hasunoha

Is listening to your problems a hobby?

I have a question.
I get people who are worried say, “Because Mr. 00 will listen to me,” and I can listen to the words of people who have been worried until now without denying it, and they say that I'm glad they listened to me when the situation improved, and I'm glad they stayed. Of course, I'm also in a good situation with my partner, and I'm happy that I was able to help someone

Is that “complacency” or “just a hobby of listening” like that?

This is because when I'm listening, of course, I'm not asking for anything in return, and I'm sure the other person was no good at talking to someone else, so I think they're confiding in someone who seems to listen, and if they even deny me, this person surely understands that it's painful because there are no outlets anywhere
I'm listening because I think it would be nice if my opponent could improve even a little
I was confused when they said it was my hobby

Does listening to worries become that kind of hobby?
Do counselors and the like who talk about the world's problems do it as a hobby?

Then, do the monks who answer the nation's problems on this site also listen with “complacency” or “hobbies”?

When I was told, I didn't even think I was doing it with that intention, so I can't move forward anymore

Thank you for your support.

4 Zen Responses

Religious activities can also be said to be hobbies

Monk activities are religious activities, and answering with Hasunoha is basically free volunteering, so I don't think it can be denied if you say it's a hobby.
Religious activities can also be called hobbies in a broad sense.
If you're paying for it as an occupation, it's probably not a hobby, but a job.
Of course, there are many activities that are useful to others, even if they do it as a hobby.

It's a way to deal with someone and how to deal with others that only you understand.

I think the purpose is different from person to person.
My work on Hasunoha is neither a hobby, nor a job.
It's probably a way to deal with someone that only you understand.

Even if people around me say it's my hobby... Well, you're free to do whatever you think, but it makes me feel a little unfortunate, as if something hurt your kindness.

Thanks to you, there are people who have made me smile, and there are people who are grateful. That's a pretty amazing thing.
Thank you very much.

[Correction available] Hasunoha is a place of learning

I also read the previous problem, and I'm sorry for the pain. I don't know Sai Megumi's background in detail, so please feel free to point them out if there are any mistakes. I also felt infuriated when they said it was an “extension of my hobby.” When I opened a counseling room as a sole proprietor, I was asked a question by a professional photographer. “What does counseling do?” and. I talked about my track record of being taught in prison up until now and how I was raised by Gestalt therapy based on Zen. Then the cameraman said, “Wow. I was wondering if counselors were a housewife's pocket money.” Oh, I understand that the public perception is probably like that.
At one point, I heard a core story from a senior industrial counselor.
When I confided my worries about abandoning my clinical psychologist qualification, he said, “I also work at a clinic, but compared to other psychologists, I have received jobs that are useless because I have few qualifications. An elderly veteran counselor said, “Then don't quit being a counselor right now!!” I was driven away by it. My qualifications somehow made me think about myself and the skill of being a counselor.” I'm also looked down upon as a stray counselor behind the scenes on social media. However, I think, “You can think of it whatever you want, and I don't mind being laughed at.” This is because I have the experience and confidence I have accumulated in the field of gestalt therapy. There are people who are good at paper screwdrivers, and there are also people who are bad at it. There are veteran drivers, but I don't think they can beat pro racers. Psychologists and counselors are all mixed up and mixed. If Saie is told that she has a “hobby,” and your heart is broken, you might want to stop listening to it at work or the like. Conversely, if it's frustrating, why don't you learn listening and counseling from scratch? (Of course, Buddhism too)
This is because little by little, we are understanding whether Saie is having a difficult life right now, and there is a possibility that we can arrive at a way to get out of there. I think persistence, risk taking, flexibility, and curiosity are spices that make life interesting. I think the reason why Saie is lost right now is because of her hard work. I think both the garden book and hasunoha will guide you. Teaching, coaching, and counseling are different, but there are parts that overlap, so the answer may be the number of people

I don't think so. because

 Hello. “Is consulting people a hobby?” ... Thank you for your question from a very interesting point of view.
However, in this case, “what is a hobby?” ... that it's free? Doing it for complacency? Something to do in your spare time? I think an analysis such as... is necessary.
This is because even in this consultation activity, you may get responses such as “I was misunderstood by you, but I was hurt... (no response).” Of course, there are times when I get a positive response saying “I see, thank you,” but that's not all.
If I think about it from that point of view, I think it's an ascetic practice that should be done in this world. If it's “complacency,” it's likely to result in “huh, you don't know about me, you're wrong” in response to what kind of negative reaction I mentioned earlier, but I said, “Well... I hurt you or did something bad, sorry. It makes me feel like, “But please come back.”
So is it leisure time? When it comes to killing time, I don't think that's the case. This is because I can see each person disclosing the words “I see, people think like this, they have these values” without covering it up (too much), and I think that will be useful for the management of my temple. There may be a negative reaction, and there may be no response, but I take my time. I don't think this is leisure time.
That's why I expressed my own “way to deal with consultations.”
In your question, “Of course I'm not asking for anything in return,” and I think this is essential. You may notice that it is a burden when this “thing” starts to appear even though “I've taken the trouble to take the time for them.” (However, I think it's okay to doubt that we shouldn't be complacent or kill time. It's not that it can't be done at all, but “to what extent?” That's the problem.)