A temple where you can keep your remains
I'm worried about temples that take care of children's remains. If I write in detail here, temples and people will be identified, so please refrain.
My parents are still doing well, but when they died, I think of it as a permanent memorial service at the temple where my ancestors buried their remains along with their children.
It's still hard to leave the child's remains, but I couldn't find a way to move forward, and I began to think that I would like to deposit the remains at a nearby temple I can trust.
I have met a couple at the temple several times since my child passed away. It may be rude, but I don't think they've been trained, and I'm distrustful because they only talk about my own family rather than the attitude of listening to people's stories, and I'm distrustful because they call temples a business. The reason I feel that I haven't been trained is probably because after 100 days, I went to the Shikoku pilgrimage and heard many useful stories from my ancestors.
Of the 3 hour stay, I was finally able to go back to stories like the above for 2 and a half hours, about the remains of the child, and about the first anniversary, and I was able to go home.
They probably recite sutras in the morning and evening at any temple, and even if it's a temple in a town where the doors are always closed, I thought it would be better for children than a house where I wasn't there during the day, so I went to consult with them.
They also have elementary school children, and the story is that it costs money, 2 luxury cars. Maybe I'm jealous; my income is low, but if I'm presented with a fixed amount of money, I'm going to give a donation.
If you were to take care of it, is this really OK at this temple? I think it's safe for children to be close to home. Please tell me if this temple is OK.