It seems like it's going to be crushed by anxiety about the new environment

Last week I moved to a place where I didn't know anyone at all. It's a city I've lived in once, but it's a completely unfamiliar place, and my parents' house is in the same city, but it takes over 1 hour by car or train.

The reason I moved was that I bought an apartment, and my husband commuted about 2 hours to his place of work at his previous location, making it easier to get to work.

I really liked my previous house, and I had a one-year-old son, and I actually bumped into my husband quite a bit because I had mom friends, there was a child-rearing plaza, and there were plenty of commercial facilities nearby, etc., but I ended up moving because I didn't want to move.
(Even if you move, there are plenty of comfortable environments, such as a supermarket nearby, a child-rearing plaza, and being able to go to the station by bus)

I'm looking for an interior to think as positively and positively as possible, and even when I move, I go out with my son to pioneer new fun places, but at an unexpected moment, I was keenly aware that I couldn't meet the nursery teachers and familiar moms at the previous child-rearing plaza that I had been going to about 3 times a week until now, and I felt so lonely that my heart was crushed.

I've never been to the child-rearing plaza at my current location, and I'm about to burst into tears when I think that I might not be able to make friends for a long time from now on.

Even if you talk to your mother, you'll be worried, and even when you move, mom friends make things in new places, and even if you say that you're lonely leaving your current mom friend, it's hard to talk to them because they don't really understand your feelings unless you have such a deep relationship.
(While saying that, I honestly talked about my feelings last night, but I didn't blame me and it was a light feeling like I could make friends...)

I'm seriously aware that everyone is constantly nervous in a new environment, but it's painful to feel like I'm living in such a small world.

I am now 6 months pregnant and raising my one-year-old son, and my heart is full.

I want to somehow face my new life with a cheerful feeling in a new life where only anxiety wins out.

I always have this feeling of wanting to be positive and stay healthy, yet it's hard not to go that way.

2 Zen Responses

until now and in the future

I read it.
I read that you were very anxious and worried when you moved to a completely unknown place last week. I feel like I understand how you feel when you worry about it. I understand your feelings from the bottom of my heart.
I think it's natural for you to feel this kind of anxiety and worry. Everyone is worried about what will happen in the future before they live in a new land, environment, or people they don't know. So it's definitely not just you, but the majority of people will feel that way. So it's definitely nothing special.
Haven't you experienced a few such things in your life until now? I think there was a lot of anxiety when you entered school from an early age, when you entered high school, etc., when you went out into society, when you met various people, and when you met and had a relationship with someone you liked. Even under such circumstances, I think you lived your life just the way you are. I'm sure you took it in your own way and adapted in the midst of various encounters.
So now you can live with your family. It's true that anxiety is inherent, but I'm sure you'll be able to live your life while connecting with various people in the midst of new encounters.
I sincerely pray that you will be blessed with a wonderful relationship from now on with everyone in your family, that you can live a healthy life with peace of mind every day, and that you will be able to truly feel happiness and survive with everyone you have relationships with. We wholeheartedly agree

You want to know how you feel right now

　Hello. Cherry blossoms are gorgeous here in Tokyo. Well, holding a small child and having a baby in her stomach, I think they are having a really fun and difficult time at the same time.
Looking at the text, I felt that “my husband doesn't accept my story the way I want” is the core.
When I deduced my husband's situation, he said, “I moved for my own convenience, and my wife is also anxious and dissatisfied. But I can't solve this for you right now.” That's bad, and I think it's a casual response because I think I'm powerless.
It cannot be said unequivocally, but it causes a disgusting feeling when “problems that are unlikely to be solved by oneself” are submitted. This is natural. “No, I'm not asking you to solve it. Why don't you just say “I just want you to know how difficult it is.”
Empathy or resolution? I feel that you are being confused because your response is different from what you are looking for.

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