I'm worried about whether it's better to break up with my boyfriend

I'd like to discuss the boyfriend I'm in a relationship with.

It's been 10 months since we started dating.
I'm one year older, but I fell in love with the conversation because they were compassionate, listened to me during difficult times and were kind, and my hobbies matched.

The balance between relationships and private life at the part-time job where my boyfriend worked at the time didn't go well, and it seemed like I quit my job at the end of February.
After that, my boyfriend remained unemployed while searching for a job, and became immersed in card games as a hobby, and recently I couldn't spend money on dates due to lack of money, and I also began to worry that time with my girlfriend came next by prioritizing card games.

Originally, he is laid-back on time, but I often feel that my emotions are being swayed by it and that he is hurting or putting up with something.

Since they just play without work, I can't see any future potential, and even if I feel uneasy and ask for discussions, the situation has not improved at all until now.

Recently, while I'm making the most of my time alone and spending time with my friends and family, I've come to feel that relationships are difficult.
I still have feelings of love, and I haven't really stepped forward to wonder if my past memories will be beautified and feelings will spring up.

If you have any advice or opinions, I'd like to hear them.

3 Zen Responses

Think for yourself what's “good”

Hello.

Originally, it's about relationships between men and women, so I think commenting on whether “it's better to break up” is something to be ashamed of. However, since serious questions have been posted, I dare say a few words.

In conclusion, if you're thinking about getting married, “it's better to break up,” and if it's “good” to stay in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship for the time being, I think it's okay to maintain the status quo.

My boyfriend seems to have “remained unemployed and immersed in his hobby card games” since “quitting his job at the end of February” during his “part-time job.” Even if you can't decide on a full-time employee, you should be able to find a part-time job right away. Being “unemployed” and “loose on time,” I think this is a high mental and financial risk for a partner who will walk through life for a long time.

Additionally, “it seemed like I had quit my job,” does that mean there was no prior consultation? Even though they are still lovers, I don't understand that they don't discuss anything about “work” involving livelihoods. Even if they get married, it is expected that they will similarly work or quit without the involvement of their spouse.

Also, since they already “feel that the relationship is difficult,” I think it is emotionally impossible for them to think about the future as partners.

On the other hand, it seems that boyfriends have good points such as “being compassionate, listening to stories during difficult times, being kind, and matching hobbies.” It's a world where men and women are equal, so if you think you'll support economic instability, I think it's okay to maintain the status quo. If you have a feeling within yourself that you can support your boyfriend until he gets back on his feet, that should be a “good” choice for you.

Please make a decision after listening to the opinions of third parties above.
well then.

Let's break up

let's break up. If you feel like you're being pushed on your back, it probably means that your feelings have solidified within you. If there's a sense of incongruity, it probably means you can feel that they won't break up.
If you're thinking about marriage, etc., it's hard if you don't have a relationship where you both value and respect each other.
To be honest, I can't say that it's better to say goodbye or not, but I think it's better for the two of you to talk a lot about the future. Talk until you're satisfied, then stop it if you're not satisfied.

Cherish your current feelings.

already
Because it “makes me feel that relationships are difficult”
You'd better say goodbye.

I don't want to waste my past
It will be fine from now on
I'm hesitating because of that kind of thought
I feel like determination has been made within you.

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