Religion and marriage

Hello, nice to meet you.

I'm asking, “Should I find a new guy?”
I will state my personal opinion, so if it is helpful, please reflect it in your decision

If you think about your future with him, I think you need to be prepared to accept both that “religion” and him as one. In other words, I don't think it's possible to choose him and not accept “religion.” I think you know that very well.

I don't know that religion specifically, so I wouldn't go so far as to say “brainwashing.” However, for him, it is thought that “Buddhism is necessary to be happy” has become so strong that it can be said that he is convinced.

Religion in general has its own theory for each doctrine, and the current world or people are judged by that theory. So, no matter how hard you express that “religion” to him, you will always come to the conclusion that it is because you don't have enough understanding of that theory. Therefore, even if he persuades you in terms of “religion,” I think it is extremely unlikely that the opposite could happen.

Despite you saying, “I didn't understand the awesomeness of religion, so let's stop it,” your boyfriend concluded that you “just don't have enough faith.” Yes, this is an example where his judgment always works only in the direction of persuading you from that “religious” theory.

Believing more because you don't have enough “faith” is a common form of religion. In this theory, the position is superior in the sense that a clergyman or senior of each religion who stands higher can judge that “faith.” In that sense, if you think about your future with your boyfriend, there is a possibility that you will have a hierarchical relationship for the time being rather than an equal horizontal relationship. Even in that sense, it is a negative factor in building equal partnerships (note: of course, there are also religions and Buddhism that are not such “religious”: ex Jodo Shinshu).

After understanding the above, I think there are only two choices: “religion” and whether to accept it as a whole or not.

What is that religion
It's a religion that doesn't have a good reputation, is it?
His family is also against it, isn't it?

If you're that worried
Try talking to an expert.
Just for your reference. http://www.jscpr.org/

Because it's this kind of problem
I also think it's unavoidable to break up.

Ma-sama

Regarding faith, in Buddhism, it is not a scheme of “if you believe, you will be saved,” and it is important to practice the Buddha's teachings (Buddhism) yourself. “Self-Lighting/Dharma Light.”

So, if I had to say what “faith” is in Buddhism, it means trust in the power and effectiveness of teaching.

Fostering that trust is also part of the Buddhist process.

Therefore, we must carefully examine each of these teachings and then put them into practice after being firmly convinced, and use that “satisfaction” as the basis for “trust.”

It says, “We should not accept the teacher's teachings simply with respect; we should also accept the master's teachings in that way, so that goldsmiths carefully examine whether the money they handle is real or fake by burning, cutting, and polishing that money.”

After actually trying it out, if you're not convinced or good at it, then there's probably no need to accept it.

Also, Buddhism does not aim for worldly “happiness.”

Of course, if you practice Buddhism, worldly happiness can also be obtained incidental, but if you say “Buddhism is necessary to obtain worldly happiness,” it is an affliction of expecting something worldly in return, and at that point, you move away from practicing Buddhism.

There is also Buddhism in order to leave worldly happiness, that is, the eight laws of the world (gain, loss, praise, blame, honor, slander, pleasure, and suffering).

If it's not impossible, if you still have feelings that make you think of your partner, I would be grateful if you could encourage your conversion by telling them that you have been taught the wrong Buddhism.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

I've read your question.
It's painful.
The person who believes
Maybe they're happy,
From the side,
I feel a strong sense of incongruity.

What is Buddha's mercy
I think it's everyday life itself.
It's not something special,
Of what he says,
amazing!
It's not a thing,
For everyday life,
I feel happiness and warmth,
If that is the Buddha's mercy,
I think so.

We've been dating for 5 years,
Life from now on
When we want to walk together
Also, on that road,
He got in.
In the gap between hearts,
I feel like I've gotten in.

Except for this, he
I think it's a good one.
However,
This is the only point,
We can't meet each other, can we?
We won't share it.

Don't stick, don't leave,
Why don't you just sit back and watch?

Thoughts, beliefs, and religion
No matter what people around you say,
It's something that's going to change quite a bit,
It's not there.

While keeping a little distance,
Why don't you just sit back and watch?

Not two choices,
Until you become exclusive
I'm not getting married,
We will go out with each other.
Let's wait a little longer
Let's take a look.

I wish you happiness.