What is the driving force behind kindness?

Someone said it.
Instead of moving in search of “correctness,” they say they use “fun” as a driving force.
I think that's the best way to keep things going.

Speaking of occupations, that may be up to that point, but I feel that we monks don't think too hard about arguments for such activities.
It's like “someone who appears right in front of you feels like you can't be there unless you do that, and your body starts to move naturally.” It's “Moyoosu.”

I would be very happy if they worked on it in the hope that it would help someone, and get some kind of reaction. Even though the monk alone has little strength, it should change to some power if it is this close... I think so.
At the same time, it's a strange feeling that our monks are also being helped and made to learn.
The discussion is as above, but for your reference due to personal impressions (^O^)

Hello.

I appreciate your consideration.
Answer: The monk described him as having a “delicate heart that can empathize with people's feelings.” It's a word that only comes up because they are people who feel “delicate” in “human feelings.”

“Being sincerely close to people's concerns” is quite difficult.
It is important to “snuggle up” with “empathy,” but sometimes it is necessary to ask tough questions, and I think that even when you are unwilling to do something to the other person, you will “snuggle up.”

There is a saying, “There are also many examples where the questioner doesn't thank you.”
You've noticed it very well. Certainly, there are times when I'm surprised. It takes 30 minutes to 1 hour to write an answer to one problem. In order for this person to improve the current situation, there are times when they lose their strength a little if they just say no reaction or thank you, even though they thought this or that.

Did you read it, didn't you read it, what did you appreciate or didn't think?
There are times when I think so.

However, I think it's probably due to someone who saw that question and answer thinking about something. Relationships expand innumerably. They say it's just a small part of what I can measure.

You are asking what the “driving force of kindness” is.
It may not be the answer you were expecting, but I'm doing it simply because we have a relationship, and I think that's all. It's not like I have “power.” If someone you have a relationship with thinks it's “power,” then it probably becomes “power.”

I think there are people who take my answer as “kindness,” and there are also people who don't understand anything and think it's terrible. But I just write what I think from time to time.

I think it is possible to “balance” “kindness” and “strength to perform in society.”
However, don't think of your actions as “kindness.” It means that not all people accept that they are “kind.” It means that there are people who take it the other way around. Don't think it's absurd. It means that your opponent has a position.

Don't be dragged by words such as mentally strong or weak.
Don't be swayed by values such as being strong and being human being weak.
Also, “delicacy” looks like weakness, but in fact, it can also be “strength.” It can be a relationship that helps people and moves hearts.

I think so.

Thank you Saki for your question.

It is said that it is the driving force behind kindness,
I think it all comes down to being aware of your own and others' worries and suffering and trying to reduce those worries and suffering.
Awareness becomes motivation, and trying to reduce it becomes an ability to act.

Also, kindness and compassion are described as characteristics of wisdom on how to be relieved and freed from suffering and worry, a strong desire to be useful, courage and a sense of responsibility, and tolerance and warmth.

Furthermore, this kindness and compassion can be nurtured.
Even in a chaotic society, if you put it into practice, you can nurture, learn, and demonstrate within yourself. In other words, it is possible to balance “kindness” and “strength to perform in society.”

However, there are times when people are unable to receive kindness from past painful or sad experiences, decide that they may be weak, or that they are not pampered, and block kindness and compassion.

Even so, by being aware of the motive of becoming aware and the action of reducing, and connecting with people who can sympathize, you will be able to develop and demonstrate kindness and compassion, that is, “mercy.” It's nothing special, anyone can do it by putting it into practice from small things.

The reason why the Buddha said, “Just as a mother risks her life to protect her baby, hold on to a heart of compassion for as long as you have life,” is because it is the most important thing for living things to live.

First, I hope you can understand kindness as described above, then learn kindness and put it into practice. If you think something is difficult or impossible, please ask again.
One bow
PS: Thank you so much for your quick thank you message. “I would like to think about what people close to me can do and work on it” is wonderful. Also, try to be compassionate and kind to yourself. Take care of yourself so that you can bring comfort to yourself with courage, responsibility, and tolerance. I would like to thank you for your partnership. Regret

Nice to meet you, Saki. I read your question.

Saki wants to know what is the driving force behind kindness and whether it is possible to balance “kindness” and “strength to perform in society.”

I said, “You're too kind!” It was often said. Not as a compliment, but as a disdain.
So I thought I'd get stronger. I'm weak, so I can't win with strength. I tried to be strict with my words and attitude. I tried to stand above people by using strong words. As a result, I became a bad person who just wanted to get a mount. I stopped because I didn't feel like myself.

I read books on marketing and the laws of success in order to be liked by people efficiently. I tried that trick in an attempt to get into marketing, but I stopped because I didn't feel like myself.

In the end, I realized that being someone who can be given kindness is what makes me the most. Kindness is energy. I learned that the ability to release the energy of kindness is something you can't acquire even if you make an effort, so you have to cherish it.

In the streets,
There are probably many people who think “a society where the kinder people are destroyed,” “the better people leave this world sooner,” “the more honest people see idiots,” “it's a dirty world anyway, so you can't do it without having a slightly bad personality,” and “in order to protect yourself, you'll be screwed if you're not rebellious against others.”

However, people who are kind, nice, and honest, and have a high level of empathy for others are rare and valuable. Because you can't make an effort to learn it.
Hasunoha Answer The monks are all people who have that kind of rarity value.

I'm just soiling the bottom seat, so I'm so worried.” Thank you very much!” I grin when I say thank you, and when I say thank you, I almost burst into tears, thank you! When it goes viral, it soars up and starts dancing (laughs)
Thank you very much for your answers! There are times when they don't say thank you, and they say, “My answer didn't resonate.”

Even so, I am somehow satisfied just because the energy of kindness was directed through the answers. Kindness and strength are two sides of the same coin. This is because showing kindness requires core strength.

If it's a “society where the kindest people are destroyed,” it would be nice if it were crushed.
If “the better people leave this world sooner,” then if it remains in people's memories, that's fine.
If “honest people watch idiots,” then I want to see a lot of idiots.
I think so.

Gassho

　Thank you, Saki, for your compliments. I would like to continue to answer with encouragement from this.
I'm not a good person like the previous monks. It's far from being kind, etc., and you can't live with anxiety unless you're in harmony with the world. I can't even finish it with pretty words. I'm not good at starting, turning, and ending, and I don't like to express it. The reason is that it's boring. I think life is fulfilling because I'm somehow alive even though I'm jittery, and ending it with semi-pretty words is a day where I worry every time I go home and answer sorry to someone who is worried.
I don't want to solve my own problems and become someone called a jerk. The reason why the counselor criticizes or slanders the monks who answered is because the counselor has no room for feelings. That's why I want to talk to someone. I don't criticize criticizing or slandering things. I still have the energy to live as long as I can. It's not a bad thing. It's important that your answers be criticized. Being praised makes me uneasy. People unexpectedly calm down when it comes to saying what they need to say. Maybe it's because I am like that. The main character is just a consultant. That doesn't mean he's a bad boy who doesn't even snuggle up to his counselors, and he only responds based on his own experiences.