Can't a person from an ordinary household become a temple wife?

Thank you for your question.
If the income at the temple is low, there are many people who work part-time at other jobs. I often go to large temples to help, work as a school teacher, and work in nursing homes and nurseries. Or become a missionary and go to the head temple and preach at temples all over the country.
Also, if there are fields, there are places that are self-sufficient in agriculture. At one temple, they take care of people who are withdrawn and even help them return to society through field work.
Also, people who are academics write books, and recently YouTube puja etc. are popular for young monks.
Also, I think the number of mergers of temples has increased in recent years. Getting a daughter from a temple might mean something like a merger.
Well, of course, I'm rooting for him to become a monk as the same monk. But if he also maintains the custom of marrying only daughters from other temples in order to secure a parishioner, that probably means he's an unattractive man who isn't suitable for you.
In that case, I think it would be better for you to assume that they were about that level of person.
If he wants to marry you, it would be nice if you could earn some income around that area.
Note, there are probably temples that have a rule that monks must not get married, but I haven't heard of any temples that have a rule that they must only marry the daughter of the temple.
My wife isn't a temple daughter either.
By the way, if he has other things he wants to do, I don't think it's impossible for you to become a monk.
If there aren't many parishioners, you might be able to handle it even while doing housework.

If it's such a small temple, I think it would be appreciated just to have someone come to get married, so I think it's a rare case that they are particular about the temple's daughter.
Does your boyfriend already have a fiancé?
Or are they just using it as an excuse to put off marriage because they don't feel like getting married for a while due to anxiety about changing jobs?
Your boyfriend may not have the courage to talk about marriage until his income stabilizes to some extent.

Hello, NASA. My name is Tomoyuki Somekawa, the chief priest of Kongoza-ji Temple.

I wonder if ordinary people can marry a temple monk.
Of course, you can get married. The only problem is his successor as a monk.
I think the desire to support him even when you struggle is a wonderful thing. But your boyfriend doesn't accept your behavior. I think the temple's successor is more important than your love. I have a feeling that he is an unfaithful person. I think choosing the temple's successor and choosing the temple's daughter is a great ambition for a monk who sacrifices her own happiness to choose the development of the temple, but if you don't have the intention to get married, they probably won't go out with you. In that sense, I wouldn't recommend him as a marriage partner.

If his parent, who is the chief priest, is against marriage, I support him, and I think he should get married even if his parents are against it, but it can be said that it is difficult when he chooses a temple.

Once again, I consulted with him and asked, “Can a person who cannot make one wife happy succeed in managing a temple?” Please ask for the counter talk.
If that doesn't take you, then you should break up quickly and start a new love. It's a waste of time. I don't think it would work out even if I forced myself to marry him like that.

Gassho