted.

For those who aren't familiar with the internet or aren't interested, it's a state of ignorance, but the younger generation takes it for granted. I don't know who's reading
I think there is resistance to speaking directly to the person himself. I don't know what kind of religious organization it is, but if there is a general president or caretaker, they will tell the chief priest or talk directly to the chief priest, and after all, I think it will become a problem sooner or later if you don't pay attention.
It would be nice if it could be improved early.

I would be grateful if you could reprimand

Hello, nice to meet you.

Thank you for trying to get involved in the temple while being puzzled by the words and actions of the “son of the chief priest.”

I also make mistakes, so I can't say much about people.
However, from my point of view, there is a point where I cannot help but tilt my neck.

At “memorial services and funerals,” they say “I'm late” or “I often misread the commandment names.” If that Osho and the son of the chief priest had been in the temple “since about 20 years ago,” he would probably already be over 40 years old. You must already be a veteran.

If you are forced to be late due to circumstances before and after praying, it is natural to include a notice since you will know in advance. I think it is appropriate to act in consideration of such social common sense and the feelings of those waiting.

Also, since it is possible to anticipate that there is a misreading of the kanji, check with the client before the ceremony begins, which should also be done. We both make mistakes, but efforts to reduce mistakes are essential in order not to do the same thing in the future.

Also, it is inappropriate to say whether the job is good or bad to the relatives in attendance. Once you know that person's background, how far are you trying to get involved? If it's because of the feeling of personally supporting that person's job selection, it's nothing more than an exaggeration to say it as if it were just an idea on the spot. It's no wonder there are people who get angry.

Additionally, there doesn't seem to be a distinction between what is good and what is bad about writing on a “blog.” There is absolutely no need to publish the details of the extremely limited relationships of local volunteers or “deceased parishioners,” or one-sided statements or impressions into public information. Rather, there is a hundred harm and no advantage. It could be taken as an act that would degrade one's dignity as a monk.

Here, too, it seems that they are writing something where there is “prejudice” about the occupations of “deceased parishioners.” It's very disappointing to unilaterally write personal views of right and wrong about occupations in a place where the person himself is not present.

The reason you are being consulted is probably because you felt uncomfortable with that Osho. I don't think that's wrong. I would be grateful if you could repent once. I think that would be better for you. In this case, it may be easier to be accepted if you consult with the temple caretaker.

I hope you find it helpful.

I definitely want you to let me know.

Who is the chief priest of a temple
Thank you so much for being the Naked King so easily
People who go out of their way to pay attention
There are almost none.

It would be difficult to say it directly
anonymously
As soon as I comment on the blog
Tell it on a postcard
Please do it for them.

Probably the person himself
No offense
I think they just haven't noticed it.