About the monks and chief priests

Hello.

I will answer this on the assumption that this is just my experience and my opinion.
I worked as a part-time lecturer for a total of 9 years, 4 years at a Buddhist university and 5 years before and after graduate school. Also, I am in a position where my wife and I have been together for a quarter of a century thanks to you.

It says, “Even when they go to ask questions at the end of the lecture, they respond as if they were yelling, and there are many professors who ignore them even if they say hello.” This is your university case, so there are parts that I can't say anything about, but I've had almost no experience like this. Almost means that I have been scolded for my own inadequacy or inadequacy.

There are many excellent university professors as educators, but there are many cases where they have a strong side as researchers, and there may also be cases where cold-hearted responses or general responses are insufficient. However, even so, I have the impression that “there are many professors” who “respond as if they yell” and “ignore even if they say hello” do not apply to my rules of thumb.

On the other hand. Have you had “many” encounters with wonderful “professors”? Is it because there are a certain number of such people that they think “if I have a relationship, I want to be in a relationship with that person”?

There is a saying, “There are many SNS and blogs where people get divorced after receiving intense DV from their former husbands who are monks and chief priests.” There are facts about this kind of consultation even in Hasunoha. However, when asked if this is also “many,” I have the impression that it does not apply based on the rules of experience around me.

In the first place, I think the fact that divorce is also a temple is a trend similar to general society.
A “monk or chief priest” is a human being, even though they believe in Buddhism, and the person who becomes their wife is also a human being. They talk selfishly to each other and cause problems. They are in a position where they are greeted respectfully and treated kindly at home, but at home, families fight and fart. My wife probably has many things she wants to say to me. It's like a married couple.

The intention is to “have an interest in Buddhism and want to talk with monks of the same generation,” so please talk a lot about this Hasunoha or anywhere else. Along with the ideas, teachings, and ideals of “Buddhism,” try interacting with people who value this, as living people. I think you'll notice that not all people are that bad.

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I am a monk from a family of parishioners in the Jodo Shinshu Honganji school, a sect with a very strong hereditary trend (the eldest son succeeds him from generation to generation). My point of view is also close to yours, but in the case of my denomination, there are many people who wear personalities or people who only lie by wrapping themselves in sweet language oblates. There is also a strong tendency to disdain monks who are not from the family of monks like me. My husband and I are a matchmaker couple is terrible.

However, in reality, it depends on the person, and eventually it comes back to an individual's personality and way of life. In short, good people are really good, and many monks are worth getting involved with.

I think this is the same for all Christian pastors and Zen people. Since they are studying religion, not everyone is honorable as a religious person, but precious people who are definitely learning how to live from religion will come.

So, I hope you think from the beginning that it's a mixed bag and seek out a wonderful encounter.

There seems to be a stereotype among you that boys should be like this or that monks are all good people.

There are all kinds of people, even if they say monks. As the monk said, the negative part is not something that gives you “many.”

However, I also know that “there are good people” and that cannot be counteracted.

After all, isn't it important not to look with colored glasses that you expect “because you're a monk”?

If you expect it, you'll be disappointed.

In any world
To some extent
There are people like that.

Also in the world where it is regarded as a “priest”
There's no reason not to be there.
There are also people who commit crimes
Some people get divorced.

though
the buddhist world is not a competitive world
I think there are a lot of calm people.

I hope you have a good encounter.

Reimi-sama

I have the impression that when people with no original ambition (those who have no motivation, those without a sense of bodhisattva) become monks by hereditary succession, stress also increases during and after ascetic practice, and there are many people who become insane due to this.

In severe cases, such as power harassment, moral harassment, DV, etc., depression and suicide are also facts.

Of course, there are also admirable people who are nurtured with ambition and bodhisattva before, during, and after ascetic practices, and can be respected as monks.

Well, as can be said in any world, even if you overdo it, it's going to be bad after all...

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho