What will happen if I give birth?

Hello. What will happen if I give birth?

My husband wants children, but I'm hesitant about having children because the couple can't discuss it at all.

What's your current salary? → I can't say
What are my current savings? →I don't know much
About my current job → I'm running a store in March of this year, so stop working and help out. After all, I quit management in April, look for a job. I might be unemployed next year (laughs) If I don't choose May, my job will be decided, right? I want to do what I like (choose a job) that much? When it comes to divorce, it's like this.

I suddenly had utility payments last week too, so lend me 50,000! So if you want me to tell me the breakdown, I don't know, it's a hassle! It was (angry).

The person himself is serious and is working hard at his current job, and he also helps with housework. However, it seems difficult to think about the future, reflect, explain, and persuade. There's no offense, so why wouldn't she have children either... I think they're worried that if they have children, they'll definitely be happy.
I'm not stubbornly taking birth control, and even though I wanted a natural pregnancy, I wasn't able to get pregnant, so there is a possibility of infertility. My life has gotten worse now, so I'm taking birth control.

What will happen if I give birth?

3 Zen Responses

If I don't even get into debt, I'll be able to do anything

If you don't get your head around due to debt, your life will be difficult.
If that's not the case, you won't starve to death just because you have children.
Once a child is born, a monthly child allowance of 15,000 yen will be paid.
There are probably many municipalities where medical expenses for children are also free when they are small.
If both husband and wife lose their jobs and are penniless, they may be able to receive welfare.
So, if your life becomes difficult, talk to the government office before getting into debt.
As long as you are in Japan, there is a system so that no matter how many children you have, you don't starve to death.
What is important is to live a life that suits your height (not to get into unreasonable debts) and for the couple to live a cheerful and peaceful life.
Also, worst of all, if you go bankrupt yourself, your debts will become charitable, but utility bills and taxes won't be chargeful, so don't be delinquent and pay them seriously, and if that makes your life difficult, talk to the government office.

It's important to do something

I read the question. Frankly speaking, I think it's better to focus on “doing something” rather than “if you give birth, you'll be able to do something about it.”

What to “do something about” is the relationship between you and your husband. The explanation seems troublesome, but if the explanation in the story is bothersome, I think it would be good to have them explain it in writing.

Let's have a conversation with the couple. One consideration is to devise a way to listen to your story. Maybe it's a conversation where it's hard for my husband to move forward with the conversation? Conversations between husband and wife are important, but I think there are things that aren't going well because they don't notice. I think it's important to think about that carefully and make it easier for both of us to talk to each other.

Please take it into consideration.

It won't get better

It's not good even if you give birth.
Rather, your love will be directed more towards your child than your husband, and your marital relationship may deteriorate.

Doesn't it suit you as a life partner?
You don't hate it, but you can't live at ease, so why don't you break up? Why don't you try saying that?
If your husband is sorry, use that as proof of that, you can negotiate so that you can manage your household finances.

Anyway, they're a married couple, so don't forget their gentle smiles and kind words.

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