My daughter committed suicide.

Hello.

First of all, I would like to express my condolences.
I can only guess how sad it is to lose my “only daughter.”

There is no such thing as “if you commit suicide, you can't go to the Pure Land of Paradise.”

I believe that whether or not you can go to the Pure Land of Paradise is an exclusive matter for Amida, the Lord of Paradise. That Amida says that Namu Amitabha Buddha, in other words, make this Amida your base (even if it is your base), which always takes you to paradise.

I get the heart (confidence) that I will use it as my base because they say it's a base, and I live a life of nembutsu. I've been told that there will always be paradise beyond that.

In other words, to pass away to paradise, only one thing is faith, and the other elements are unimportant.

I wonder if the deceased went to paradise while being held by Amida.
You can only understand this as you listen to Namu Amitabha Buddha.

It's very sad, so I want to know whether that fact is true right now.
This is what you might think.

However, I can nod that the deceased also went to paradise because Amida is a person who can nod when she says that everyone (this is important) will always go to paradise. Yes, it is only when you can nod yourself that you can feel safe that it was good in the true sense of the word.

Since the monk is saying it, I don't think the way you think the deceased went to paradise will lead to your peace of mind in the true sense of the word. That's because it's just someone else's opinion; it's not my own.

The desire “I really want to meet my daughter” is probably urgent.
We can meet.
They are coming to see me from paradise with Amida.
I was sent to paradise, and I can hear my mother asking me to listen to the story of the road leading to paradise.

Please put your hands together and do nembutsu.
Also, please listen to the Dharma lecture.
You will always be saved by Amida Nyorai, who says she will save you.
I think my daughter was saved too.
Please listen to the Dharma and gain your confidence.

Here is the puja from my temple, so please watch it if you are interested.

Hoonji channel
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCOmSlyUJQ3ELGc5Z_tPNQyQ

Well then, take care.

That's strange, isn't it? really. I can't stop hoping that my mother's sad heart will subside even a little bit.
Why would such a painful and unreasonable thing happen?
What I'm going to talk about now is a teaching for you to listen to the voice of the young lady that dwells in your heart and body, so that you can continue to spend time together, and walk together.
In order to lead both your daughter and yourself to a peaceful Buddha heart, you must lead your young lady to the place of greatest comfort in your heart as an imaginary effect that will continue to appear in your heart. You can call it the Pure Land, Paradise, Daihorokaku, Kabutsuten, or Buddha Heart. That sense of peace and security is right within you.
In order to get there, be led there, and get there together, the first thing to do is to calm down your complicated feelings and painful feelings about the young lady in you once, and calm “my heart ❝ me ❞,” which I want to do for you, and I want to do this for you. I'll guide you from then on.
Sadly, it's so painful in your heart that you probably have a stronger sense that I want to do this for you than your young lady.
Oh, I really wanted to do something for them; I hate the kids who bullied my child, and I can't forgive them. As a parent, that's natural. You can be honest with yourself. I think we should really make those kids reflect on it too. Also, in order to prevent the next victims from appearing in the future, it is OK to set up an opportunity to encourage those children to become proper human beings. You should guide your own heart to a heart that you are really satisfied with. No matter who it is, my child dies, gets ahead... there's no other sad thing like this. That's why, even if you leave that sad heart alone, you won't be saved, so they apply for “Bodaishin,” which Buddhism preaches, to guide your heart well, to guide your heart well so that there is no bullying in the world, and guide your daughter's unrequited heart in your heart. By sending your daughter's spiritual throne to the most peaceful and precious heart within yourself and guiding her, you too will be saved from suffering.
The way to listen to your daughter is to focus on what you have prioritized. I want to do something about it, and I look at the consciousness that prioritizes me because I'm in pain.
“Mom, I know you're sad, but I want you to listen to my heart too.” If a young lady were there, I'm sure she would say that.

Mamamaru-sama

Relationships in this world will continue to be spun off without going away.

It's quite possible that we will meet again in the next life or the next through that relationship. Or even in this world, it's not impossible.

Also, if the Buddha is guided by the same Buddhist relationship, there are times when you can meet them.

Also, since forming a Buddhist marriage is not limited to funerals, it is also possible to form a marriage during various memorial services, or to be tied and spun in the midst of merit (chastity).

I hope you can make the relationship between the two even stronger through the memorial service.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

What is the Jodo Shinshu Honganji school's teaching and evangelism research center
Go back to the primitive Buddhist scriptures and the Mahayana Buddhist scriptures and reread the Buddhist scriptures
We analyzed hundreds of sites related to suicide.
Consequently
It was discovered that Shakyamuni did not make a value judgment about suicide.

eg
There is a story about a disciple called Vaccari in the “Zaakonsutra”
He who thinks about death from the suffering of a serious illness
the other disciples took care of them devotedly
I was only asking how Shakyamuni had studied Buddhism.
In the end, Vaccari committed suicide
Shakyamuni did not blame his disciples for “how they died.”
but that doesn't mean they are condoning suicide
In scenes where Shakyamuni responds to a disciple who is thinking about death
They strongly hoped “I want them to stay alive.”

The young lady was saved by the Buddha
It has been attained in the Pure Land.
I believe so.

though
You suffer
You are blaming yourself.
The reason why various feelings keep springing up within you
I think it's natural since I lost someone important to me.

Why don't you have a chance to talk about those feelings?

From the “Association of Monks Facing Suicide and Suicide” below
Could you take a look at the website?
We hold an “online tea party for suicidal survivors and monks” every month.
I also write back and forth letters with monks.

http://www.bouzsanga.org