How to avoid getting angry

Hello. It's very difficult.
My mom was like that too.

My whole life was affected by that, and I even became a monk.

But looking back, I can see that my mother couldn't help it either.
That's because I'm uneasy about making a frame if it has to be like this. I wonder if they get angry because they're worried?

But mother and child are different personalities. It's a different path where the way you feel and think is different, isn't it?

I want them to respect their child's feelings,
If you're your limit, then you can't ask for anything.

It seems like I have to take my time and listen to you about what's stuck.

As a parent, I'm concerned about children's behavior, and they just get in the way.

When you scold, it's probably because your child had something to worry about, but does your child understand why they were scolded?

If it's too frequent, you'll get used to being scolded, or rather, you'll learn that you should just quietly apologize. The essence of the question of why they were scolded becomes invisible, and in the end, the same thing is repeated, and it becomes a vicious cycle where parents get angry again.

If there is something wrong that should be scolded, I think it is important to convey it in a way that children can understand.

It depends on the child's personality, so there are probably children who say it's better to say it, but once that's said, they will stop (fix it).

It would be great if you could find a way to communicate that suits your child.
Incidentally, Uchiko said that I wasn't really angry, so once in a while, she slowly said in a low voice, “Come over here for a minute. When I said, “I have an important story to tell you,” I immediately sensed that my mother was angry. After that, instead of saying it in an angry way, I looked the child closely in the eyes and conveyed it, and the child nodded and understood.

Even when I worked at a kindergarten or school, I taught them that way.
Facing children while adding sharpness to the fact that they are different from usual can also give them time and strength to think.

By the way, what did the child do to make the mother angry?

It's the same for me. There are many times when they just get upset and get angry in a loud voice.

I know that getting angry is counterproductive, and that not getting angry is better in terms of emotional education. But at that time, such calm thoughts blow away, don't they?

I'm a 5-year-old child now, but the problem is that they don't eat their own meals and that there are many cases where they play with hands, talk, and play with dishes and food too much during meals.

From experience, I also know that due to children's personalities, they only make them mean when they get angry. But it still makes me angry.

I apologize later when the way I got angry was too harsh. I said sorry for getting so angry. I'll also explain that this was the reason. When I do that, I also get the feeling that they understood something.

But the kids will do the same thing again. I'm going to do a lot. I'm good at both one and two cards.

So not only do I try to do something about it when I'm angry and follow up after getting angry, but I'm also testing it when I'm calm, trying to make today a day where I don't get angry no matter what I do, and today I'm trying to overlook everything else while praising something that was made like a game.

Then, you can feel that that is more effective than when you get angry. This feeling also makes me feel that getting angry is stupid. I think behavior patterns will be updated from the center of getting angry to centered on trial and error.

Even so, when I get angry, I get angry. I think it is something like that.

I also wonder if the important thing is to think about what to do to notice and maintain a relationship of trust and not give up on implementing it.

Let's work hard together.

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My rules. Pre-attack rules.
The culprit this time was this kid, not a child.
You are the one who reveals angry words and attitudes, but blaming you just makes you feel bad.
That's not why you're wrong.
There is just a problem inside of you, so cut it out with a scalpel. ✂
The kid looks pitiful, so don't get mad at them from now on.
Children who grow up being scolded will eventually become people who yell at their parents and those around them 👹.
So, learn how to not get angry.
You just have to find the value of not getting angry.
Learn how to do it that suits you.
('-`) Thank you for your daily childcare. ✨ praise praise ✋ nadena 🌺 good
I understand the feeling of frustration, but even when you get angry, you are the only one that secretes an extract full of natural self-derived toxins from the natural mud of anger. People who are angry and angry go to hell alone in their brain frustration and burn themselves in angry hellfire. Limited to one person. So when you get angry, your life span is shortened, your actions become violent, and there's nothing good about it.
Below are 10 human power deterioration effects roughly created by anger
1. Aging accelerates wrinkles form between the eyebrows and shortens life span
2. My relationship with my child and family deteriorated
3. Irritability and stress increase and become addictive
4 personalities are twisted
Adverse psychological effects around 5
6 Give a bad impression to others
7 mistakes increase
8 Blood pressure and heart rate increase
9 The sense of happiness is running away
10 Mental fatigue increases...
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Now, what is the cause of anger?
There must be stories and expectations that “I want you to do what I want” ahead of you.
This is a standalone preset for self.
That's because “only” people who have my rules get angry even if the same thing happens.
It's like people whose expectations for restaurants are too high are selfishly disappointed.

solution
Don't put your ideals, expectations, or your own rules ahead of time.
Let's deal with it with the feeling of watching over and hitting back in a better direction.
The awesomeness of table tennis players is their agility and the ability to instantly hit any difficult ball back in a better direction.
When action happens in the future, think of it as a test ball thrown by your opponent.
Then, they save and guide them in a better direction with Bodhi Heart, which is the Buddhist religious spirit. This is called good leadership. I also keep chicks indoors now, and they are full of poop (pseudonyms) all over the place. If that's enough, just mindlessly clean up with minimal action.