Where the soul goes

Hello, Bunbun.

You lost your precious husband, didn't you? I really appreciate it. As a male parent the same way I think my husband wanted to see his children, it makes my heart ache too.
Passing away is a human truth, but it's hard to accept. It's painful. But the Buddha said please accept it.

Now, Bunbun has sealed her tears and wholeheartedly supports her for her children. For you, children are the link between you and your husband.
I know there will be hardships, but please don't give in to the hardships and do your best. I will cheer together. If it becomes difficult at any time, please feel free to contact us.

I think the other party has compensation issues, etc., but let's leave that to a lawyer. My husband won't come back even if I have a grudge against him. Hate, on the other hand, increases suffering.
If you want to express your feelings to your husband in form, ask them to hold a memorial service at the temple. You can go to a temple, or recite sutras by chanting nembutsu and themes on Buddhist altars. Then your mind will calm down, and you will be able to feel that your husband is always close to you and your child, in your heart.

And we will die one day. Until we meet in the spirit world at that time, let's have a lively and fulfilling life, raise children, and look forward to the day when we meet. I'm also devoting myself to looking forward to the day when I can meet my late parents. Gassho

If you leave your child behind, let's say you're in an accident.
Your husband blocks every day from day to day wanting to see you.
There's nothing you can do about it, but I'm sure this is what you think.
“Please, I want them to live strong.”
When a child who lost her mother grew up, I realized “there is ❝ motherhood ❞ everywhere.”
Let's feel [kindness] that envelops you from what is around you, the gentleness, the sense of softness, the feeling of being dependable in turning into a husband, and the gentleness and kindness of replacing your husband.
The way to do that is to get rid of it once and for all. Even if you say lose it, you only need to make one wish you have. When humans have a strong wish, it interferes with it and cannot be overwritten.
Dare to let go of the feeling that it would have been nice if this were the case to your husband once as you exhale now. It's not a thousand winds, but you'll notice that the world is filled with a sense of kindness and softness that supports you everywhere.
The world is really filled with a sense of gentleness and softness.
However, human thoughts are getting in the way.
So, you only need to let go of your wishes once and for all.
The soul you have in mind is a soul created by the thoughts within you, not your true soul.
What is the true soul?
To get a feel for it, do the things above now.
You should be able to clearly see, “Oh, I was wrapped up from the beginning.”
You'll be able to feel that they are still there.

I received this question from someone I know before.

An acquaintance “The chief priest. The song Become a Thousand Winds is really popular, isn't it? When I listen to the lyrics that say “I'm Not at My Grave,” it gets a little uncomfortable. I think my ancestors are important in my own way, and I have been working hard to visit graves. It makes me feel like something is being denied that.”

Chief priest: “To be honest, I felt the same way when I first heard this song. It wouldn't be peaceful to be told that I'm not there, that I'm not sleeping. However, I was somewhat convinced when I learned that it was originally a poem written in English and that it was translated.
Where do those who have died go? It varies depending on ethnic and religious differences, and differences in the region where you live. I don't think the words in this poem themselves are necessarily wrong. If you are a Christian, you will be called to heaven, so those who have died will not be in their graves. Your family temple was probably the Jodo sect.”

An acquaintance “Yes.”

The chief priest “A member of the Jodo sect passed away in the Pure Land where Amida Nyorai from the West resides. In my case, it's the Soto sect, so I explained to the parishioners that people who were ordained and received the kaimyo and became disciples of the Buddha go to France. In any case, the ancestors of Buddhists went to the Pure Land (the land of France), so they are not in graves. However, I don't know if my ancestors would say to the family that came to visit graves that I wasn't there, that I wasn't sleeping.”

An acquaintance: “Yes. It would be unbearable if they came to visit graves and were told that I wasn't there. If they're not there, young people might say they don't need to visit graves.”
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According to Buddhist doctrine, it is explained that the deceased went to the Pure Land (French Homeland) far away, and even if they are convinced, I think that the deceased will be close to them according to the Japanese folk view of spirits. There is a saying “watching from behind leaves of grass,” but “shade of leaves of grass” refers to graves. It's probably a remnant of a time when burial was common for a long time. The deceased slept in a graveyard near their home, and they have been watching over them since then. I think that kind of feeling was common. So, I think it's good to accept that the deceased slept in graves and left for the next life as an entrance to the grave.

I will speak from the standpoint of the Jodo Shinshu sect.

You may have heard the story “If you die, you will pass away in the Pure Land of Paradise.”
There's more to that story.
“Obsolescence” means “to be born in the past,” and it means to go to the Pure Land and be born as a Buddha.
Since Buddha is a free-spirited person, he is not someone who was born in the Pure Land and stayed in the Pure Land as it is.
They quickly return to their loved ones and protect them even for a moment.
That's why the husband will always be with Bunbun as a Buddha.
Humans have something called worry, and it seems that when they have this, they can't see the Buddha.
But the Buddha clearly sees us.
They see right through to the heart, acknowledge it as it is, and protect you as it is.
And someday, the time will come when Bunbun will end his life.
At that time, we will meet again as Buddha.
A world where we meet again is ready, so it's not an eternal farewell.
Please don't worry.

The people involved in the accident may just hate it.
However, there is a Buddha who hugs Bunbun as it is.
Just getting to know such a Buddha may open up a slightly different world.
Please continue to cherish the life relationship of your master and come into contact with the teachings of Buddhism little by little.

Bumboon-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

It's too painful... curses and grudges are commonplace, and you'll probably regret it... if I could turn back time... I would think if I were in the same position...

the place where the soul goes...

Previously, I received misunderstandings due to lack of explanation regarding the fact that “karma and karma determine the destination” simply stated “karma determines the destination,” and although it is not Hasunoha, I have received criticism slightly separately...

It is expressed not as a “soul,” but as a “continuum of fine consciousness,” but what is being adjusted so that the destination is better is a “funeral” or “memorial service.”

A “memorial service” means “nourishing (mutual),” and it means cultivating and sharing actions (the practice of wisdom and accumulation of merits) to move towards enlightenment with those who have passed away.

Of course, I think what has the biggest impact on the destination is “karma and karma.”

Let's talk about a little parable here. There is an expression called “tsusugi” (shinsogi) for a funeral, and it really means saying goodbye to the safety of the voyage at “tsu = port.”

So, since it's a boat trip to enlightenment, think of “karma” as a “ship” that crosses the ocean to head to enlightenment.

Each “ship” is different in size and function. It is a manifestation of the “karma karma” that each has accumulated up to that point.

For example, if it is a ship carrying pure good karma, it has excellent functions such as safety performance, high speed performance, antenna performance, etc., and even if there are some storms, glaciers, or ice floes, it is possible to quickly move towards enlightenment.

On the other hand, the ships of those without very good karma may, in severe cases, be only about the size of a rowing canoe, and they may wander around and sink in a storm without knowing the direction leading to enlightenment.

However, the image is that by offering a “memorial service” to lead to enlightenment even a little, it is possible to equip the ship with an engine or radar, show a map, and assist in the boat trip to enlightenment.

Through the “memorial service,” where we are working together towards enlightenment, I hope you can work hard for better deeds and have a happy time.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho