hasunoha

Soka Gakkai

My mother is a member of the Soka Gakkai.
That's almost always the case in my mother's family.

Honestly speaking, I want them to quit, but my opinion is that it would be good if the person himself was saved.
However, it's unbearable for me to be forced upon my own ideas.

I love history, and I'm also very interested in Buddhism because of that trend.
But that's a secret from my mother.
That's because for my mother, Soka Gakkai is unexpectedly all evil.

How should I talk to my mom so she can understand?
I want you to know that I am me.
Even though I don't want to deny what my mother believes, my mother denies everything.
Isn't this something you can understand?

It's a problem I've been having for decades.
When it comes to the Soka Gakkai, I felt like I wouldn't be able to get a consultation, but I took the plunge and posted it.

4 Zen Responses

Start by acknowledging each other

The Soka Gakkai is also derived from Nichiren Shoshu, so there is a Buddhist context.

Also, they are very eager to study, and there are even academic members who are more familiar with Buddhism than monks. Theoretical weapons are quite strong. Also, it has a strong inspirational power. That's because they even solicit me as a monk.

It is also possible to confront them with further theoretical weapons, but I don't recommend it because it would cause conflict.

They should not deny Buddhism. Because without Buddhism, they wouldn't exist.

Buddhism proclaims unreasonable conversion and blind belief. Faith after understanding
I recommend it. In that sense

We also solemnly acknowledge that they are, and they must acknowledge others other than them.
Otherwise, the reason for the existence of the Soka Gakkai will collapse. It's a monotheistic doctrine.

Why don't you try seeking understanding on top of that?
First, that was the breakthrough.

I know it's going to be tough, but I support you.

You should just be a person

There are Zen questions and answers like this.
Q “Why are there walls separating religions and denominations even though they are the same people?”
A “(clap your hands) can you hear this because it's the Shingon sect, can't it be heard by the Tendai sect, and is the way it sounds different from ours in the Soka Gakkai?”
Q “No, it sounds the same to everyone”
A “Well, (point your finger) is this invisible to people of the Rinzai sect, is it only visible to people in the Jodo sect, or is there something that looks like a song in the Nichiren sect?”
Q “That's not true. It looks equally good on everyone.”
A “Well, where are the ants?”
Q “It's in my heart”
A “Whose Heart Is That Divide?”
Q “It seemed like I had that gap”
A “Yes, if you remove the separation, then there are no sectarian barriers there. The sect is the foundation of human beings. The essential effects are the same across sectarian divisions. You should treat it for the sect (Omoto). You should realize that there is no division between the Sect (Omoto)”
Thank you, Mr. Q, etc.
Who is A do you value listen to it from the standpoint of the Soto sect
Q No, this mind and body have no problems with the Soto sect, denomination, or religion. Even if they are monks belonging to the Soto sect, Obaku sect, or the Jodo Shinshu sect, there will be a gap if you grasp that our sect is the only one
In A what sect and what are you
Q That kind of thing is an afterthought; it just causes humans to sort things out later
A is right, you should go to the heart of a kindly human being called the meaning of the religion

There is a coffee shop nearby, and it seems that the owner is a professor class at the Soka Gakkai.
We go and talk once in a while.
It's just the coffee I get. There were times when I was baptized for close to an hour, but since I know who he is, I keep a reasonable sense of distance and treat them as just people.
The only thing I get there is pure coffee that is not steeped in any religion or denomination.
My friend is an insurance company. We're not friends when sales are loud. We do not provide insurance. The person I'm dealing with is just a friend who isn't an insurance agent, just a person.
It would be nice if we just became people.
The Buddha didn't set up any walls to separate them. Become just a person. That is Buddha.

What is “right”

Hachi-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I can't go into much detail here, but I had several opportunities to talk with people who have joined a new Buddhist religion a few years ago.

There were times when they exchanged legal arguments with each other, but as a result, they were unable to understand each other and parted ways on a parallel line.

However, after talking with each other, we also learned a lot. Also, I knew that person was working hard to live with their own thoughts and beliefs. But that was something I could also say to myself. He is still an immature person who is still a young student, but it is said that he is a humble student living with ideas and beliefs while learning and practicing Buddhism in general. It also means believing that each other's thoughts, thoughts, and beliefs are correct.

However, the problem is its “correctness.” Troublingly, “correctness” is relative, and value judgments are also easily influenced by individuals, society, countries, times, etc. Also, what “absolute correctness” is something that cannot be decided at all by self-righteousness or complacency, etc., and since everyone admits it, even if you say “correct,” it can even be naturally overturned if a firm disproof comes out.

What I thought here was, “Whether it's a traditional religion or a new religion, it is important to always rationally and sufficiently verify whether that way of thinking is correct.”

Going back to the story a bit, I think it would be good for both mother and Hachi-sama to be able to discuss with each other as much as possible, estimate the extent to which mutual understanding is possible, and treat them in a balanced manner while properly sorting out the parts they can walk up to and the parts they can't get along with. Among them, I know that if it becomes impossible no matter what, leaving one's parents and becoming physically and mentally independent will become one thing.

However, as long as everyone has “freedom of religion,” I don't think that national power, authority figures, or parents should force their faith, and I'm also considering whether acts based on that faith are antisocial or criminal.

I pray for good fortune.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

Let's cherish the parts we can understand.

Understanding each other means that we acknowledge each other.
Since they are parents and children, I think it is possible to acknowledge each other “as parents...” and “as children...”
I think there are parts we can understand and acknowledge.

However, what has become a problem for Hachi is not “as a person...”
In religion, the “state of life,” “where life is headed,” and in modern terms, the “spiritual” part has become an issue.
The concepts of each religion in “life” are very different and cannot be shared.

For example, Buddhism preaches the Rikudō Reincarnation and denies the existence of spirits.
However, on the other hand, there is a religion that says that when you die, you become a psychic being.
It is impossible to share and accept this concept, which is the complete opposite.
I can only walk away and say, “That's what their religion thinks...”

Religion defines this “spiritual” part with various arguments.
In the case of Buddhism, the argument is sutras.
It is defined as “the Buddha preached this in the ○○ sutra.”
Therefore, it is troublesome to be confronted with something defined based on a different argument.

There is no point in questioning the pros and cons of the Soka Gakkai.
I recommend leaving the faith part untouched.
Rather than treating things you don't understand as a problem, let's value the parts you can understand.
The day may come when we can understand each other.
Please take good care of the parent-child relationship.