Please help

Hello. This is a guy in his third year of high school.

This is my first time asking a question, and I'm asking about how to live. First, I don't have any dreams for the future. However, due to the parents' work, the story is progressing as a matter of course that they will inherit. They tell me to live my life by doing what I love, but I have a strong sense of responsibility, and I want to inherit it. However, I couldn't concentrate on my studies, and my grades weren't good at all until now. I'm aware that it's not an occupation I can get into with half-hearted effort, but something stuck in me, and I can't concentrate on my studies easily, so I just play games on my smartphone all the time. Even though I knew this wasn't enough, I repeated the same thing and ended up at this time of year. My parents have told me that if you like games that much, try becoming a professional game player, etc., but I'm so bad at games that my friends around me scold me, and I know I can't do it myself.

There's nothing I can do about this. They are untalented people, and if they continue like this, they will gnaw at their parents' knuckles. I just want to avoid that, so in that case I'm prepared to complete my own life, even if I'm told to run away.

Going back to the story, school is troublesome, my close friends chill out when it's time for games, I'm not good at games, I'm always bothering my parents, and I feel guilty that I was really born.

How should I live my life from now on? Around this time, I was just thinking about this kind of thing and had repeated hives and headaches, and I didn't want to ask for help from people around me, so I just asked the question here. I'm sorry I wrote this for so long. There's still not enough to write, but that's all I can think of right now, so I'll finish it. Please help me. I would be grateful if you could give me some advice in the long run.

I'm sorry for the long ramble.

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There is a way for those who believe in their potential

Hello, Rio-san

I think it's natural that you don't have dreams for the future; I think it's rare to have dreams when you're a student, and in your teens, there are overwhelmingly few opportunities to know what kind of jobs there are in the world, what kind of people and values they have

The first thing to do is meet as many people as possible, and as you experience various things, the people you are good at will tell you, and as you experience various things, what you are good at and what you like will come out, and since your personality will be refined, rio-san's collaborators will also come out, so it's probably better to take over the job or throw yourself into another job after that time, and walk the path you believe in

Also, I think it's fine to work with games, but there are many jobs at game companies, and even if you're not good at games themselves, wouldn't it be good to have ideas? There are various roles and jobs even in one occupation, such as people who make games, people who produce games, people who sell games, and people who investigate people who play games, etc.

Once something you like or what you want to aim for comes up, the next step is to determine what (what kind of results) you want to get through that, and think (there are many ways) to get there

There will always be a way for those who believe in their potential, as long as you believe in them.

Also, it is said that they can't study very well, but don't worry, you can study even after leaving school (laughs)
On the contrary, if you can discover what you like, you can study only what you like.
Also, I said that if you develop your humanity and personality well, collaborators can be formed; yes, you should use someone who is smarter than you as your brain, and everyone who accomplishes something big and wonderful does that.

A wonderful life is nurtured in relationships with people, and since Nashio is about to start by graduating from school, I would like to suggest that you gather your courage and jump into a world that Nashio doesn't know, or try searching for ways to have lots of relationships with people.

Of course, many problems also arise in relationships with people, but keep in mind that this is the grinding stone for nurturing your humanity.

It's not about playing games, it's about learning through games.

Even games are useful depending on how you use them.
You can learn how to apply them to work, effective ideas, and learn the ability to cope with agility.
However, at some point, everyone will leave the game or the two-dimensional world and face reality at the end.
We should deal with reality as soon as possible.
“What should I do now?”
Women who are newspaper delivery workers over 70
They said, “I'm not just delivering newspapers while delivering newspapers.”
They are doing “themselves” while delivering newspapers.
Look, listen, feel, think, and freak out.
While doing that, it makes everything work.
Those of you who are watching this answer right now are doing you too.
Even if you have one textbook at school, what do you learn there? What are they doing? What will we learn there?
Isn't it really useless to just play games while playing games?
Don't let them play games. I learn from it and use it in my life.
Smartphone games simply give pleasure by using people's small sense of accomplishment.
After all, it's within the rules decided by people.
You've probably finished swimming there, so it's time to leave the small pond and get ready to jump out into a big river, lake, or ocean.
Once again, what are you really doing?
What are you doing by just playing games and avoiding talking to your parents?
The only thing I can say with all my heart is whether Ah is there. If so, there's no problem.
What should we do? By really asking that, you'll be able to delete the game app right away, and you should be able to talk to your parents.
“What should I do now?”

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