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I'm not good at greetings

There were stickers at the store I work at with the purpose of saying let's say hello after I joined the company. I've always been a person who doesn't say hello very often. Or rather, in this day and age, I think there are many people who don't say hello very often. It's not a good or bad thing, and I think it's pretty normal.
I'm currently working in a prefecture other than where I was born and raised. I think a lot of people in the prefecture I live in say hello. I think it's a local pattern.
Actually, it started about 10 years ago, and for a few years, I began to actively greet each other. However, now I'm having trouble with greetings. You might think that you're worried about something boring. I myself have been worried about greetings for years, and I don't like it, but I've always been worried about Kuyokuyo. But it's easy to get into arguments over greetings. That's why I think there are so many people who don't say hello.
In my current workplace, there are people who make me stingy because I don't actively greet them. I feel like I'm being forced, or rather forced. When I say hello, I don't say hello to make that person happy. I think the first thing to do is say hello for me.
People who insult me are older, but they're older, but they're not in management positions, and they're basically elderly women in the office that I don't have the chance to interact with.
It seems like it's only interfering with me. They don't seem to think that the problem is that they don't demand greetings from others equally, and I think they are stupid people who are unaware of what they are doing, have made demands from others, and are uneducated.

I think the way store managers and bosses, who work together with office workers and create an atmosphere where they force people to greet each other, is simply bad at running the store. I'm a 40-year-old hired store manager. The president seldom comes to the store.
I don't say hello to others; I think I should just do it myself.

I'm upset because of the greeting. I'm sure I have my own issues, but I'm also wondering how to do it on the store side.

4 Zen Responses

Greetings are not compulsory

 Thank you for your hard work, Anonymous Nozomi. It can be difficult, but please take care of yourself.
Now, as for greetings, I also sympathize with that feeling. Why do we have to be forced to say hello? If you don't say hello, teach it at school. I think it's your own responsibility when you become a member of society.
There are also disadvantages to greetings. But it also has advantages. It seems that a crime prevention measure to keep people from getting in is to say hello to everyone you meet in the neighborhood on a regular basis. Dragonfly previews and enters a house that is easy to get into. However, when greeted by everyone, they are being watched and the feeling of committing a crime is suppressed.
However, if you are strangely forced, greetings will become bad people. But isn't that because greetings aren't bad people, and they didn't like being warned by people they didn't like? It seems that people sometimes believe the lies of people they like rather than the truth of people they don't like.
Greetings are bothersome for me, but I don't feel comfortable not doing it, and it's hard to move on to the next action when I don't. It's hard to understand people's facial expressions, especially when wearing a mask, so I feel like I can only understand their feelings through greetings. It's hard to go out of your way to ask about your physical condition, and I don't think they'll tell the truth.
There is a passage from Shoho Genzo that says, “Doing good that is recommended by others is also a manifestation of the Buddha's heart.” This is a bad and good thing, but at that moment, my conscience works, and the Buddha's heart develops. It means. By repeating it, on the contrary, there is no time to do bad things. It's an extreme argument, isn't it?
If you just say hello and don't get attention from people you don't like, don't be mean and say hello even if you don't like it. If you keep doing that, you'll be the one saying hello.

When it comes to greetings, the one who starts with oneself wins

Hello.

Have you watched “Shin Evangelion: ||”? A story about greetings comes up. It's currently being screened, so I won't post it here.

Well, in the question, it says “arguments are easy to occur in greetings,” so maybe the “greetings” you are referring to are small talk about the results of yesterday's sports game or pros and cons about politics? Certainly, the teams they support and their political ideas are different, so if you talk about this, you might end up in a fight.
On the other hand, generally speaking of “greetings,” I think it means “good morning,” “I'm indebted to you,” or “hello.” This kind of greeting is not a source of conflict, and I think it's very important. Don't you feel anxious that you've been ignored if your partner doesn't say hello to you?
There is also a saying, “When it comes to greetings, the one who starts with oneself wins.” By all means, even if there is no reply from the other party, let's say “hello” or “thank you for your hard work,” etc. from your own side, regardless of whether they are forced to do so. It feels good. If you're being told to make small talk, you should talk about the weather, etc.

A greeting isn't self-contained, is it?

Hello. My name is Kameyama Junshi.

My answer always starts with “good morning.” “Hello.” “Good evening.” I'm going to start with that greeting. This is because I want to improve relationships with unknown consultants even a little.

Well, there's something I remembered from the greeting. My younger brother works for a private company, and at that company, even people who aren't in my department say “good morning” when they go to work in the morning. It seems that they will say hello. (Probably, when I left the company, “Thank you for your hard work.” “Excuse me first.” (They're probably saying things like that.) However, from the perspective of people working for that company's parent company in Kanto, it seems that greeting people who are not in their own department is reflected in a strange scene. I'm not asking which one is better here, but what I can say from now on is that “greetings are by no means self-contained.” It means that it is an act that always consists of having an opponent. So, if you say hello yourself and the other person doesn't show any response to that, don't you think that person has any complaints about me? Conversely, when someone says hello to you, don't you yourself try to show some reaction to it? If you think there's no need to show any response, I don't think you'll have to worry about saying hello in the first place.

I myself don't know your workplace or its location, so I directly said, “You should do this.” I can't say that, but I myself wrote what I thought about greetings. I hope it will help you resolve your concerns, even a little bit.

Your question itself says hello

In Zen, a greeting is a whole-hearted expression of self that directly expresses each other's current state of affairs.
It's good if you don't have anything or attitude.
A sense of confrontation is created by being aware of the other person or being aware of something they are concerned about.
A greeting is a greeting, even if there is a greeting.
It's a greeting even if you don't have one.
If you think it's dry or something you don't feel comfortable with, that's your greeting. bare self.
If the other person is annoying, there is simply a lack of communication, including greetings.
You can probably read the other person's demands and psychology, so it's about having enough ability to adapt to your partner.
No one can hide “their own ❝ present ❞ truth.” You can't hide it. Even the mentality of telling lies or not wanting to say hello “comes out” in greetings.
It's about saying it to a convenience store and listening to the voice of the part-time worker.
“Welcome”
“Thank you”
The voice alone makes it possible to instantaneously read people's psychology.
Once you can read your mind, you will learn to “respond.”
Both movement and stillness are actions of the mind. Your mentality that you don't greet or act = you don't want to express your heart, don't want to show it, don't want to, and can't “is all clearly showing” = greeting.
Those who understand it can understand it.
There are people who are making a fool of you, but there are also people who have a higher ability to read people's psychology than you. You might rather be the one that has been seen through.
As for your true intention, there may be a mentality of “I want you to leave it alone,” but it probably “means that there is something” to the extent that you want to leave it alone.
People who have no problems can always say a quick ☀ greeting.
If you have the ability to face yourself honestly, your mind will improve, improve, and become comfortable.
If you stand at an angle, get carried away, or run away without being able to face each other, your own work performance won't improve.
You might think he's a loud boy,
“(._.) huh? It's about asking yourself, “When did greetings become a hassle for me in the first place?”
A mind bound by superiority or disadvantage, victory or loss, good or bad, evaluation, and comparison is called the human world.
Don't stop there, go one step further and get out of “that kind of boundary”! My ambition is Buddhism, the Bodhisattva Way, and the Bodhi Path. It is a world where people walk the ultimate path of honest individuality by moving away from the complicated competition and comparison of the human world, becoming independent and independent.